SATURDAY SPANKS and BILLION DOLLARS DADDIES: JENNIE 3!

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Welcome to the Saturday Spanks Blog Hop and Silver Daggers Blog Tour!

BHR is hosting tons of absolutely amazing authors whose books will blow you away. Please feel free to check them out and spread the word- and don’t forget to leave reviews. Those are the warm fuzzies we get when we know our readers have embraced our hearts!
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Jennie 3
by Breanna Hayse
Genre: Contemporary Romance
 
Jennie and her four handsome Daddy Doms have returned
with more laughs, tears, and hot times
as they find ways to occupy themselves on the long, winter nights in Alaska.
 
The tiny town of Northern Lights is preparing for their fourth annual WIN (Winter Ice Night) campout. Hot cocoa, an igloo building contest, ice-skating, winter games, bonfires, ball gowns, and loads of CANDY are just a glimpse of what the ladies get to look forward to.
Being a Big girl in a poly-household is fun and satisfying, but so exhausting! It’s been a happy challenge for Jennie to adjust to the needs of the men, but well worth the effort.

 
They treat her like a princess when she behaves, and a naughty little girl when she doesn’t, but are always there with love and A LOT of guidance- whether she wants it or not. With WIN around the corner, she’s trying SO hard to be extra good- but mischief has a way of working itself into the picture. Add to that a dose of stubbornness, and it’s recipe for trouble.
Jenn’s not alone.
Her BFF and fellow mischief maker, Lena, introduces her to the greatest delight in the WIN celebration- the girls are allowed to do ANYTHING they want without consequences! Of course, their Daddy Doms are experts with maneuvering around the rules and find ways to ‘show their love’ that even stuns Jennie-the queen of loopholes herself!
So many wonderful things have happened since the four-man team took her in. Who would’ve thought that the day she traveled to the polar regions of Alaska, she’d fall in love with the beautiful winter snows of Denali, learn eskimo bushcraft, and would even be able to hold her own on the ice? She’s happy, loved and desired, and there is nowhere else in the world that she’d rather be.
But she never prepared for what was waiting around the corner that will change the lives of her, and her four wonderful men, forever…
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Jennie 2
 
What can one Little girl and her four handsome Daddy Doms do to keep the fires burning on long, endless nights in a remote Alaskan lodge?
 
Jennie, and her four-man Recon team, continue their adventures in this action packed (and ever so romantic) sequel that explores their unique poly relationship and the little age-play village of Northern Lights.
 
After being stalked, and surviving a brutal attack, Jennie discovers that there’s so much more to life than satisfying her unceasing appetite for the men who’ve taken her in and given her their hearts. Her trust unfolds and, with it, a mischievous part of her nature in the form of a Middle. Of course, there’s only one way to handle a naughty Middle- and it’s NOT by giving her caramel apples and peppermint sticks.
 
Then there’s Slater…
 
After a rocky start, Slater Foxx, the mysterious fourth member of the team, awakens Jennie’s sassiness by taking her up Mount Denali where he introduces her to his rescued wolf pack and the glorious beauty of the Alaskan wilderness. Before they know it, daylight is gone and the couple has no choice but to bunk in Slater’s amazing little ‘ice-castle.’

The unexpected getaway sparks something neither of them could have prepared for.
That’s only the beginning!
 
As the holidays approach, the little family of five grow closer than ever, but come face to face with the possibility of being torn apart by an outside source. Jennie, once again, is caught between a rock and a hard place- and has to decide what’s more important-
 
The truth or continuing to live in her ultimate fantasy?
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Jennie
 
What can one Little girl and her four handsome Daddy-Doms do to keep warm during cold, Alaskan nights in Denali National Park?
 
Jennifer Hudson lives in a world that has no place for her other than being the ‘reward’ given to her owners’ clients. She’s beautiful, smart, and sexy, but years of pain and fear have left her emotions and desires caged and without a key. She knows that she won’t survive much longer in her present circumstance and needs to decide-
 
Does she run and risk her life, or remain where she is and never have one?
 
With the aid of Dorian Graye and the Guardian program, Jennie is placed in emergency care of the four-unit team of Daddy Doms who vow to do whatever is needed to keep her safe, happy and whole- even if it means applying some uncomfortable disciplinary measures.

One by one, the brothers-in-arms break down Jennie’s hard exterior and draw out the little girl hiding behind the walls of her heart. She soon discovers that the price of vulnerability is high, and the cost dear.
But is love worth the risk?
 
Author’s Note:
This Reverse Harem introduces the town of Northern Lights- an age-play community where ‘it takes a village’ (or, at least three daddies) to raise a happy Little submissive.
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Lonnie 2
With identical twin Daddy Doms,
Lonnie faces Double the Trouble and Twice the Fun!
 
LONNIE
 
After escaping the ghettos of New York City, Lonnie is finally free to live her Happily-Ever-After in beautiful Lake Tahoe with her identical twin Daddy Doms, Max and Mik Tohler. In addition, Dorian and Meredith Graye, and her future mother-in-law step into her life and give her the love of a family that she’s longed for.
 
Princess rooms, tea parties, and a surprise trip to a very special house at Mt. Shasta encouraged the emergence of her ‘Tween’ and all the sass, trouble, adventure, laughter, and attitude that comes with the title. Spurred on by her Daddy Doms, Lonnie explores the wants and needs of her long-neglected inner child; but when she slips into her ‘adult’ mode, her womanly desires are awakened. Her innocence and vulnerability are tested when the twins plan a surprise that takes her to ‘The Lair’ in San Francisco and the unique BDSM playroom. There her eyes are opened to another level of sensuality, trust, and love. She also faces a fear she can’t ignore and an object of past abuse. Can she summon the courage to face a terror of long-ago and clear the path for future joy, or will she do what comes naturally and run?
 
Max and Mik are as opposite as they are the same. One is creative and spontaneous while the other is controlling and disciplined, yet through the woman they share, the twins’ strengths and weakness blend together. They soon discover Lonnie’s presence brings out the fun-loving banter and play that a past betrayal stripped from their lives. She turns their world upside down and, with that, they learn the freedom of creative control—when it comes to both discipline and the bedroom!
 
Together, Max and Mik give Lonnie what she needs the most. She is spoiled and disciplined, and her life is filled with more love and care that she knows how to handle. Yet, an obstacle seems to be waiting at every turn, and she starts to question her decisions. After all the turmoil, jealousy, insecurities, and fears are exposed, the choice to make the relationship a permanent commitment has to be made. The last thing she wants is to hurt the men that saved her life and offered a second chance at happiness, especially before the holidays, but she’s learned the hard way that everything good comes with a hefty, and usually painful, price.
Publisher’s Note:
This book, the characters, court scenes, etc is FICTION. Please sit back and enjoy a story for what it is– Entertainment and fun!
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Lonnie
 
Graye Manor is known throughout the BDSM community for producing the best trained, specialty submissives in the world, and caters to matching these ladies with the perfect partner to guarantee a Happily-Ever-After. But what happens to those girls who aren’t accepted into the program, especially those naturally pulled toward an age-play dynamic? They are matched with Billionaire Daddy Doms… and rarely just one…
 
LONNIE
 
Lonnie Stuart is facing a prison sentence for felony shoplifting. Instead of entering the courtroom, she’s summoned into the judge’s chambers. There she meets Maxwell Tohler who offers her placement in an experimental reform program designed to give young women a second chance to achieve their greatest goals and live their dreams. She’d be assigned a ‘guardian’ who’d provide for her every need and lavish her with the care she’s always desired. The downside is the requirement to follow the guardian’s rules or risk some unpleasant time across his knee.
 
Her first inclination to Max’s proposal is to run, except she’s drawn to his handsome face, strong body, and the ‘thing’ in his voice that makes her feel small, vulnerable, and safe. Not only does he stir a heart that yearns love and acceptance, but her body as well. So, when Max rejects her request to be her guardian, she’s crushed.
 
Max, the case-worker for the Guardian Program, is sent by his old friend Dorian to evaluate and match one of the denied applicants for Manor submissive training. Taking the bench in the Hampton’s as a favor for the regular judge, Max ends up face to face with the girl he was sent to meet! She was everything he ever wanted in a woman and more-smart, beautiful, sweet and a little broken. Refusing her request to belong to him is one of the hardest things he’d even done, but the program was to help the women, not himself.
 
Little does he know, but their meeting is one of Dorian Graye’s grand schemes to match the perfect girl with her perfect Daddy Dom!
 
To her delight, Lonnie’s unexpected assignment to the stern alpha male begins a journey of personal growth and sexual exploration. Max takes her from New York to his stunning home on the edge of Lake Tahoe. She’s in for a second surprise when she meets Mik, Max’s identical twin. For the first time in her life, she is confident that genuine love would be hers in the embrace of the two Daddy Doms!
 
Her action-filled fairytale ending falters when her vicious aunt starts to stir up trouble by trying to gain control of Lonnie’s considerable trust fund. The cross-country investigation and legal conflicts bring up some ugly secrets and deception, causing a rift that might easily destroy Lonnie’s dreams of a HEA and tear the twin brothers apart forever.
 
Facing the most difficult decision of her life, Lonnie turns to an unexpected resource for advice. Should she chose one of the men for herself or save the brothers’ relationship by walking away with a broken heart?
 
Note: This new series is brought to you by the author who started the Age-Play phenomena, Breanna Hayse. As a BDSM/AP lifestyler, she ensured that the reader enjoys the dynamic in the way it exists in real life. If you haven’t read realistic AP literature, or believe it’s not your cup of tea, give this book a try. You might be surprised at what you find inside this full-length novel!
 

 
BDSM/AP lifestyler Breanna Hayse strives to give her readers truth and reality of the BDSM/Age-Play/Total Power and Erotic Exchange lifestyle.
 
Who am I?
I’m a native Californian gone ‘wild’, and had the opportunity to travel the globe and discover the world through the eyes of both a Marine Intelligence specialist and a BDSM lifestyler. I left the service to go into hospice nursing and grief counseling, eventually working as a marriage and family therapist for those involved in alternative lifestyle development. This experience has allowed me to gain unique inspiration for my books and offer realistic plots and relatable characters.
 
In 2004, my husband, John, and I joined forces to work with both submissives and dominants- teaching, training, listening and loving. Our goal was to take the mystery and fear out of the lifestyle and mentor people in safe, consensual and healthy relationships.
 
My first book, The Game Plan, was published in 2012 and opened the door to the now-booming world of Age-Play literature. Since that time, I’ve devoted my ‘spare’ time to writing, researching, community involvement, and private and group pro bono counseling in deviant behavior, alternative lifestyle, and addiction recovery.
 
I was formally ‘dungeon trained’ as a Domme before discovering my submissive side when I joined the service. My scenarios are pulled primarily from either personal experience or observation, including spending time in BDSM clubs as the safety/medical officer. My multi-faceted background allows me to glean from many avenues and give a unique and intelligent literary experience through elements of fantasy and fiction. I also discuss the questions and psychology of the lifestyle in a manner that is fun and informative, and based on ‘the real deal.’
 
I live with my husband, musician, and fellow-author, John Hayse, and two border collies in southern California. We practice a 24/7 D&S relationship with speckles of AP (and many trips to Build-A-Bear), and happily spend every moment together that we can. My hobbies include my puppies, hiding my vanilla salt-water taffy where John can’t find it, exotic art, collecting inspirational trinkets, and developing my own paddle line. You can also see me as a featured author/instructor in professional conference settings and as a Sexpert for kinkyliterature.com.
 
Follow the tour HERE for exclusive content and a giveaway!
 

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Saturday Spankings….JENNIE 3

Saturday Spankings

 

THE COUNTDOWN HAS STARTED!
Coming to you on Feb 15, 2019

Book 5 of the US/International Best-Selling

Reverse Harem/Age-Play series!

Billion Dollar Daddies©: Jennie 3

Jennie and her four handsome Daddy Doms have returned with more laughs, tears, and hot times as they find ways to occupy themselves on the long, winter nights in  Alaska.

The tiny town of Northern Lights is preparing for their fourth annual WIN (Winter Ice Night) campout. Hot cocoa, an igloo building contest, ice-skating, bonfires, ball gowns, and loads of CANDY are just a glimpse of what the ladies get to look forward to. 

Being a Big girl in a poly-household is fun and satisfying, but so exhausting! It’s been a happy challenge for Jennie to adjust to the needs of the men, but well worth the effort. They treat her like a princess when she behaves, and a naughty little girl when she doesn’t, but are always there with love and A LOT of guidance- whether she wants it or not. With WIN around the corner, she’s  trying SO hard to be extra good- but mischief has a way of working itself into the picture. Add to that a dose of stubbornness, and it’s recipe for trouble.

Jenn’s not alone. Her BFF and fellow mischief maker, Lena, introduces her to the greatest delight in the WIN celebration-  the girls are allowed to do ANYTHING they want without consequences! Of course, their Daddy Doms are experts with maneuvering around the rules and find ways to ‘show their love’ that even stun Jennie-the queen of loopholes herself!

So many wonderful things have happened since the four-man team took her in. She’s finally in a place where she’s happy, loved and desired. How could she have prepared to what was waiting around the corner that will change the lives of her, and her four wonderful men, forever?

 

 

Do you love Lena the Ballerina?

Be watching for the first of the Northern Lights© series where Lena’s story begins with the Markford brothers.

Coming April 2019!

 

 

 

 

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Billion Dollar Daddies Book Tour With Silver Daggers

Welcome to the Silver Daggers Blog Tour!

BHR is hosting tons of absolutely amazing authors whose books will blow you away. Please feel free to check them out and spread the word- and don’t forget to leave reviews. Those are the warm fuzzies we get when we know our readers have embraced our hearts!
 
Please meet-oh, yeah- ME and the smoking hot, Amazon and International Best-Selling series- Billion Dollar Daddies!
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Lonnie
by Breanna Hayse
Genre: Contemporary Erotic Romance
 
Graye Manor is known throughout the BDSM community for producing the best trained, specialty submissives in the world, and caters to matching these ladies with the perfect partner to guarantee a Happily-Ever-After. But what happens to those girls who aren’t accepted into the program, especially those naturally pulled toward an age-play dynamic? They are matched with Billionaire Daddy Doms… and rarely just one…
LONNIE
Lonnie Stuart is facing a prison sentence for felony shoplifting. Instead of entering the courtroom, she’s summoned into the judge’s chambers. There she meets Maxwell Tohler who offers her placement in an experimental reform program designed to give young women a second chance to achieve their greatest goals and live their dreams. She’d be assigned a ‘guardian’ who’d provide for her every need and lavish her with the care she’s always desired. The downside is the requirement to follow the guardian’s rules or risk some unpleasant time across his knee.
Her first inclination to Max’s proposal is to run, except she’s drawn to his handsome face, strong body, and the ‘thing’ in his voice that makes her feel small, vulnerable, and safe. Not only does he stir a heart that yearns love and acceptance, but her body as well. So, when Max rejects her request to be her guardian, she’s crushed.
Max, the case-worker for the Guardian Program, is sent by his old friend Dorian to evaluate and match one of the denied applicants for Manor submissive training. Taking the bench in the Hampton’s as a favor for the regular judge, Max ends up face to face with the girl he was sent to meet! She was everything he ever wanted in a woman and more-smart, beautiful, sweet and a little broken. Refusing her request to belong to him is one of the hardest things he’d even done, but the program was to help the women, not himself.
Little does he know, but their meeting is one of Dorian Graye’s grand schemes to match the perfect girl with her perfect Daddy Dom!
To her delight, Lonnie’s unexpected assignment to the stern alpha male begins a journey of personal growth and sexual exploration. Max takes her from New York to his stunning home on the edge of Lake Tahoe. She’s in for a second surprise when she meets Mik, Max’s identical twin. For the first time in her life, she is confident that genuine love would be hers in the embrace of the two Daddy Doms!
Her action-filled fairytale ending falters when her vicious aunt starts to stir up trouble by trying to gain control of Lonnie’s considerable trust fund. The cross-country investigation and legal conflicts bring up some ugly secrets and deception, causing a rift that might easily destroy Lonnie’s dreams of a HEA and tear the twin brothers apart forever.
Facing the most difficult decision of her life, Lonnie turns to an unexpected resource for advice. Should she chose one of the men for herself or save the brothers’ relationship by walking away with a broken heart?
 
Note: This new series is brought to you by the author who started the Age-Play phenomena, Breanna Hayse. As a BDSM/AP lifestyler, she ensured that the reader enjoys the dynamic in the way it exists in real life. If you haven’t read realistic AP literature, or believe it’s not your cup of tea, give this book a try. You might be surprised at what you find inside this full-length novel!
 
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Lonnie 2
 
With identical twin Daddy Doms, Lonnie faces
Double the Trouble and Twice the Fun!
LONNIE 2
After escaping the ghettos of New York City, Lonnie is finally free to live her Happily-Ever-After in beautiful Lake Tahoe with her identical twin Daddy Doms, Max and Mik Tohler. In addition, Dorian and Meredith Graye, and her future mother-in-law step into her life and give her the love of a family that she’s longed for.
Princess rooms, tea parties, and a surprise trip to a very special house at Mt. Shasta encouraged the emergence of her ‘Tween’ and all the sass, trouble, adventure, laughter, and attitude that comes with the title. Spurred on by her Daddy Doms, Lonnie explores the wants and needs of her long-neglected inner child; but when she slips into her ‘adult’ mode, her womanly desires are awakened. Her innocence and vulnerability are tested when the twins plan a surprise that takes her to ‘The Lair’ in San Francisco and the unique BDSM playroom. There her eyes are opened to another level of sensuality, trust, and love. She also faces a fear she can’t ignore and an object of past abuse. Can she summon the courage to face a terror of long-ago and clear the path for future joy, or will she do what comes naturally and run?
Max and Mik are as opposite as they are the same. One is creative and spontaneous while the other is controlling and disciplined, yet through the woman they share, the twins’ strengths and weakness blend together. They soon discover Lonnie’s presence brings out the fun-loving banter and play that a past betrayal stripped from their lives. She turns their world upside down and, with that, they learn the freedom of creative control—when it comes to both discipline and the bedroom!
Together, Max and Mik give Lonnie what she needs the most. She is spoiled and disciplined, and her life is filled with more love and care that she knows how to handle. Yet, an obstacle seems to be waiting at every turn, and she starts to question her decisions. After all the turmoil, jealousy, insecurities, and fears are exposed, the choice to make the relationship a permanent commitment has to be made. The last thing she wants is to hurt the men that saved her life and offered a second chance at happiness, especially before the holidays, but she’s learned the hard way that everything good comes with a hefty, and usually painful, price.
Publisher’s Note:
This book, the characters, court scenes, etc is FICTION. Please sit back and enjoy a story for what it is– Entertainment and fun!
 
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Jennie
 
What can one Little girl and her four handsome Daddy-Doms do to keep warm during cold, Alaskan nights in Denali National Park?
JENNIE
Jennifer Hudson lives in a world that has no place for her other than being the ‘reward’ given to her owners’ clients. She’s beautiful, smart, and sexy, but years of pain and fear have left her emotions and desires caged and without a key. She knows that she won’t survive much longer in her present circumstance and needs to decide-
Does she run and risk her life,
or remain where she is and never have one?
With the aid of Dorian Graye and the Guardian program, Jennie is placed in emergency care of the four-unit team of Daddy Doms who vow to do whatever is needed to keep her safe, happy and whole- even if it means applying some uncomfortable disciplinary measures. One by one, the brothers-in-arms break down Jennie’s hard exterior and draw out the little girl hiding behind the walls of her heart. She soon discovers that the price of vulnerability is high, and the cost dear.
But is love worth the risk?
Author’s Note:
This Reverse Harem introduces the town of Northern Lights- an age-play community where ‘it takes a village’ (or, at least three daddies) to raise a happy Little submissive.
 
Billion Dollar Daddies: Jennie 2
 
What can one Little girl and her four handsome Daddy Doms do to keep the fires burning on long, endless nights in a remote Alaskan lodge?
JENNIE 2
Jennie, and her four-man Recon team, continue their adventures in this action packed (and ever so romantic) sequel that explores their unique poly relationship and the little age-play village of Northern Lights.
After being stalked, and surviving a brutal attack, Jennie discovers that there’s so much more to life than satisfying her unceasing appetite for the men who’ve taken her in and given her their hearts. Her trust unfolds and, with it, a mischievous part of her nature in the form of a Middle. Of course, there’s only one way to handle a naughty Middle- and it’s NOT by giving her caramel apples and peppermint sticks.
Then there’s Slater…
After a rocky start, Slater Foxx, the mysterious fourth member of the team, awakens Jennie’s sassiness by taking her up Mount Denali where he introduces her to his rescued wolf pack and the glorious beauty of the Alaskan wilderness. Before they know it, daylight is gone and the couple has no choice but to bunk in Slater’s amazing little ‘ice-castle.’ The unexpected getaway sparks something neither of them could have prepared for.
That’s only the beginning!
As the holidays approach, the little family of five grow closer than ever, but come face to face with the possibility of being torn apart by an outside source. Jennie, once again, is caught between a rock and a hard place- and has to decide what’s more important-
The truth or continuing to live in her ultimate fantasy?
 
 
BDSM/AP lifestyler Breanna Hayse strives to give her readers truth and reality of the BDSM/Age-Play/Total Power and Erotic Exchange lifestyle.
Who am I?
I’m a native Californian gone ‘wild’, and had the opportunity to travel the globe and discover the world through the eyes of both a Marine Intelligence specialist and a BDSM lifestyler. I left the service to go into hospice nursing and grief counseling, eventually working as a marriage and family therapist for those involved in alternative lifestyle development. This experience has allowed me to gain unique inspiration for my books and offer realistic plots and relatable characters.
 
In 2004, my husband, John, and I joined forces to work with both submissives and dominants- teaching, training, listening and loving. Our goal was to take the mystery and fear out of the lifestyle and mentor people in safe, consensual and healthy relationships.
 
My first book, The Game Plan, was published in 2012 and opened the door to the now-booming world of Age-Play literature. Since that time, I’ve devoted my ‘spare’ time to writing, researching, community involvement, and private and group pro bono counseling in deviant behavior, alternative lifestyle, and addiction recovery.
 
I was formally ‘dungeon trained’ as a Domme before discovering my submissive side when I joined the service. My scenarios are pulled primarily from either personal experience or observation, including spending time in BDSM clubs as the safety/medical officer. My multi-faceted background allows me to glean from many avenues and give a unique and intelligent literary experience through elements of fantasy and fiction. I also discuss the questions and psychology of the lifestyle in a manner that is fun and informative, and based on ‘the real deal.’
 
I live with my husband, musician, and fellow-author, John Hayse, and two border collies in southern California. We practice a 24/7 D&S relationship with speckles of AP (and many trips to Build-A-Bear), and happily spend every moment together that we can. My hobbies include my puppies, hiding my vanilla salt-water taffy where John can’t find it, exotic art, collecting inspirational trinkets, and developing my own paddle line. You can also see me as a featured author/instructor in professional conference settings and as a Sexpert for kinkyliterature.com.
 
 
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COMING YOUR WAY THIS MONTH

BOOK 5 of the Generals’ Daughter Series:

UNDERCOVER

What Could Sam Be Up To This Time?

 

The Judgement of A Lifestyle

There’s a movie coming out-
Welcome To Marwencol
It’s based on a true story about a man, Mark Hogencamp, an artist in NY who admitted to being a crossdresser- and was subsequently beaten nearly to death by five men.
The attack left him with brain damage and memory loss after spending nine days in a coma and forty days in the hospital. Unable to afford therapy, he did what many of us authors do in our books- he created a world that was occupied by himself, his friends, and even the bullies.

A recent comment triggered the need for this article- I was not only shocked and deeply disturbed by what I read, but over seventy emails reflected the same. I got tired of explaining the noxious poison which is IGNORANCE in this industry, and promised to do my best to enlighten those who sincerely wish to learn.

As for those who don’t- we can’t force the blind to see, or the deaf to hear. I will also emphasize that any relationship that I refer/support in the article is one involving consensual adults.

Original Cover 2012

I wrote the Game Plan© series back in 2012 to introduce the literary community to the truth about the age-play dynamic. The desire was to show those who falsely believed AP to be pedophilia and abuse, that it was beautiful and, when conducted with pure intent, had the potential to bring healing. Unfortunately, because of the Game Plan’s (and Skylar’s Guardians) incredible success in contemporary and sci-fi AP literature, everybody and his brother started throwing the title ‘Daddy’ into their books, and Teddy Bears on the cover, and called it age-play.

New Cover 2018

There’s a simple solution; Just call it what it is!

ROLE-PLAY

Role-play is cool.
Why call it something it’s not and risk polluting a loving dynamic with sordid misrepresentations? 

May I offer an extreme, but equally destructive, example of the impact misrepresentation does to a community? First, ask yourself if it would be appropriate for a writer(s) to portray all gay men as always wearing make-up and dressed in pink tutus in every story they wrote? What if such a horrible portrayal meant it would sell books? 

Even though that’s the farthest thing from an honest representation of the gay/LGBQT community that exists, the ignorance associated with human nature will hang onto that false imagery.

What’s the harm? Misconceptions are validated and spread, and suddenly we find ourself being labeled as pedophiles and in need of therapy. Prejudice grows, along with being ostracized. Incidentally, I’ve already come face-to-face with one such ‘AP/Spanking’ author who said that exact thing–and the situation escalated to the commitment of a hate crime. I’m strong enough to disregard Author Amy letters demanding to kill myself- but others in my community might not be. Living this lifestyle is difficult, even for the most experienced. Why introduce more hatred and disgust through unresearched stories written by those who don’t care?  Ignorance kills. Already, there’s been too many injuries, physical, mental and emotional, that have occurred between untrained ‘shaders’ playing at BDSM.  Some authors might disagree with me, but I believe when we write about a particular lifestyle or vocation- whether it be BDSM, Christian, selling diamonds, etc, we have the responsibility to put SOME time into study so that we can communicate it accurately. But, alas, why bother when throwing a title of Daddy on a cover, along with the image of a bare-chested man or a woman in a short-skirt, makes money? Who cares, anyway?

Sorry, but these type of attitudes fry my anchovies.

 

The absolute lack of integrity of that aforementioned writer and her supporting community confirmed the pathetic existence of ignorance and lack of compassion. In contrast, it also welcomed the show of my readers’ intelligence, morals and ethics. Everyday, I receive emails sharing life choices and positive changes, or questions and desires for a live improved- and it thrills the death out of me!

It’s because of these readers, that I give the very best I have to offer-including taking the time to research, and convey, any subject I bring forth on paper. 

With the onset of interest in ‘reverse harems’ (describing poly relationships of one woman to multiple men), I decided it was time to expand beyond the menage/threesomes seen in the Game Plan©, Little Lake Bridgeport©, and Little Heart© Series, and introduce the next level of the BDSM/AP lifestyle through Billion Dollar Daddies© and the upcoming Northern Lights©. Thousands of readers adore these books, and are demanding more- (patience, my darlings!) BUT- because I believe in being responsible to my readers by educating and eliminating ignorance, the upsetting public comment necessitated the need for insight into a part of the alternative lifestyle and where it fits in the world of BDSM.

In the real world, the dynamic extends beyond the confines of a story book, and involves different, and committed, pairings that include extended families and multiple partners of any combination or gender. To the monogamous ‘believers,’ it might be a foreign (and even shocking) concept- but the consensual poly-lifestyle has been around forever. Go check out King David, a man after God’s own heart, and see how many wives he had. So, if one finds it personally distasteful, or unsettling, please remember that no person, not even the highest and mightiest among us, has the right to judge another’s life choices.

That brings about the discussion of the modern interpretation of the term ‘harem.’ No, we aren’t referring to the Arabian Prince and his concubines, the Star Lord and a space ship of human slaves, or even a group of California sea lions.

I’m also not addressing (or EVER condoning) forced polygamy by religious zealots (like those in Justice for Liberty). I’m examining the chosen polyamory relationship that involves four (or more) committed partners. It’s the step beyond the ménage-a-trois, and isn’t limited to multiple women to one man (polygyny), nor does it imply a female-dominated dynamic (although, they do exist). Incidentally, the majority of polyamorous families loathe the term ‘harem’, so I respectfully limit it to the use of literature as an easy-to-locate reference to poly-love, and will never use the terminology in the stories themselves.

 I’m also not going to defend my right to produce a series that I enjoy writing for my readers. My hope is, by educating the readers of this article (some who might also be authors), the step toward thoughtfulness and respect will take precedence over passing judgement on those who live alternative lifestyles. 

This being said, allow me to inform you that strong, loyal, and lifelong relationships involving multiple MEN to one women (polyandry) DO exist in healthy commitments. More so, their dynamics are as varied as personalities. NEVER should one make the ill-informed mistake in believing that a polyamory relationship in which the woman is the center of a 3+ Manwich (AKA reverse harem), means she’s the dominant/mistress. Assumptions such as these only prove ignorance to the myriad of lifestyle dynamics. Anyone, writer or not, who claims to be in a BDSM relationship and vocalizes such viewpoints, illustrates one, of three, primary issues: 

  1. The individual hasn’t taken the time to learn about others in their community. 
  2. The individual doesn’t care to learn, or is insensitive, about others in their community. 
  3. The individual isn’t part of this community.

This is our LIFE-

NOT a game or the target of some bewildered fantasy

Are people capable of honesty about the masks they wear behind the computer screen? Do they really accept or is it a smoke screen used to make money?
 

Permit me to give some real-life examples of NON-SEXUAL ‘reverse harems’

NON-BDSM: When I served in the USMC, there were very few women in my platoon, and Intel and recon commands were primarily male occupied. As the Intel specialist for HQ battalion, I was responsible for distributing instructions and logistics for training exercises. My field team consisted of a six to eight band of brothers, the majority whom were overtly alpha (okay, let’s call it what it is- bossy). I held the map and compass in my grubby little hands and steered the unit, but the boys determined when, and how, we would succeed in our mission.  I both loved, and hated these assignments-they had my back and guarded my safety, but also harassed and teased me every chance they got. It didn’t help that they also snitched on me to General G.

BDSM IN SERVICE: As a Whip Mistress, I’d go to San Diego when the Leatherboys hung out at the cigar bars or lounge in puppy piles. After a play night, I put away my Florentines and the boys waited on me hand and foot. That particular  ‘harem’ was of a Master/slave dynamic, and led by their alpha. I was the guest (with boobs) and treated like a queen. There was no relationship beyond being friends who engaged in occasional impact play.

 

Original Publication of Primer 1-2016

LIFESTYLE: Finally, as an age-player and FT sub, my particular needs tend to require a ‘village.’ I wrote this primer in 2016 to share with readers, and educate authors, what a typical AP day looks like.

John and I have an extended family of Doms who love me dearly, and help him keep sane. (I tend to be a handful).

#1 Best Seller in Lifespan Development, Sex, and Women’s Biography.

I also ‘play’ with a gay poly family with one Little and three older Daddies. And, you know what? It’s AWESOME. It’s also NON-SEXUAL. The ‘adults’ are long-term and committed friends who love each other dearly, and that love is passed down to every Little/Middle who enters their home. They’re all also dominants (different degrees) and there is never any ‘adult’ activities when their sub is submerged in his regression. Their little boy receives more love and care than any one person could hope for.

 

Who wouldn’t want that?

Can you see where my inspiration for the Billion Dollar Daddies© and Northern Lights© series comes from?

The question arises-

Why should a writer of BDSM/spanking fiction demonstrate, at least, some respect to the real-life community who inspires them? More so, does he/she feel a responsibility to their readers to produce stories that lift up and honor the community they use as a model? 

A responsible writer goes beyond plucking down fantasy imaginings. Over the years, I’ve watched, sadly, so many who have tried to copy/mimic my success as an AP writer, and have seen them fail miserably due to a lack of basic knowledge, interest, and humility. In a contemporary/historical romance setting, fantasy-based and misconstrued interpretations of the dynamic radiate through the stories, and leave readers angry, hurt and confused. One such example is a piece I read years ago in ‘contemporary romance’ in which the ‘littles’ were injected with a chemical to tighten their vaginas so that sex with their ‘daddies’ always hurt. It forced them into a constant state of losing their virginity.

I don’t know about you- but I interpreted that scene to be nothing less than premeditated rape and sexual abuse. That is NOT AP, nor would any responsible Dom, Daddy or otherwise, want his sub to suffer/dread every time they had sex. Needless to say, scenes such as this leave disillusioned readers who share their distasteful experiences and stop purchasing books within the genre  as it’s determined we are ‘not their cup of tea.’

To be a responsible, earth-bound BDSM/AP writer requires learning the truth- not by watching a movie or talking to a blog-buddy (who might not really be what they claim). Talk, and even better, visit those who live it. A journalist doesn’t write an article based on hearsay- she investigates, seeks the truth and writes from that. Science Fiction allows for bending 

of the truth, but the element of AP is still a constant, along with the guidelines of the practice. Again, I emphasize that the use of titles ‘daddy, papa, auntie, etc’ do NOT make it an age-play work, rather the actions, and interactions, between the characters.

I live the BDSM lifestyle with my husband, John. We’re in a monogamous relationship, practice DD (domestic discipline), DS (dominance and submission), and AP (age-play). Both of us have always been active in our community as educators, counselors and support for those involved, or interested , in the plethora of dynamics. I’ve had dozens of people in our home who can testify first-hand about our lifestyle. I conduct therapy groups at the VA for alternative lifestyle relationships, sexual dysfunction, and domestic violence. Several of my books (i.e. Chastity’s Belt) are used to help patients work through emotional pain and fear. There’s never been any question that I am who I say I am- nor am I afraid to prove it. Are you?

It’s understood that some need to maintain anonymity for various reasons- but there’s a difference between being a writer with a pen name vs the public claim to be living in the dynamic.  If you’re forced to keep the truth of your life a secret to the outside world, consider the reason behind deciding to publicly post and the risk you take when, not if, you’re discovered by the very ones you hide from.

The sad fact is that, in this industry, there will always be someone to expose the truth no matter how hard you try to silence them. Ask those who have lost everything because of another’s jealously, pride, or childishness.

You don’t think it would happen to you?  I didn’t either until I rewrote an entire book for an individual and allowed her to sell it under her name. She broke the sacred law of anonymity and told my haters (the aforementioned author and her cronies) one of my secret pen names. She was promised fame and, instead of becoming a decent writer, she took the easy route. Sure enough- they went on the attack. It was fortunate for me that the pseudonym was new and experimental and she didn’t have access to any of my successful ones. The recourse? Everyone knows she can’t be trusted, that she lies, and that anyone involved with her is at risk for her next selfish move. I’ve also had an anonymous hater call the nursing board to report my ‘morality’ violations. FYI- California doesn’t have such a thing. They called (laughing) to tell me. Since I don’t hide my lifestyle, and am a certified sexologist, I had nothing to explain and ended up with the BON reading my books!

My point is that people have lost their jobs, marriages and reputations by pretending to be something they’re not or by paracistically piggybacking on false claims to gain sales. That’s not marketing- that’s foolishness.

So, I ask- for those who insist they are lifestylers- what’s the purpose for the public announcement when no one outside your bubble is aware? Do you think it gives you credibility to increase sales? Privacy is understood, but if you’re going to identify as a lifestyler and refuse to extend yourself to people, or your words/stories fail to support the entirety of our community, are you really what you profess? 

Incidentally- copying photos of our implements, and then posting them on your blog and FB page as your own is not only deceptive- but illegal. Yep- the individual was busted.

Safe, Sane, Consensual goes in the direction of not just doing, but in learning. There isn’t one of us in the lifestyle who is so good or careful, etc., that we don’t require accountability. Accountability is part of the lifestyle community– and that includes how we represent it in our books.

How long has the gay community stood against naysayers and begged people to get to know them before passing judgement? Likewise, the poly lifestylers- many families are judged and misunderstood because books are being written by those who have no freaking idea WHO they are- nor show any interest in learning. The same goes for AP. Prejudice and untruths are embraced and spread by the naive, and tear away the fabric of trust in our community.

Without research, and compassion, how can one justify writing books about how another person conducts their life behind closed doors or in the privacy of a party? Further, if that same person claims to be in the lifestyle, or that a certain part (aka AP) is precious to them, how can they not accept and respect the rest of those who live it? Who should be judged? The one making a mockery of something to line their pockets, or those who’ve fought years for their right for freedom from prejudice and hatred? It seems to be imbalanced, doesn’t it? But then, when it comes to truth vs money, it usually is.

There’s a saying- Your Kink Is Not My Kink, And That’s Okay.

BDSM is NOT a kink- it’s a way of life. And in that life, many people engage in countless expressions of personal and, sometimes, sexual freedom. Heterosexual, homosexual, LGBQT, pansexual, poly, AP, Furries… every subsection of the lifestyle is precious and important. It also represents our freedom. If one is taken away by the ignorant comments of prejudice, what will be taken next?

The only one who puts Baby in the corner is her Dom. Not you- not me- not anyone. Respect is only difficult to give if one lacks respect for themselves.

CONCLUSION

If one must judge- do so with education and understanding, not through foolishness. Accept, and HONOR, people who are different and, if tolerance and love isn’t something in your vocabulary, PUT IT THERE. Better yet, keep your mouth closed (especially in public) if you have nothing uplifting to say about a lifestyle!

This request is targeted toward writers:

If you’ve already offended, disrespected, or misrepresented our community, a specific group of people, or even one person- PLEASE show yourself to be a caring and responsible adult. Apologize to those you’ve hurt with your words. You’d be surprised how many more readers will respect you for your honesty and show of humility. They know you’re human- 

They’re just waiting for you to show that you’re also humane.

With all Luv,

Breanna L. Hayse,

DABFN, DABCE, MS, CertST

(This article contains excerpts from Hayse, B.L., ‘Models of Alternative Lifestyle in Societal Affirmation: BDSM’ presentation to BOD of Veteran’s Affairs, Dept of Psychiatry and Lifestyle Development, Dec 2018)

 

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