Whew…. It has been a while, huh? I made a promise to my family to devote ALL my energy and focus on them and, although it was wonderful to do so, I am beat!!!! it will be so nice to get back to my routine and write, write, write….
It has been an awesome opportunity to submerse myself in both SJ and Nik’s lives, to see their regular routine, participate in it and feel part, rather than apart, of the family again. Nik has made be very, very proud… She worked hard and earned her collar. Just a reminder that collaring in DS is not always sexual… In fact, Nik’s symbolizes her promise to keep pure until the right man enters her life. I feel like a proud mama!!! I also noticed a certain maturity that came with earning this symbol.
Which brings us to this point…. Accountability….
I Am SO proud of those of you who have been dropping SJ emails requesting accountability AND following his instructions. The man loves his subbies and it really touches his heart when he sees those who take his advice seriously… As much as it breaks it when others ignore him.
I got to witness him in action these last few weeks… He really puts himself out there for his girls. But, I need to say something…. This is not a game. This lifestyle, especially things like on line dating, relationships, etc… Is serious. None of us want any of you to be a statistic and, I hate to say, but a few are heading down that path.
BE CAREFUL. If there are any warning signs from a potential Dom that indicates abuse.. Nastiness, rudeness, accusations, etc….. Don’t waste your time on the S*O*B*…. Get the hell away from him and do not open the door for him again. we have been seeing too much of that lately. DS is NOT about abuse!!!!! It is one thing if you desire humiliation… Some do… But that should never be the foundation of your relationship. Even those subs who get off on the humiliation factor should be involved in a strong, trusting relationship prior to going down that path.
Predators can sniff out desperation. Please, my girls, do not put yourselves in that situation. A man who is not gentle, understanding and reasonable is not a Dom.. He is an abuser. I cannot say that enough.
One more thing while I am on my soapbox…. If SJ is the person you are talking to about things, please, talk directly to him. Not only is it disrespectful to him when he is bypassed, but it also puts Nik and myself in a position of second-guessing. None of us will view anyone as a failure if they truly try… But to ask for help and then blow it off…. Welllllllll…….
I love you guys. We are here for you as best as we can be, but ultimately, you are adults and must make decisions for yourself. Please make good ones.