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Hello lovelies,

I trust all of you are behaving…oh wait, I forgot who I was talking to, lol, scratch that. I have another question for all of you.

What do you feel denotes a good Dom? One you would be happy to train with? What do you consider the 5 most important attributes he should have?

Just wondering and thought I would throw it out there for all of you to ponder.

Be good, or else…


The Big Picture


Hello lovelies,

Today I want you all to pay close attention as this is very important. For those of you I have a long training dynamic with, you already understand, but for newbies or those just curious, listen up.

D/s or even S/m does not just involve punishment when you misbehave. For those of you that think spanking is what D/s is all about you are missing the big picture! Training does involve spanking, in one form or another but, that’s just the tip of the D/s iceberg.

When I train a sub it’s to make her a better submissive. There are so many things to work on and talk about in training. It’s not just when you have to report for a spanking. I want a sub to learn about self-respect, boundaries, proper behavior, self-worth, obedience and so many other aspects that make a well-rounded subbie and a well-rounded human being.

I use spanking as a teaching tool but it’s not the only one. In fact, I can impart the lessons without spanking but subbies usually need a deterrent. A bb spanking seems to work very well but so do lines, grounding or daily tasks.

The big part is being consistent and serious about becoming better, as well as doing what I tell you, to get you there. It’s all about trust and caring at the end of the day. So next time you read about a Dom disciplining a sub or watch a video etc. remember if it’s the real thing, that relationship is very very layered. A stronger bond you would be hard pressed to find.

Be good, or else…


In or Out

Hello lovelies,

Today I thought I would address a question I get all the time, usually like this… “Are you mad at me sir? Are you going to drop me?” The fact is you can be dropped from training, but, it takes a lot for that to happen.

First, let’s talk about another aspect, being released. A lot of times I work with women who are looking for a Dom and for a relationship. I work with them and teach them how they must behave to attract such a Dom. Hopefully it works out, if it does I then release them to their new Dom and my participation in their training is over. It’s kind of bittersweet as I build a bond with my subs, some more than others but still a bond. Sometimes, it’s hard to let them go but, that’s the goal if they are looking for a Dom.

Now dropping a sub is totally different. It takes a lot for me to do this but I unfortunately have done so. There are a few main reasons I would do this:

1) Lying- I’m not talking about a subbie stretching the truth or omitting certain facts. I mean out and out lying. If I catch a sub lying she will get one warning and the next time I will drop her. D/s is built on trust and honesty. I can’t have it any other way and expect it to work.

2) Not taking the training seriously- If a sub thinks this is a game and does not do the tasks or follow my orders then the training will help no one.

3) Striking me- I understand subs can get angry, especially in a session, but one slap or punch in anger and that’s it…done.

4) If a sub disrespects Bree or hurts her in a deep way- Also if she does that to any of our friends especially our little subbie family, she will be dropped. This may be the most important one.

Let me be clear, these are some of the main reasons. I do not get mad and I do not give up on a sub, even a difficult one, so long as they are serious and honest with me. I love my subbies, I love training, helping them find their submissive and embrace it. I will spend a lot of time and energy on a subbie that is serious and willing to obey me.

There is an old adage my way or the highway, that pretty much sums it up.

Be good, or else…


Thigh Don’t Think So

Hello lovelies,

Recently, I was looking for videos to send to some subbies when I happened to see one from a spanking party in Vegas. As you know I had a very bad experience when I attended one there but I still thought I would give it a look. I was surprised at how severe the spanking and paddling was but it seemed like it was in a private suite so, ok with me as long as it was consensual.

It was done by a man and a woman with two subbies, rather young, with the couple being much older. I was ok until I saw something that I found disturbing. The man was using a wood paddle on the backs of the female’s thighs.

This is not only irresponsible but dangerous. Thighs do not have the padding a bottom does and a hematoma is likely with a heavy implement. Now don’t get me wrong, I do spank subbies thighs but usually for two main reasons: one, they are very masochistic and enjoy it or they need punishment and it’s not getting through just across their bottoms. Two, they keep being defiant, especially when over the knee with things like getting out of position etc.

I NEVER EVER use hard impact implements and mostly use my hand, a thin cane or switch, or a thin whip. Even then I am careful not to break the skin. As my subbies will tell you, a few sharp spanks on the thighs by my hand is usually enough to get them in position.

Now maybe the girls at the party dug being paddled on their thighs, hey it’s their thing I am not judging. I am saying, to me, as a Dom, I would refuse to do that as I find it irresponsible. I think you should be really careful with even just a thin implement on the thighs.

So why the post? I care about all of you, and for those that are thinking about setting up a session with a new Dom I am telling you to insist on two things: an emotional safe word for triggers and NO thigh spanking, for the first time. I understand a Dom giving you a few with his hand on your upper thighs if you are OTK and getting mouthy but no implements. I want you newbies to be safe and have a great experience. The video started me worrying about you, oh get over it it’s what Doms do, lol.

Anyway, promise me you will follow my rules for a first meeting and also you will insist on the two things I just mentioned. D/s is great if you are with a responsible Dom. Just be careful, and its ok to say no.

Be good and safe, or else…


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