Is it or Isn’t it


Hello lovelies,

I trust you all had a suitably creepy Halloween and if you’re like Bree, got lots of CANDY!!!!!
I was discussing an interesting subject with one of my subbies, she was asking “how do I know if I am in sub space?”

A good question and the simple answer is you will know when you’re in it. That doesn’t tell you much so let me try and clarify.

Hey good rhyme, ok I have wasted enough time, oh man I am on a roll! I digress…

This particular subbie had gotten spanked by someone and she was just spent after. Not really talking and just laying over his knee. He told her it was subspace.

Buzz. Sorry, wrong, but thanks for playing.

For those of you fortunate enough to have experienced sub space you know what I am talking about. For those of you who have not, let me give you some idea. Put simply subspace is bliss. Its a feeling that you do not want to ever come down from. Its a high but not an artificial high, it comes from deep within your being.

I know this sounds hippy dippy to a lot of you but just put on your tye-dyed shirts and listen. A sub space experience is like you’re floating but you feel totally safe and any pain that is being applied you do not register it as such. It’s more of a warm sensual massage that just lets you drift off into your own world.

It’s very unusual that you would be able to speak as any interruption in the experience can throw you out.

Its not like this subbies experience where you’re just tired and lay there after a spanking. That’s not even close and usually it takes a while.

A Dom needs to know what he’s doing to get you there. Its a slow build and has to be done correctly. It usually takes 45 mins to an hour to finally achieve the feeling but once there you will know.

It can also last for quite a while after the session. You can have a big drop once you come down which is why the Dom needs to be nearby to talk you through it and be there for you, maybe to hold you or just be close, all subbies are different.

I guess the easier way to say it is if it feels like something you have had before its probably not sub space.

I can tell you this, once you have been there you definately will want to visit a lot. My sincere hope is you all get there at least once.

Be good, or else…
SJ

Different Strokes

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Hello lovelies,

I want to talk today about spanking. Yes I know, that’s a surprise SJ! Some of you may not realize how many different kinds of spankings there are. Here in the Hayse house I employ quite a few.

Step this way, the tour is about to begin…

Punishment:

This can involve a lot of things and are usually done in the punishment room: hand, brush, heart paddle, school paddle, strap and if you are really bad the cane, rug beater or my thin whip. Hey, don’t panic on me…I said really bad. Also for the cane or something similar I do use the spanking bench to tie you down so that you don’t move and get the stroke in a very bad area. See what an awesome and considerate Dom I am?

Follow me  to the next stop on the tour…

Reminder spankings:

These can be done anywhere usually just hand and a red bottom but not really painful. It’s  just a reminder to be good today.

Welcome spankings:

This is when you visit, it’s a way of welcoming you to our house and a reminder that you are expected to behave. Again, hand and a red bottom but not really painful.

Sub space:

Now you’re back with me right? This is usually done in the bedroom, on our bed or on our massage table   but could be on the futon in punishment room. Now this is the one time you get to have input. A subspace session is all about you and getting you to that kind of out of body zone. You can request your favorite implements,  how hard , how slow  etc. What I do find is that once you are in the zone you can’t really talk so it’s up to me to keep you there. I try to do at least one of these when a subbie visits.

Reward spankings:

Like a reminder but more of a pleasant sting. These are given if you have been very good.

Thank you for taking the tour…You can make your reservations anytime.

Be good, or else…

SJ

And You Can Tell Everybody This is Your Thong

Hello lovelies,

So how cool is that? SJ quoting EJ, lol. Ok, man tough crowd.

Here’s the dealio…When a subbie is having their first session, she is always nervous and a little scared, that’s normal. I usually let her wear a thong the first spanking, for modesty sake.

Now, let’s look at that situation shall we? When you all fantasize about being spanked…oh come on its me, you know you all do it!  You probably fantasize about being OTK and having your dress lifted or jeans taken down, held in place and then your panties taken down to expose your bb right? The humiliation is part of the lesson to be taught.

My question is this, do you feel it’s necessary for the kind of first time spanking experience to have your panties pulled down or, if you are permitted to wear a thong, can it still satisfy the fantasy?

It may seem a benign question but, it can affect a session in different ways. Personally, I feel the sub needs to feel contrite and humiliated, to a point, especially a more mature subbie. But I am also aware of how scary a first session can be. The thought of a Dom you have hardly met seeing you in such a vulnerable position and spanking your bb can drive some subbies to the door fast!! Don’t laugh, its happened.

Does experience trump modesty for you in a session or is it the other way around? As always…

Be good, or else…

SJ

Bottom Temperature

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Hello lovelies,

No I’m not talking about your bottom’s temperature after a spanking but the temperature in the room before said spanking. This can alter a session greatly by making it kind of pleasurable to downright miserable, depending.

If I am to give a punishment, I prefer the room cool or cold.

Why?

Simple, wood or even a hand really stings on a cold bb. Is that a Mr. Meanie thing? Kind of, but remember I said for a punishment.

I do usually have a fan on as subbies tend to hyperventilate a lot and get overheated. See how nice?

Mr. Nice Dom, that has a good ring to it no?

For subspace or pleasure/pain sessions I keep it warmer and more pleasant since the strokes or spanks are not meant to cause punishment level pain. I also have blankets available as a lot  of subbies after a subspace session will drop and get very cold. I have blankets to cover them and make sure they do not get chilled.

See? Mr. Nice Dom, told ya.

So if any of you lovelies are ever in a session and the dom turns up the air its probably time to rethink that punishment book. lol

Now a lot of doms like the room warm so their hand does not sting during the administering of a spanking. I don’t have that problem so cold works very well sting wise, especially for implements like paddles, brushes, and canes. You will notice I did not include straps. I do use a prison strap from time to time but it has to be on a severe level because you all enjoy leather way too much.

Just a little insight into Dom 101 though some of you may say Mr. Meanie 101

Be good, or else…

SJ

 

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