Timing is Everything

Hello lovelies,

I was thinking about the following, what do you think?

A few of my subs own spanking machines. Most of them are not strong enough for a self spanking and the machine with a cane or switch on 10 is very painful, if they need discipline. However this question can apply to a session with or without a machine.

Do you feel a discipline spanking is more effective timed or not?

By that I mean, on the machine there is a timer, up to 5 minutes. Do you think knowing how long the spanking lasts is more effective than not? Without a machine using an hourglass or watch that would be in front of you, so you had the watch the sands or seconds slowly go by while your bb burns more and more? A 3 to 5 minute spanking as opposed to one where you have no idea when it ends?

Be good, or else…

SJ

How Often?

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Hello lovelies,

I trust you all are happy and hopefully marked by your Doms as you read this. I am asking a question today of how often…

How often do you think about being spanked? Especially discipline wise?

How often do you surf the net for photos or videos and imagine the sub in those pics and vids is you?

I want you all to remember one important thing when you see those pics or watch those vids, even if they are severe, the main thing is that the Dom is or should be administering the discipline because he cares. Yes, it’s true.

Here at Casa Hayse spankings are given frequently and sometimes just because I want to see a red bottom. Sometimes the spankings are quite severe, but that does not mean I do not care for the subbie, quite the contrary. I care for all my subs.

It’s an interesting line and hard to explain unless you have been over my lap. I would venture to say if you talk to any sub that I have disciplined she will tell you no matter how painful it was she always could feel my caring, certainly through my hand but also using an implement. I wish for all of you to be able to feel this especially if you never have before, and if you do feel this with your Dom you are fortunate indeed.

Bree whines a lot when she’s spanked and a lot of the time she’s not in the mood, which makes no difference to me, lol, but I guarantee if you asked her if she can feel how much I care with every spank or stroke she would say “Yes…but why does he have to spank so hard!!!” Some of you may visit the torture room here someday and you will FEEL what I mean in the meantime…

Be good, or else…

SJ

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Hello lovelies,

I had a question for all of you today. I thought it would be interesting to see your answers.

In one sitting…no scratch that…At one time what’s the most spanks you have ever gotten by…

  • hand
  • hairbrush
  • paddle
  • strap
  • spoon
  • cane
  • or any implement

This is without a break. As you know, Dom roll please lol, my record for delivering hand spanks at one time is over 20,000 ta-da, not bad right?

Now for you unfortunate lovelies that have not been spanked yet, how many of these things do you think you could take? These are punishment strokes not sub space or pain/pleasure strokes.  Enjoy your memories or your fantasizes.

Be good, or else…

SJ

 

You Might be a Masochist if…

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Hello lovelies,

How are you all? A brief update: Bree is healing…slowly, but a little better every day. In no small part because of all of you, so thank you.

Now to our title…I am sure some of you have heard the comedian that says “You might be a redneck if…” so I thought I would make it more appropriate for you.

You might be a masochist if…

  • You’re in the middle of a caning and you say “Is that all you got?”
  • You record a movie that has a whipping scene and you rewind it so many times your DVR breaks
  • You check your marks after a session and are disappointed that they only cover half your bottom
  • As a reward you ask for a severe session
  • For Christmas you ask Santa to whip you
  • You can’t seem to find a severe enough spanking video online
  • Your dream vacation is one week of confinement and torture
  • You own a spanking machine and write the maker to see if he can make you one that goes to level 11
  • You practice smart remarks in the mirror before your next session

Be good, or else…

SJ

The Big Picture

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Hello lovelies,

Today I want you all to pay close attention as this is very important. For those of you I have a long training dynamic with, you already understand, but for newbies or those just curious, listen up.

D/s or even S/m does not just involve punishment when you misbehave. For those of you that think spanking is what D/s is all about you are missing the big picture! Training does involve spanking, in one form or another but, that’s just the tip of the D/s iceberg.

When I train a sub it’s to make her a better submissive. There are so many things to work on and talk about in training. It’s not just when you have to report for a spanking. I want a sub to learn about self-respect, boundaries, proper behavior, self-worth, obedience and so many other aspects that make a well-rounded subbie and a well-rounded human being.

I use spanking as a teaching tool but it’s not the only one. In fact, I can impart the lessons without spanking but subbies usually need a deterrent. A bb spanking seems to work very well but so do lines, grounding or daily tasks.

The big part is being consistent and serious about becoming better, as well as doing what I tell you, to get you there. It’s all about trust and caring at the end of the day. So next time you read about a Dom disciplining a sub or watch a video etc. remember if it’s the real thing, that relationship is very very layered. A stronger bond you would be hard pressed to find.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Lines and Strokes

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Hello lovelies,

I was wondering…

Some of my subbies say they would rather have spanks or strokes rather than write lines. How do you all feel about that?

I am not just talking sit and write lines. I usually have my subbie in the corner bb and then sit and write.

Which do you feel is more of a deterrent for bad behavior?

A sound OTK bb spanking. Maybe the paddle or even the cane…Or…Being sent to the corner bb to write lines about your behavior?

Which do you feel is more of a deterrent for bad behavior?

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Personally I find both very effective especially in the same session, but that’s just me, lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

New Years Resolutions

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Ok lovelies it’s that time of year. Time for all you to make your resolutions for 2016 and stick to them! Lol

To help you along here are some of mine:

  • Spank harder
  • Get more implements
  • Spank my subbies more often
  • Be stricter
  • Spank faster

See, I am sure I can stick to those.

What are some of yours?

Be good in 2016, or else…

SJ

 

Thigh Don’t Think So

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Hello lovelies,

Recently, I was looking for videos to send to some subbies when I happened to see one from a spanking party in Vegas. As you know I had a very bad experience when I attended one there but I still thought I would give it a look. I was surprised at how severe the spanking and paddling was but it seemed like it was in a private suite so, ok with me as long as it was consensual.

It was done by a man and a woman with two subbies, rather young, with the couple being much older. I was ok until I saw something that I found disturbing. The man was using a wood paddle on the backs of the female’s thighs.

This is not only irresponsible but dangerous. Thighs do not have the padding a bottom does and a hematoma is likely with a heavy implement. Now don’t get me wrong, I do spank subbies thighs but usually for two main reasons: one, they are very masochistic and enjoy it or they need punishment and it’s not getting through just across their bottoms. Two, they keep being defiant, especially when over the knee with things like getting out of position etc.

I NEVER EVER use hard impact implements and mostly use my hand, a thin cane or switch, or a thin whip. Even then I am careful not to break the skin. As my subbies will tell you, a few sharp spanks on the thighs by my hand is usually enough to get them in position.

Now maybe the girls at the party dug being paddled on their thighs, hey it’s their thing I am not judging. I am saying, to me, as a Dom, I would refuse to do that as I find it irresponsible. I think you should be really careful with even just a thin implement on the thighs.

So why the post? I care about all of you, and for those that are thinking about setting up a session with a new Dom I am telling you to insist on two things: an emotional safe word for triggers and NO thigh spanking, for the first time. I understand a Dom giving you a few with his hand on your upper thighs if you are OTK and getting mouthy but no implements. I want you newbies to be safe and have a great experience. The video started me worrying about you, oh get over it it’s what Doms do, lol.

Anyway, promise me you will follow my rules for a first meeting and also you will insist on the two things I just mentioned. D/s is great if you are with a responsible Dom. Just be careful, and its ok to say no.

Be good and safe, or else…

SJ

Too Hard, Too Light, Just Right

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Hello lovelies,

I thought I would write something a bit different today. In fact I want you all to interact with me on this. I want your feedback on a topic I was thinking about.

I would like to know what denotes a perfect spanking for you. One that if you were talking to your vanilla friends or sister subbies you would say “man he can really spank.”

There are many layers to consider, I know. I would think you all will differ here and there.

Consider a reward or play spanking. Then a punishment spanking.

All otk? All by hand only? Be as detailed as you like. And of course enjoy!!

Be good, or else…

SJ

Living with an Artist

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Hello lovelies,

I trust you all had a great thanksgiving. Bree went beyond her usual amazing cooking and I ate myself into a tryptophan coma, lol.

Now it’s back to normal, or what passes for normal, around the Hayse household. I thought I would give you all an idea of what it’s like living with a best-selling author and not just that but an amazing crafter, sculptor, jewelry, painting, building miniature doll houses, weaving and last but not least having a beautiful singing voice. I mean come on, most of us would love to have just one of those talents right?

This is a typical day as a writer:

Morning, about 8 am, I usually make Bree coffee or tea and a couple of bagels. I let the borders out back.

I figure I will see Bree around 3, or so, when she takes a lunch break.

You see, she works on her books every day, no break and about 10 to 14 hours a day. She’s funny as she has an eidetic memory, like Sheldon on Big Bang. I ask her about a date we went on 10 years ago and she can name the place, time, what I was wearing and what the lady at table 3 was wearing but, I ask her what day it is and she says “Uh..Saturday?” when it is Tuesday lol.

Bree usually requires a spank break when she’s writing, especially if it’s a scene she is enjoying. So I do get to see her some during the day.

Sometimes we eat dinner. Sometimes Bree is on a roll and does not want to break her concentration and will just write. If Bree is on a roll writing, don’t ask her about paying a bill lol. Bad idea…really bad.

Now it does not end after a 10 hour day. Even when we go to bed her mind is racing. It’s not unusual for her to get up at about 2:30 am, start writing and continue until evening. This happens almost every day, how she functions on so little sleep is a mystery. I certainly could not.

That’s a typical day here. There are usually more spankings but as far as the other stuff, Dom’s honor, all true. I really don’t see her much during the day and into early evening!

Next time you read one of Bree’s books remember that’s a lot of hours she works on those, not to mention when she’s done she needs to edit. She’s pretty amazing, as you all have discovered.

Be good, or else…

SJ

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