Man v. Machine

Hello lovelies,

I don’t know if you are aware but there are quite a few spanking machines out there. Yes, the old fantasy of having a machine to spank your subbie is a reality. I am not saying this is for lazy Doms, lol, just an addition.

The main perk here is for self spanking as there is one major problem with self spanking: arm fatigue. For the majority of you, your arm gives out way before you have spanked hard enough or long enough. Also, you will tend to back off the intensity when it really starts to sting. This is understandable as your sense of self-preservation kicks in. The beauty of the machine is that once its set and in motion it doesn’t let up or get softer as your bottom starts to sting and it never gets tired.

I do phone sessions with all my subs from time to time. I do this to keep the dynamic more personal and also to monitor the spanking. Since I can hear everything there is no way for my subs to cheat and go lighter than I want. If the machine is used it solves that problem and also makes the spanking more painful and intense.

The machine I have has controls for how often the stroke comes and how hard that stroke is. Once its set there is no escape and it’s almost like a true in person punishment. My machine on an 8 with a thin cane will elicit loud screams and nice marks. On a 10 it’s severe. Of course you can set it lower for a pleasure spanking but the real advantage is for punishment.

I have even tried a double caning with Bree. I let the machine give a stroke and as it was setting for the next I gave her one. She did not enjoy it nearly as much as I did.

Now there is the drawback of it being impersonal, after all it is a machine, but if the Dom orders the implement, the number of intensity and sets the timer it’s almost like he’s giving the spanking or paddling or caning etc. The subbie must stay in position or get some strokes in places she does not want them.

I am sure you are all online looking for your machine lol. I think all subbies should have one but that’s just me.

Be good, or else…

SJ

But I Want to be Perfect

 

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Hello lovelies,

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this from the subbies I work with.  Let me cut to the chase, nobody is perfect and no Dom expects you to be.

When I take on a newbie it’s generally because she has some things she would like help with. Usually there might be some bad habits or behaviors etc. requiring a little more motivation.

Just the nature of that statement should tell you that I expect a newbie to mess up. Otherwise why would she ask for my help?

Let me assure all of you, no Dom expects you to be perfect. I know for a lot of you, pleasing your Dom is very important, and it should be, but don’t beat yourself up when you misbehave or break a rule.

Speaking for myself, this never makes me angry. My subbies will tell you I don’t get mad but breaking a rule over and over does get me frustrated. After I hit that point I begin working on that hole in my music room where I bang my head…and not in the heavy metal way lol.

My point is this… to all my subbies, experienced and newbies, and to all of you that read the posts, don’t try for perfection. It’s not going to happen and when you mess up take your discipline and learn from it. But do not get depressed or upset that you disappointed me or your Doms. Trust me, I know it’s going to happen from time to time.

I mean if you were perfect why would you need a Dom right? However, I am not saying you shouldn’t at least try to be a well behaved subbie but let’s face it, nobody is good 100% of the time. Just know I am aware of that as are you so relax and   just be you. That’s what D/s is all about, a place where you can be who you truly are.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Too Hard, Too Light, Just Right

2015-12-14

Hello lovelies,

I thought I would write something a bit different today. In fact I want you all to interact with me on this. I want your feedback on a topic I was thinking about.

I would like to know what denotes a perfect spanking for you. One that if you were talking to your vanilla friends or sister subbies you would say “man he can really spank.”

There are many layers to consider, I know. I would think you all will differ here and there.

Consider a reward or play spanking. Then a punishment spanking.

All otk? All by hand only? Be as detailed as you like. And of course enjoy!!

Be good, or else…

SJ

Subbie Guilt

2015-11-07

Hello lovelies,

I am sure you are all familiar with this heading yes?  I mean subbie’s have more guilt than anyone I know. I love you all but you know it’s true.

I did a session not too long ago. It was a punishment session resulting in marks and a lot of tears, as these kinds of sessions often do. Now during this session something happened. As you all know I am sadistic, but I am all about you being safe in a session so I monitor you closely.

This particular subbie had been hand spanked to tears and was then put over the spanking bench and secured. Her transgressions were serious so she had a paddling and a caning coming. I decided to use the heart first, which as some of you know burns like fire especially on a sore bottom. During this part of her spanking she began to cry again but her breathing became erratic. That’s wasn’t good as she started to hyperventilate, so much so I had to stop and calm her down before her cane strokes.

I had decided to end the session after the cane as I felt she may be at risk if I went any longer. After calming her down I gave her 12 strokes and she was done. I did aftercare, held her, forgave her and made sure she was ok.

It seemed she was so I went downstairs and she went into the living room. When I came in to check on her she was crying. I asked what was wrong and she said she felt bad she could not take what I had planned for her!

I did say you all have more than your share of guilt to drag around did I not? Lol

I explained to her that it’s never a question of me being disappointed if you can’t take as much as I planned for you . It is always a matter of you being safe. You need to learn a lesson, of course, but not at the expense of your health (physical/mental/emotional).

I want you all to get this…a punishment session is meant to hurt but it’s not a matter of taking so much or disappointing me. Every subbie is different. Some can take a lot, some not so much. The important thing is that you feel punished and can let go of the guilt after. Not to put more guilt on top by thinking you disappointed your Dom by not taking enough , that’s not an issue.

You all have enough guilt. Don’t add to it! Lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

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