Severe Punishment…What exactly should you expect.

 

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Well what to write about? Sometimes it’s hard to think of something that may be of interest but today I want to talk about levels of punishment. I knew that would get your attention my lovelies. OK  we have talked  about maintenance  reminders, brat punishments, etc. But not really about when severity is needed.

Now  in Bree’s case this is not needed very often. However, some of you certainly have earned this. So what does that mean?  Torture?  Bondage?  Having to listen to Kenny G? OK, that last one is too Desade, even for me…

A severe punishment is much different than just a hard one. For me, I like to  have the subbie bound over my spanking bench. Not only is this a humiliating position, but one she cannot even wiggle out of. So the bb is  presented perfectly and if need be the thighs, once in this position  the subbie knows this is serious  and will be very painful. I will probably use my hand some, maybe up to 70%  in some cases. My usual spankings are around 30% for a hard one. Once the sub feels the difference she knows she is in really deep. This is usually where the begging and whining starts. Which of course, I ignore.  Now  a severe punishment requires two things;  A lot of implements, and very painful strokes. Oh and time… It takes quite a long time.

Implements i would use are small wood paddle w/holes,  large school paddle, attitude adjustment paddle, all wood brush, strap, OTK thin cane, school cane, singapore thick cane, rug beater, small rug beater, large tawse – thin and thick.

Now if you did not faint, you can see this is a punishment to be avoided at all costs. And yes, I have applied this, so its not a fantasy. It’s as real as it gets.

I am  feeling a bit Desade today so i thought I would write a post from that perspective.  If you are curious of a subbie’s position over a spanking bench, just google images. I think you will get the idea.

Good to be back.  Be good or else.

SJ

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Alternative Punishments for Bad Subbies..

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Hello lovelies, what? You did not know I had cages for when Bree and Nikki are really out of control?  lol I wonder how many of you bought that? Come on I am not that desade,  and anyway thats a bit big for my punishment room…

OK, so this post is about  other punishments for bad subbies. Now you all know me pretty well by now, and you know I love to spnk ..I own that with no reservations… But sometimes other means can be effective also. And  just to make a point some Doms will punish even if the skin is broken. I do not, so what to do if the sub still needs punishment? Well, A sub can be grounded. Yes you read right.  It’s rather humilliating and certainly not as effective as a bb punishment, (what is right?) but it has its place.  I also like corner time as a punishment….Now with this, you have many options. The sub can be bentover displaying her red bb, or in sub position bb up,  or the english  favorite hands on head skirt up panties down. Now I am not a proponent of some other dom methods; soaping, figging, etc.  Not judging,  just not my thing.There is also a very good punishment that involves being in sub position,I must admit I enjoy this position presented to me. BB up. Especilly if there are nice cane stripes. However to add to this humiliation,  I order the writing of lines in long hand and with a time limit..If the lines are not written in time,  the sub is in perfect position for some paddle motivation, unless the skin is broken. If thats the case,  I might play a Kenny G record or something..  I know its really desade but what can I say?

Now best case dom scenrio? For the start of a session subbie in postion bb up  and asking for discipline. Then, sound punishment session and corner time with flaming red bb, and a sincere thank you Sir apology.

It’s good to be the Dom. Be good or else…

SJ

Safe Words of Wisdom From SJ

 

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OK lovelies, here is something that (if it hasn’t already)  may come up. Most sites will tell you  to always have a safe word. While I get that its hardly that simple,  lets imagine a scenario.  You  have been talking to a prospective Dom. You like each other and  you have talked for about 2 weeks and feel pretty good about him You have mentioned,  or if he is a true dom he has brought up, your need for atonement and accountability. You agree. However, heres the deal ..If you are meeting for true punishment, for true misbehaviors, a safe word really takes it out of reality, and more into role play. How can you feel truly punished, if you can stop your spanking whenever you want?

Ok I hear you.  But Sir, he’s a stranger.  If i don’t have some control, what if he goes overboard? Good point. And one you have to weigh with how much you feel you can trust this guy  and how guilty you feel for your behavior. I did alot of in-person sessions before I met Bree, and I told all of them, if this is real accountability then no safe word.  Most understood. Some said no, and I respected that.You see, alot of women came to me complaining that the guy that spanked them stopped way too soon. They did not feel truly punished, so they left frustrated, and even more guilty.

Now lets take a role play scenario, or a sub space session.  This is totally different. In role play, you are pretending to misbehave, so a safe word works as its not reality.  In a sub space session, its all about you. So you can have safe words, and even verbalize what you want.

So bottom (yes pun intended)  line, its up to you. If you do not really trust the guy, you have no buiness being with him any way. Just be safe. And make sure you know what you really want.

Be good or else!

SJ

PROPER SUB BEHAVIOR IN PUBLIC

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So I see all of you are interested in two main subjects. I will talk about the first one in this blog post, and will address the second in my next post. So how is a sub supposed to act in public with her Dom? Well the simple answer my lovelies, is as he orders her too. But  as you have all seen in these posts, simple is not really the way of the D/s lifestyle.

 

First and foremost, the sub must never create any kind of public scene. How many times have you seen couples yelling at each other in a restaurant, or standing in line for a movie? In the D/s world this never happens. And if it does, it is up to the top to make sure it never happens a second time. You see, when you are out with your Dom you reflect all his training, anything positive, or negative. One of the most serious behaviors my sub can commit is to reflect badly on my training in public.

 

A Dom treasures his sub. When she is out with him, he wants to show her off. He wants the world to see how well behaved she is. How she speaks, how she walks, how she  sits at the table, all reflect back to the Dom. Now some Doms, myself included, may want a specific action from his sub. I have told Bre to make sure when we sit down at a restaurant or in the car, to have her bb touching the leather or cloth material .This is usually after a good spanking, as I believe a sub must be spanked before going out in public, to remind them of just how they are to behave.

 

Now the other side of the coin is the Dom must never mistreat his sub, or cause any negativity to befall her while he is out with her. This is a two-way street. A sub must always be treated with respect and kindness. A Dom must be a gentleman in the world. Hold doors open, speak softly, etc.. Just because she is out with a top, does not mean he can or should order her around and embarrass her. But, if misbehavior occurs it can be delt with in a couple of ways. A trip to the car for a bb brushing (I always keep a brush in the glove compartment just in case). Or he can just softly tell his submissive, “this will be taken care of as soon as we get home.” If the top has a vibe, these words will be enough to stop any bad behavior.

 

And the punishment for any public outburst is severe indeed, but thats another post.   So… Let me know what you think, and remember, some of you have been a bit lax in the respect department  WHEN POSTING. I do not want to see that again from any of you,       be good or else!

 

SJ

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