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Hello lovelies,

I had a question for all of you today. I thought it would be interesting to see your answers.

In one sitting…no scratch that…At one time what’s the most spanks you have ever gotten by…

  • hand
  • hairbrush
  • paddle
  • strap
  • spoon
  • cane
  • or any implement

This is without a break. As you know, Dom roll please lol, my record for delivering hand spanks at one time is over 20,000 ta-da, not bad right?

Now for you unfortunate lovelies that have not been spanked yet, how many of these things do you think you could take? These are punishment strokes not sub space or pain/pleasure strokes.  Enjoy your memories or your fantasizes.

Be good, or else…

SJ

 

Lines and Strokes

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Hello lovelies,

I was wondering…

Some of my subbies say they would rather have spanks or strokes rather than write lines. How do you all feel about that?

I am not just talking sit and write lines. I usually have my subbie in the corner bb and then sit and write.

Which do you feel is more of a deterrent for bad behavior?

A sound OTK bb spanking. Maybe the paddle or even the cane…Or…Being sent to the corner bb to write lines about your behavior?

Which do you feel is more of a deterrent for bad behavior?

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Personally I find both very effective especially in the same session, but that’s just me, lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Man v. Machine

Hello lovelies,

I don’t know if you are aware but there are quite a few spanking machines out there. Yes, the old fantasy of having a machine to spank your subbie is a reality. I am not saying this is for lazy Doms, lol, just an addition.

The main perk here is for self spanking as there is one major problem with self spanking: arm fatigue. For the majority of you, your arm gives out way before you have spanked hard enough or long enough. Also, you will tend to back off the intensity when it really starts to sting. This is understandable as your sense of self-preservation kicks in. The beauty of the machine is that once its set and in motion it doesn’t let up or get softer as your bottom starts to sting and it never gets tired.

I do phone sessions with all my subs from time to time. I do this to keep the dynamic more personal and also to monitor the spanking. Since I can hear everything there is no way for my subs to cheat and go lighter than I want. If the machine is used it solves that problem and also makes the spanking more painful and intense.

The machine I have has controls for how often the stroke comes and how hard that stroke is. Once its set there is no escape and it’s almost like a true in person punishment. My machine on an 8 with a thin cane will elicit loud screams and nice marks. On a 10 it’s severe. Of course you can set it lower for a pleasure spanking but the real advantage is for punishment.

I have even tried a double caning with Bree. I let the machine give a stroke and as it was setting for the next I gave her one. She did not enjoy it nearly as much as I did.

Now there is the drawback of it being impersonal, after all it is a machine, but if the Dom orders the implement, the number of intensity and sets the timer it’s almost like he’s giving the spanking or paddling or caning etc. The subbie must stay in position or get some strokes in places she does not want them.

I am sure you are all online looking for your machine lol. I think all subbies should have one but that’s just me.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Thigh Don’t Think So

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Hello lovelies,

Recently, I was looking for videos to send to some subbies when I happened to see one from a spanking party in Vegas. As you know I had a very bad experience when I attended one there but I still thought I would give it a look. I was surprised at how severe the spanking and paddling was but it seemed like it was in a private suite so, ok with me as long as it was consensual.

It was done by a man and a woman with two subbies, rather young, with the couple being much older. I was ok until I saw something that I found disturbing. The man was using a wood paddle on the backs of the female’s thighs.

This is not only irresponsible but dangerous. Thighs do not have the padding a bottom does and a hematoma is likely with a heavy implement. Now don’t get me wrong, I do spank subbies thighs but usually for two main reasons: one, they are very masochistic and enjoy it or they need punishment and it’s not getting through just across their bottoms. Two, they keep being defiant, especially when over the knee with things like getting out of position etc.

I NEVER EVER use hard impact implements and mostly use my hand, a thin cane or switch, or a thin whip. Even then I am careful not to break the skin. As my subbies will tell you, a few sharp spanks on the thighs by my hand is usually enough to get them in position.

Now maybe the girls at the party dug being paddled on their thighs, hey it’s their thing I am not judging. I am saying, to me, as a Dom, I would refuse to do that as I find it irresponsible. I think you should be really careful with even just a thin implement on the thighs.

So why the post? I care about all of you, and for those that are thinking about setting up a session with a new Dom I am telling you to insist on two things: an emotional safe word for triggers and NO thigh spanking, for the first time. I understand a Dom giving you a few with his hand on your upper thighs if you are OTK and getting mouthy but no implements. I want you newbies to be safe and have a great experience. The video started me worrying about you, oh get over it it’s what Doms do, lol.

Anyway, promise me you will follow my rules for a first meeting and also you will insist on the two things I just mentioned. D/s is great if you are with a responsible Dom. Just be careful, and its ok to say no.

Be good and safe, or else…

SJ

Too Hard, Too Light, Just Right

2015-12-14

Hello lovelies,

I thought I would write something a bit different today. In fact I want you all to interact with me on this. I want your feedback on a topic I was thinking about.

I would like to know what denotes a perfect spanking for you. One that if you were talking to your vanilla friends or sister subbies you would say “man he can really spank.”

There are many layers to consider, I know. I would think you all will differ here and there.

Consider a reward or play spanking. Then a punishment spanking.

All otk? All by hand only? Be as detailed as you like. And of course enjoy!!

Be good, or else…

SJ

Subbie Guilt

2015-11-07

Hello lovelies,

I am sure you are all familiar with this heading yes?  I mean subbie’s have more guilt than anyone I know. I love you all but you know it’s true.

I did a session not too long ago. It was a punishment session resulting in marks and a lot of tears, as these kinds of sessions often do. Now during this session something happened. As you all know I am sadistic, but I am all about you being safe in a session so I monitor you closely.

This particular subbie had been hand spanked to tears and was then put over the spanking bench and secured. Her transgressions were serious so she had a paddling and a caning coming. I decided to use the heart first, which as some of you know burns like fire especially on a sore bottom. During this part of her spanking she began to cry again but her breathing became erratic. That’s wasn’t good as she started to hyperventilate, so much so I had to stop and calm her down before her cane strokes.

I had decided to end the session after the cane as I felt she may be at risk if I went any longer. After calming her down I gave her 12 strokes and she was done. I did aftercare, held her, forgave her and made sure she was ok.

It seemed she was so I went downstairs and she went into the living room. When I came in to check on her she was crying. I asked what was wrong and she said she felt bad she could not take what I had planned for her!

I did say you all have more than your share of guilt to drag around did I not? Lol

I explained to her that it’s never a question of me being disappointed if you can’t take as much as I planned for you . It is always a matter of you being safe. You need to learn a lesson, of course, but not at the expense of your health (physical/mental/emotional).

I want you all to get this…a punishment session is meant to hurt but it’s not a matter of taking so much or disappointing me. Every subbie is different. Some can take a lot, some not so much. The important thing is that you feel punished and can let go of the guilt after. Not to put more guilt on top by thinking you disappointed your Dom by not taking enough , that’s not an issue.

You all have enough guilt. Don’t add to it! Lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Different Strokes

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Hello lovelies,

I want to talk today about spanking. Yes I know, that’s a surprise SJ! Some of you may not realize how many different kinds of spankings there are. Here in the Hayse house I employ quite a few.

Step this way, the tour is about to begin…

Punishment:

This can involve a lot of things and are usually done in the punishment room: hand, brush, heart paddle, school paddle, strap and if you are really bad the cane, rug beater or my thin whip. Hey, don’t panic on me…I said really bad. Also for the cane or something similar I do use the spanking bench to tie you down so that you don’t move and get the stroke in a very bad area. See what an awesome and considerate Dom I am?

Follow me  to the next stop on the tour…

Reminder spankings:

These can be done anywhere usually just hand and a red bottom but not really painful. It’s  just a reminder to be good today.

Welcome spankings:

This is when you visit, it’s a way of welcoming you to our house and a reminder that you are expected to behave. Again, hand and a red bottom but not really painful.

Sub space:

Now you’re back with me right? This is usually done in the bedroom, on our bed or on our massage table   but could be on the futon in punishment room. Now this is the one time you get to have input. A subspace session is all about you and getting you to that kind of out of body zone. You can request your favorite implements,  how hard , how slow  etc. What I do find is that once you are in the zone you can’t really talk so it’s up to me to keep you there. I try to do at least one of these when a subbie visits.

Reward spankings:

Like a reminder but more of a pleasant sting. These are given if you have been very good.

Thank you for taking the tour…You can make your reservations anytime.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Subbie Survivor

Hello lovelies,

As some of you know I had a birthday on the 3rd, and before you ask, no the house did not burn down from all the candles on the cake.

Being a dom, what would I want most for my birthday?

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Exactly…

I told Bree to bring me an implement every hour from 10 am to 5 pm, which she did. Yes it was very enjoyable for me and not so much for her, lol.

You can stop with the Mr. Meanie chants, it’s my party and I’ll spank if I want to!!

After we started talking, we decided with a little tweaking this could be a really fun game…for me, not the subbies.

Here is the sample breakdown for Subbie Survivor:

2 Subs, 5 Implement groups and 5 hours of playing time

Hour 1

Sub 1 votes for the leather strap group.

Sub 2 votes for the leather strap group.

There are 8 straps in this group, I choose the bullet strap and apply minimum 5 strokes to each subbie.  (Come on its me 5? More like 15) After, the rest of the straps are voted off of Subbie lsland.

Hour 2

Sub 1 votes for the wood paddles group (crazy subbie lol)

Sub 2 votes for the floggers group

A coin is flipped to see which group is chosen.

Paddles win, yes!!!! I choose one from a group of ten and paddle the subbies as many as I want and the paddle group is voted off.

Hour 3

Sub 1 and Sub 2 both vote for floggers

(You get the idea, right?)

Hour 4

Sub 1 votes for the rubber group.

Sub 2 votes for the cane group.

Coin flip, canes win. Lots of striping and yelling but then the canes are voted off. Plus, I am having such a good time lol.

Hour 5 (Final)

Only rubber group remains.

Sub 1 has a score of 4. Two unanimous votes and two winning coin flips.

Sub 2 has a score of 2. Two unanimous votes and two losing coin flips.

I pick the rubber implement from the group and apply to loser.

Game over!! I win, of course.

Thanks to all of you for your birthday wishes.

Be good, or else…

SJ

 

Marks

2014-11-29

Hello lovelies,

I do hope as you read this at least a few of you are red or at least have sore bottoms, which brings me to my post…marks pro or con?

Marks are inevitable, especially in a severe session. Redness is always a factor but marks can vary depending on the sub. Some subs mark easily, some not so much. Most of the subs I have sessioned with or trained say they like to see marks on their bottom, especially after a severe session. They feel if they are going to suffer that much pain they want something to show for it, lol.

Marks can vary as well. A heavy school paddle can bruise deeply, while a cane or rug beater will leave surface welts. Even leather can mark. In particular whips of various lengths and thicknesses. The thinner ones leave long thin welts while the heavier ones mark wider and deeper.

Some subs even like extreme marks, even to the point of blood being produced. I am not into that but different strokes…literally, lol. Also remember a Dom is not being cruel if you mark, it just means that is the result of your punishment for a particular behavior.

If any of you are looking for a Dom, one of the questions you need to ask is ‘Does he mark in a session?’, then you need to figure out if that’s what you want. A marking session is much more painful than a red bb one. Sometimes subs feel marks are a deterrent and avoid them at all costs. Others, as I have said, not only want them but need them to show that they indeed were really punished.

So lovelies where do you come down on the issue? Have you ever been really marked, not just red but bruised or welted? If so did you enjoy that feeling and that sight or not?

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Anyway it was on my mind so thought I would get all your takes on this as I do love to hear from you. Marks may be in your future, so…

Be good, or else…

SJ

Ch Ch Ch Changes

2014-11-23

Hello lovelies,

It’s a spankable offense if you do not understand where this title comes from, lol.

As most of you know Bree and I have been together for 12 years or so. I kid you not when I tell you the real punishment sessions have been few and far between. She’s just very well behaved. At first it took a few sessions, but not many, to get her to this level. Oh she does brat every day, a little, to get her red bottomed fix but nothing serious.

As I have stated there is a catch 22 to having a Dom. You want to be good to please him but, if you are you do not get the spankings you craved before you met him. Some subbies need very hard spankings daily, some not so much.

To address this, I decided to institute a little change in our dynamic. I told Bree she would report to me at 2 pm every day. She will bring a different implement and present her bb for any type of spanking I am in the mood to give. It could be light or sound or hard or severe, it just depends on my mood. If Bree is late or refuses to bring an implement or forgets about the session then it automatically becomes a punishment session with an implement of my choosing.

This is not a punishment exercise, it is an exercise in obedience and submission. Plus it addresses a subbie’s tendency to procrastinate, come on you all do its part of your DNA.

Now it’s only been a few days but here are the results so far:

Day One: She was not on time and got a good hot red bb using my hand and an implement.

Day Two: We had been antique shopping that day and bought a rug beater and a nice OTK wood paddle. In fact much to her surprise when we found it I bent her over in the store for a very loud try out, lol. She was quite surprised. Now let me ease your fears, no one was around to see but it did produce a nice owww after the fact. She was late and got the same, but both implements for not being on time. Tearfully said she would be on time today, we shall see.

I have over 100 implements. You do the math on how long this little exercise in submission will continue. I have said it many times but it’s oh so true…good to be the Dom.

Be good, or else…

SJ

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