Ok stop the eye rolling lovelies. I can just hear you…
Oh yes SJ we all know your hand is like a paddle. We could not sit after one of your spankings.
Well, true! But *buzzzzzzzz* wrong!
A Dom’s hand has the power to do a lot more than just spank. Think about this…
It’s your first spanking; let’s say it’s with me. I mean were all friends right? I take you OTK and bare your bottom. Now, that in itself is very embarrassing yes? But, then I just lay my hand on your cheek, no spanks yet.
Suddenly the power of the hand on bare flesh starts to work. Not only are you in a most humiliating position but a man’s hand is resting on your bb.
If you are used to being in control, being able to manipulate and get your own way, just the fact that you are being held down, having my hand on your bb tells you, not this time, and no spanks yet!
The spanks start, at first you might kind of like it but after a while you might say “Ok SJ, I’ve had enough! Ok? Uh SJ? Owwww!” Right? I just keep going.
Now the power of the hand is a more tangible entity but it’s conveying so much more than just pain.
Teaching? Yes, hopefully.
There is one key ingredient that must be present for you to feel these things. You have to know I care and, that I am doing this for your own good. Even though you may hate me during, and after, eventually you will realize it was for your own good and I do care.
The hand can also communicate things in a non-punishment scenario. It can calm you when you are stressed or soothe your sore bottom or even put you deep in a pain/pleasure zone. Not all spankings are punishments and even though it may really sting, 15 minutes or so later it will start to feel good. Even if you fight it, trust me.
So you see how much power the hand can have? Control, teaching, humiliation (to a point), calming, soothing, reducing stress or even getting you to sub space.
I always start a first session with a hand spanking to establish not only control, but to build a bond. It’s an intimate thing…flesh to flesh. There is no sexual agenda but it can be sensual in certain contexts. This is why for severity I use wood implements or a cane etc. That’s colder and the intimate flesh to flesh is not present.
Who knows some of you may visit sometime and see first…wait for it…hand, lol. Anyway, think about this and remember none of it happens unless the Dom really cares about you, and teaching you to be a better behaved young lady and a proper submissive. And you know I care about all of you.
Be good, or else…