This week we I am so pleased to introduce my Uncle K. He is warm and fuzzy and the best uncle around. And he is gonna talk a little bit about Age Play and what it means to him. Please feel free to comment and ask any questions you may have. If you do not want to comment publicly though, just email me and I am happy to forward his email address to you.
My good friend and favorite niece BreeBree, asked me if I would do a post about age play for her blog. When someone as cute as her asks, it is hard to say no. Well, not that hard, and I like this topic and her so here we go.
To her I am Uncle K. I have been into age play for the past ten years of my life. Five of those years have been spent with my wife and little girl, Lily. Over the past five years we have had our ups and downs, but I have never been closer to anyone in my whole life, and age play has played a big role in that.
I got my start a long time ago, with a girlfriend who was into age play. While the relationship with this girl was short lived, it changed something inside me. Every relationship I have had since has been a Daddy/little girl one.
Age play can cover pretty much any age. A majority of littles are younger but can range from infants, toddlers, or even up to teens. Yes… some not only act the part but dress it as well. Including wearing adult diapers and adult size baby clothes. And yes, some do use their diapers for their intended purpose. The little’s partner is normally a parental figure to them, but can also be an uncle, brother, cousin or any variation. In my case I have always been a Daddy to Lily or an Uncle to a few others.
One of the main questions I am asked about this lifestyle is “do you ever get tired of being a Daddy or an Uncle all the time?” My answer is simply, no. I do not mind taking care of others, I enjoy it. Like I tell my girl all the time, my number one job is to take care of her, and to love her. This means helping her with homework, keeping her on task, rubbing her back so she can sleep at night, packing her lunch, picking out her clothes, and well, you get the point. While some people think this is totally unfair for one person to do all that and more all the time, I would remind them that I enjoy this and gladly signed up for it. There are also people that think that being cared for this way sounds like an easy life and would love to jump right in. This is also not the case.
This is a unique type of relationship, one that involves a great deal of trust. For someone to open up like this to another person is a gift. They are exposing themselves to their very core. This is why when people ask me questions about getting into this, I always tell them to think about what they are willing to put out there. Whether being a Big or a little, there is a lot to think about. As a Big you have to want to be responsible for another person, much like you would a child. You also have to be ready to earn and maintain their trust in you. As a little, you have to make sure you are ready to depend on another person, and are willing to place them in control of even little things like feeding, or playing with you.
This isn’t to say that bumps don’t come along. Come on, everyone makes mistakes, things can be fixed but sometimes it takes longer to fix then others, especially when trust or communication breaks down. The most important thing to remember is to be open and honest with yourself and your partner. Regardless of your roles in the relationship, communication is the key. I would definitely recommend talking about the good and the bad that happened during your age play time, particularly if this is a new area for you. Sometimes little people forget that us Bigs can’t read minds, and we need a hand in figuring out where to go and what to do next.
I encourage anyone who thinks that this type of relationship is something you want, to go for it. The worse thing that happens is that you find out it is something that you really don’t want after all. If anyone has questions or comments, I am happy to answer them, and give any help or advice I can to help you find your way, or just help get things back on track.
Also, if you would like the littles perspective, Uncle K’s wife Lilly has a blog where she shares her life with her Daddy.
Uncle K
Interview
Mojo Monday! Embracing your Kink with Renee Rose
This week I am so pleased to welcome Renee Rose to Mojo Monday! She is such a wonderful author. So talented and funny. We just love her. So thanks Renee for joining us here today. If you want to read more from Renee, take a trip over to her blog. Always something fun and hot going on over there. Welcome Renee!
Embracing your Kink
Thank you to Bree for inviting me to Mojo Monday! It’s an honor to hang out with the Grand Dame of spanking. For those of you who don’t know me, I came out of the closet as a spanko less than a year ago, after I published my first spanking romance.
Remember the Langston Hughes poem about a dream deferred? I have a theory about a kink deferred. I think a kink turned inward on itself–an unexpressed kink, or unaccepted kink—festers just like that dream. I let mine fester for far too long before I asked for what I wanted (a spanking. Or two. Or 500!) Only then did I finally start to understand that I wasn’t “weird,” that submission could be empowering, and that expressing myself sexually was something I should not have neglected.
I think that the occasional “creepy” blog comment that comes in in spankoville is from someone who is living in shame of their kink. It causes a strange vibe. Who knows, maybe sex crimes wouldn’t exist if people would just ASK for what they wanted and feel okay about asking. Rape fantasies can be acted out with willing partners, spankings can be had with safe words. Age play can heal childhood traumas for both participants.
But I’m not saying that fetish/kink comes from a place of loss or trauma. I’m not a spanko because I got spanked too much as a kid or not enough, or because my daddy didn’t love me as much as I wanted him to. I just came into this world with a lust for the spank. I love the thrill of the power exchange, the vulnerability of trusting my man to be in charge and take me to a place of pain. It’s not something that requires curing though unconditional love. It’s something that requires spanking for orgasmic fantasy fulfillment!
I blur the lines between discipline and sex a lot in my books. By the end, one or both of the characters will admit to liking spanking– and the intimacy forged between the characters through spanking will ultimately be what brings them together as a couple. In my latest western spanking romance, The Devil of Whiskey Row, the prostitutes at Daddy Diggs’ brothel joke that spanking is Daddy Diggs’ substitute for sex. He’s not in denial about the satisfaction he gets from disciplining his “girls”.
Here’s a very short excerpt:
He could hear her ragged breathing, but she hadn’t uttered any cries or whimpers, nor had she pleaded for him to stop. He rubbed her bottom lightly. It was perfectly shaped, like two round orbs—the firm muscle offering a satisfying, springy target. He didn’t know how Smoochy had disciplined Cora, but he imagined it was far more brutal than spanking.
Jake loved to spank. He loved the act of spanking and he loved that his girls submitted willingly to his discipline—even seemed to crave it as attention from him. Spanking was not overly painful, but it was humbling for the recipient. For the disciplinarian, it was an act of dominance, a declaration of power.
Since he hadn’t achieved her submission, he worked the dominance angle with Cora, spreading her cheeks and pressing his middle finger to the entrance of her anus. She stiffened like a board, squeezing her cheeks together tightly and lifting her torso horizontal to the floor. He applied several hard slaps to the back of her thighs, this time eliciting a tiny squeak.
“Cora,” he said gently, “you agreed to my rules, you agreed to my discipline.”
She shook her head rapidly. “No!” she gasped.
The Devil of Whiskey Row
Forced by miserable circumstance to work in a gold rush brothel, Cora Underhill hates what her life has become. When a fire sweeps through her workplace, she welcomes death as an end to it all. But then Jake Diggory crashes through her window for an unwelcome rescue, offering her shelter and a paid position at his establishment. She accepts, in spite of Jake’s fearsome reputation as ‘The Devil Diggory’, and soon sees another side to Jake–the firm but caring side of him which led his girls to name him ‘Daddy Diggs’.
Life at Daddy Diggs’ is an entirely new experience for Cora. Jake has strict rules which he backs up with over the knee discipline, but he will not tolerate any mistreatment of his girls and he can go from playing beautiful music on a piano to defending them with his bare fists. The strangest thing of all, however, is the fact that every girl at Daddy Diggs’ swears that Jake has never slept with her, or with any other woman for that matter, since his fiancée’s death back in Ireland fifteen years ago.
Cora attempts to emulate the other prostitutes at Daddy Diggs’, who enjoy making money, holding power over men and even the act of sex, but she still finds no pleasure in the company of men–until the day she inadvertently arouses the passion of The Devil Diggory. His fierce lovemaking thaws some frozen part of her, but it seems Jake is only attracted to her because she resembles his dead fiancée. Confused by his new feelings for Cora and guilt over his broken vow of celibacy, Jake pushes Cora away. Can he come to terms with his past and claim Cora for his own, or will his grief keep them apart forever?
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Renee Rose, erotic romance author, did not come out of the closet as a spanko until she published her spanking romanceBetrothed. A lifelong writer, she has a B.A. in creative writing from Knox College, where she won the Davenport prize for both fiction and poetry, and the Lorraine Smith prize for literary criticism. She spent thirteen years in technical writing before she found a way to incorporate her deepest darkest spanking fantasies into fiction and express a part of her that longed to see the light. She is now passionate about supporting others in accepting and exploring their kink, whatever that may be. Visit her blog at http://www.reneeroseromance.com and join the conversation!
She can also be found on: Twitter, Facebook and Goodreads
Mojo Monday!
This week for Mojo Monday I am sooo pleased to welcome my very close personal friend, Korey Mae Johnson. She has a really hot new book out this week called Shared Between Them which is about one of my favorite topics. So, everyone please welcome Korey.
Thanks for having me on your blog!
Bree and I like to go back and forth about our perversions; somehow, we’ve become extremely proud of ourselves because of the naughty content we write. We love dominance, submission, humiliation to a degree that might not be healthy, but we don’t care. We can’t get enough of it. The naughtier the better. I told Bree what DP means, and she’s been holding my hand through explaining pony-girls to me which, after reading Blindfolded, your curiosity will be undeniable as well. (It’s the new kink on the block.)
I have a strange relationship with the spanking fetish. I have confused thoughts and feelings about the whole thing in general, since I don’t actually enjoy being in pain. I’ve never known subspace… I just know that space where James spanks my ass until I would promise to turn into a blue banana if he’d only give me a break “just this once!” That being said, from my earliest memories I’ve been allured by it, obsessed with it. Spanking tended to sneak into every single story I’ve written. Spanking’s my security blanket that I walk around with; it’s my norm. I see it all day, every day, and it’s just around. At one point, I remember I could get my heart racing from reading a spanking story by itself. Hell, looking the word up in the dictionary would make me sweat under the collar.
Not anymore, though. I’ve gone to the dark-side within the last year. Call me desensitized, but spanking alone’s not going to get my blood pumping. I need sex in my stories. In fact, visit my Goodreads account and you’ll see that I have an addiction to a lot of mainstream romance novelists. Why? Because of naughty, delicious mmm-good, sex. I watch porn–not spanking porn, just porn–and when I read spanking books, if there’s not something spicier in it, I’m going to go “Hm, heh…” Don’t get me wrong–I love romance and characters and dialogue and everything else (and you do too or else you wouldn’t be a Breanna Hayse fan), but for a story to grab me, it has to make me look back and forth and hope my husband doesn’t catch me reading it.
Blindfolded gave me that feel, for example. Whoo boy, is that book kinky. Just you wait, people–you’re about to have an awkening, there.
While Bree was writing that, however, I was writing my own Ode to le Naughtiness: <em>Shared Between Them</em>. I don’t know why but non-consensual spanking + non-consensual sex + two men and one woman + dirty talk + anal play + double penetration was just some of the things I thought about as I drifted off to sleep at night.
Do ladies like us write for everyone? Well, no. Never will you find a genre so diverse as the spanking community. There are plenty of people who really just want a spanking on top of the jeans and they’re as happy as a unicorn eating rainbows.
I like to go out of my comfort zone, though. I don’t like writing the same thing all the time; I like to step out and explore, even if I write a scene completely wrong because of it. It’s important to develop your voice and style as your career goes forth, but I decided that if I was going to write erotica anyway (which all spanking-specific books are categorized despite their level of tameness)… I might as well go full-metal jacket.
Anyway, Bree’s trying to take us to naughty-town soon and I’m trying to step in front of her, blowing my own horn to announce her arrival. Whilst you’re twiddling your thumbs in wait, take a peak at the “Dark Side” with <em>Shared Between Them</em>.
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SHARED BETWEEN THEM BY KOREY MAE JOHNSON
Considered untouchable by her kin, Kyra has been an outcast all her life. Then two massive, battle-hardened human warriors stride into her woods on a quest to kill a giant and claim a great reward, and after her attempt at petty thievery is foiled, she finds herself stripped naked and soundly spanked.
But that is only the beginning, for the reward for the death of the giant is not only gold and jewels, but the hand of an elf-maiden in marriage, and Kyra is shocked to the core when she learns that the humans have not only completed the quest which cost the life of every previous adventurer, but they have chosen her as their prize.
Taric and Draeven neither understand nor concern themselves with Kyraís status as an outcastóall they see is the most beautiful of all the elves, a woman who they have both longed to claim as their own and fill with their seed since they first set eyes upon her. Raised as brothers, they have shared many women before, and now they will share a wifeóand take her in any way they please, as often as they please, until she bears a son for themÖ the half-elven son of giantslayers whose birth has long been foretold.
Kyra, who had never expected to feel the pleasure of a manís gentle touch, now must submit herself to the fierce, insatiable needs of two hulking barbarians. Yet something stirs within her, and though she blushes with shame at the very thought, she wonders if a day will come soon when she will beg for more.
PUBLISHER’S NOTE: Shared Between Them is an erotic novel that includes both consensual and non-consensual spankings, anal play, graphic sexual scenes including threesomes and sex for the purpose of breeding, exhibitionism, elements of BDSM, and much more. If such material offends you, please donít buy this book.
Mojo Monday’s
Alright, already! You win!! What, you ask??????
The peeps have literally been flooding us with questions about how authors are inspired, where do they find their muse, and how they communicate a story to make it successful in the eyes, minds, and hearts of the readers. It touches me to see how the people are genuinely curious about a book’s origin…. And they want to get to know the person behind the pen. So, without further adieu, we at Breanna Hayse Romance bring to you (drumroll, please)
MOJO MONDAY’S!
So, in the tradition of our age play element, grab your teapot and pour yourself a Cup O’Tea and a couple of cookies, and let’s get inside the heads of your favorite authors.
I want to introduce Abbie Adams to you. She is one of my closest and dearest friends who finally stomped her little foot and said, I am gonna write this! Still at Number One Best Seller for Blushing Books….
Please say hello to Abbie Adams, Author of A Little Training! Please give her a round of applause and a hearty congratulations on such a longstanding placement on Blushing Seller list.
Bree: Welcome Abbie, thank you so much for stopping by today.
Abbie: Uh UH! No, Thank you. For letting me be here.. If it weren’t for you I never would have accepted my inner- little girl as a normal part of myself. Well, Maybe I still haven’t totally accepted it- but I’m getting closer.And, well I wanted to say thank you anyway for the way you write with a goal- of educating people. You really help individuals to understand themselves and grow. I remember being afraid to even visit your blog, afraid to comment. I held my breath as I sent the first hesitant email to you. You responded right away and continued to talk me off the edge so many times in the past year. I don’t know what I would do without you, Nikki and even SJ. Thank you for everything.
Bree: You are so welcome. I am doing what I love and I am so humbled when I hear that I am truly helping others navigate through this lifestyle.
Bree: What inspired you to write A Little Training?
Abbie: A Little Training has always been there in my head; a fantasy if you will. I had to get it out, somehow… of course, I have added to it over the years and it has changed course from the innocent way it started out a long time ago.
Bree: What was the hardest part of writing this book?
Abbie: Uhm, not weirding myself out and stunting my own growth? Does that even make sense? I mean being afraid to share the deepest parts of my mind with my readers. Yeah, I got some freaky stuff in there. Sometimes, I am afraid to really write what comes to mind. I have to let go and get past that.
Bree: Absolutely Abbie. And writing a book like this one can be difficult. Especially when you are sharing your deepest fantasy’s.
Bree: How did you come up with the title?
Abbie: Well, I had a few in mind. This one was quite simple. There is nothing quite like having a Dominant man looking down on you with “The Look” and an “I don’t want to hear another word- “little girl.” Who doesn’t want to be called little? Now the training part of the title, well that just goes with the plot, although I don’t feel that a lot of formal training goes on. It is more like an informal training of just letting go.
Bree: How does it feel to be number one on Blushing Books web site for so long?
Abbie: Wow, it still surprises me. I keep waiting for it to fall off. I don’t know why it stays there.
Bree: Sweetheart, it is staying there because it is such a tasty treat! Enjoy the ride!
Bree: How do you rate success?
Abbie: That is a very hard question to answer. Seeing my book go number one doesn’t mean “Hey, I’m so popular!” It means that these people totally got something out of this book. They understood me. They related to the struggle of my characters. I had a really hard time letting this story out, and this going to the top of the chart means it was good that I let it out, and maybe somebody else relates.
Bree:If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your latest book?
Abbie: Yes, I would rework the sex scene. Somehow, I made it out to be a punishment for the girls and I really didn’t intend for that. It was going to happen, it was just brought on sooner by Caity’s actions. But, it was never meant as a punishment.
Also, I think I would have taken more time with some of the explanation or feelings with the changes to the little girls kitty’s. Many of my readers have expressed concern over it and I can understand it. It is very different from anything I have ever heard of before. However, I know it is very popular for women and men alike to buy creams to alter their size. Women always want to be tighter and men always want to be bigger.
The desire is there in women to have to stretch and have discomfort to take a man into her. Men have the same desire to know that a woman is tight, and has to stretch to accept him. Women also want at times to be taken against their will, this is a natural desire. These are the things I was reaching for in this area of my fantasy. I hope I will be able to express that better in the next book.
Bree: What was your favorite chapter (or part) to write and why?
Abbie: I don’t want to give anything away but I think it has to be when that bratty Sara gets her just desserts.
Bree: Yea, Nikki and I liked that part as well 😉
Bree: Where do you get your ideas for your books?
Abbie:Well, you take a little of this and a little of that and you mix it in the bowl… No, I don’t know where it comes from. Ideas just come- from everyday life, things that happen around me. Dreams that I have, I do a lot of pondering, what if this happened? Or what if that? I don’t use an outline for the most part my books start with a single thought, or plot element and develop into one favorite scene. Then I decide where that will fit into a story and plug away from there.
Bree: When did you first consider yourself a writer?
Abbie: I don’t know. Sometimes I still don’t feel like a writer. When I read some of my friend’s books, I think- OMG, I should just give up. They are so much more talented than I am. I know I write, I even have an office, and my hubby is amazingly supportive… but most of the time I still don’t feel like an author, a writer yes, an author no… someone provide the difference for me please. Maybe it’s when I get rich?
Bree: Is there anything you find particularly challenging in your writing?
Abbie: Letting go, getting rid of the insecurities… you didn’t catch that already did you? No, seriously. Just writing for my own enjoyment and not worrying about the rest. I think I worry so much and when I let go, is when I actually write better, go figure.
Another bigger challenge is time. Yes, my family is supportive but life tends to get in the way. Not just the other job but well there are children’s functions, holidays, sicknesses, and even deaths in the family. Life goes on and doesn’t care that you need to write.
Bree: What has been the toughest criticism given to you as an author? What has been the best compliment?
Abbie: Hmmm- I get a lot of comments about the endings. I always chalk it up to the fact I am writing a series. I try very hard to answer/solve the main issue of that book, but leave stuff for the series to go on. The problem I have is that people say the ending is abrupt. I don’t know if that is good or bad. I try to fill the story right up. I mean I have an outline of sorts of what I want to happen in each book, so when it ends and it seems to be cut off- there is another story to be told. Maybe I still need to find a better way to do this.
The best compliment- probably that my stories are so real, down to earth. You can get into the characters and feel what they feel.
Bree:What do you like to do when you’re not writing?
Abbie: Eat Oreos and read in a bubble bath.
Bree: If you couldn’t be an author, what would your ideal career be?
Abbie: An editor, Literary Agent, some other part of book marketing.
Bree: What childish things do you still do as adult?
Abbie: Get spanked. LOL, no seriously, I whine… I love popsicles, and coloring, and play-doh- who doesn’t love that stuff?
Crayons or Markers? Markers, I love those fuzzy velvet art posters and crayons just won’t do it. There is nothing like the deep color you get from markers. But, I won’t turn down crayons if that is all you have.
Bree: If you were five what would you read next?
Abbie: Junie B. Jones! I love that series… Wait can normal five year olds read those? Ok hang on…
I’m thinking it would have to be a Dr. Suess, Are you my Mother, Red Fish Blue Fish, In a People House.
Oh but I really like If you give a Moose a Muffin… And Bear Snores on… Dang can I pick more than one?
Oh but I really like If you give a Moose a Muffin… And Bear Snores on… Dang can I pick more than one?
Bree:If you could eliminate one thing from your daily schedule, what would it be and why?
Abbie: Going to the bathroom for sure… what a waste of time.
Bree: Do you have any advice for other writers?
Abbie: Just don’t be afraid to tell your story. Stop procrastinating and write it. If you are writing already, let loose, write for yourself and don’t worry what others will think, most of the time more people will love you for being real.
Thank you so much Abbie for stopping by and taking the time to answer our questions. A Little Training can be purchased on Blushing Books or Amazon. Check it out if you haven’t already. We loved it!