Upstairs/Downstairs

Hello lovelies,

As you all know I love smart women, I mean come on, I married one, right? But sometimes she’s too smart for her bottoms own good.

Take last night for example, Bree was supposed to be upstairs sleeping. I’m downstairs watching a horror movie. It’s getting good, they are about to unmask the killer and ….. the screen goes off and comes back on with a bunch of Minions running around, huh??

What happened? How did I get on Netflix and why in the world would I play a Minions movie?

Then it hit me, BREE!!!

Somehow she’s behind this. I run upstairs, open the door and she is grinning like the Cheshire cat from Alice in Wonderland. She is also hiding something under the covers.

“Ok, give it up.” I say.

She then says, “What? I was sleeping.”

“Really??? With the light on and this??” I pulled back the covers and there is her ipad and guess what?

Big brain figured out how to cast Netflix downstairs. The next 5 mins were filled with the sounds of Minions laughing and Bree whining and yelling from the bb blistering she got.

Then I took her ipad, tucked her in and went back to my movie. Oh yes, the killer was dead, the movie was over and I had no idea who he was after investing an hr of my time, UGGGGGGG.

Some where Minions are laughing.

Be good or else,

SJ

Fight, Flight, or Bite

 

Hello Lovelies,

So Bree is whining again… “Let go of my ear! Don’t grab my ponytail! You spank too hard!” you know the usual. You see, Bree wants a Dom but on her terms. She wants to be sassy and get spanked, but then say, “Ok, that’s good. I’m done.” When I keep going, then she starts fighting. Well fighting to her, it is really just moving around all wormlike until she tires out. But until that happens, which can be a long 30 seconds, she has to be held in place. Of course the more she resists the more force must be used, which is where all the whining comes from. Then she makes a BIG mistake, SHE BITES!!!! She then proceeds to whine even louder when she is disciplined all over again. You all see the pattern here, right? Why can’t subbies just accept their fate? LOL

Be good or else…

SJ

END ZONE- Coming soon!

GOOD NEWS!

END ZONE is nearing completion! Finally, after all the nagging I’ve been getting to complete the GAME PLAN series, I caved. Wait until you see where Cassie and the gang end up. Here’s sneak peek- Can you guess where they might be and how many spankings and other delight Cassie will receive?

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“It’s going to hurt to sit if you stick that little tongue out at me again,” he warned, wagging his finger.

“You and Merry do it all the time. I see it.”

“Auntie Merry is also my little sister. And no talking back.”

“You talk back to Uncle Dorian all the time, too.”

“You’re quite the little smart ass, aren’t you?” The big man placed his hands on the ground and leaned back. Cassie raised her right eyebrow. He was baiting her, but why? She decided to bite.

“It’s better than being a dumb-ass.”

“Are you calling me a dumb-ass?” Elia asked, rising to his feet and brushing the dirt from his hands.

“I didn’t call you anything. I merely responded to what you called me,” she said saucily, once again lining up a path to escape. If there was one thing she had learned while living in a house full of football players, it was how to do a quarterback sneak. “Oh, shit! They found me!”

Elias turned his head in the direction she was pointing and Cassie raced off like a bat out of hell.

BETTER NEWS

There is going to be a fourthbook!  TOUCHDOWN! 

That being said, I’ve been channeling Cassie a lot lately, and poor John is spending even more time banging his head against the wall. Needless to say, I’ve been constantly finding myself in hot water but I can’t stop!

For those of you who don’t follow me on FB- this is a recent post…
After careful consideration, I’ve come to the conclusion that my misbehavior and sassing back is conducive to my dommy husband’s health and well being. Therefore, my butt should NOT suffer the consequences of said misbehaviors.
Case in point-
1. Chasing me around the house enhances his cardio/respiratory health and increases his lifespan. That’s a good thing, right?
2. Debating with me, even though I’m always right, stimulates his brain and reduces the risk of DOMentia. (Sorry, couldn’t help it)
3. Any and all pranks at his expense are effective in maintaining his vigilance and sharpens his senses. In particular, such pranks that involve hiding creepy music boxes under the bed and pretending I don’t hear them go off in the middle of the night, evaluates his hearing levels. This is essential for his profession as a musician.
4. Stealing his favorite chocolate not only assists with his nutritional health, but also makes me horny… and we all know how effective sex is for increasing the strength of your immunity system.
6. And finally- making him laugh whenever I try to talk him out of any of the above keeps the old man alive, kicking and forever on his toes.

In conclusion- I strongly believe that any and all of the above behaviors, antics, and other such activities have a positive viable effect and should be considered null, void and paddle free!

Who’s with me?!

dom ta dom dom DOMMMMMM!!!

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Hello lovelies,

I trust all of you are behaving…oh wait, I forgot who I was talking to, lol, scratch that. I have another question for all of you.

What do you feel denotes a good Dom? One you would be happy to train with? What do you consider the 5 most important attributes he should have?

Just wondering and thought I would throw it out there for all of you to ponder.

Be good, or else…

SJ

How Often?

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Hello lovelies,

I trust you all are happy and hopefully marked by your Doms as you read this. I am asking a question today of how often…

How often do you think about being spanked? Especially discipline wise?

How often do you surf the net for photos or videos and imagine the sub in those pics and vids is you?

I want you all to remember one important thing when you see those pics or watch those vids, even if they are severe, the main thing is that the Dom is or should be administering the discipline because he cares. Yes, it’s true.

Here at Casa Hayse spankings are given frequently and sometimes just because I want to see a red bottom. Sometimes the spankings are quite severe, but that does not mean I do not care for the subbie, quite the contrary. I care for all my subs.

It’s an interesting line and hard to explain unless you have been over my lap. I would venture to say if you talk to any sub that I have disciplined she will tell you no matter how painful it was she always could feel my caring, certainly through my hand but also using an implement. I wish for all of you to be able to feel this especially if you never have before, and if you do feel this with your Dom you are fortunate indeed.

Bree whines a lot when she’s spanked and a lot of the time she’s not in the mood, which makes no difference to me, lol, but I guarantee if you asked her if she can feel how much I care with every spank or stroke she would say “Yes…but why does he have to spank so hard!!!” Some of you may visit the torture room here someday and you will FEEL what I mean in the meantime…

Be good, or else…

SJ

Over and Done

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Hello my lovelies,

Miss me? I missed you.

I wanted to say, thank you so much for all your support for Bree and I through these crazy stressful times and a special thanks to all of you who were generous enough to give from your hearts. We will be forever grateful.

Now, another question…hypothetical…Let’s say you’re going to visit your Dom and your punishment book is rather full, at least 7 transgressions. You’re staying for a week. Would you rather…

  1. Get all of them taken care of in one huge session then have a clean slate for the week
  2. Do one or two a day until they are all gone.

There are pros and cons for each, of course, but I am curious what you all think.

Be good or else

SJ

 

The Big Picture

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Hello lovelies,

Today I want you all to pay close attention as this is very important. For those of you I have a long training dynamic with, you already understand, but for newbies or those just curious, listen up.

D/s or even S/m does not just involve punishment when you misbehave. For those of you that think spanking is what D/s is all about you are missing the big picture! Training does involve spanking, in one form or another but, that’s just the tip of the D/s iceberg.

When I train a sub it’s to make her a better submissive. There are so many things to work on and talk about in training. It’s not just when you have to report for a spanking. I want a sub to learn about self-respect, boundaries, proper behavior, self-worth, obedience and so many other aspects that make a well-rounded subbie and a well-rounded human being.

I use spanking as a teaching tool but it’s not the only one. In fact, I can impart the lessons without spanking but subbies usually need a deterrent. A bb spanking seems to work very well but so do lines, grounding or daily tasks.

The big part is being consistent and serious about becoming better, as well as doing what I tell you, to get you there. It’s all about trust and caring at the end of the day. So next time you read about a Dom disciplining a sub or watch a video etc. remember if it’s the real thing, that relationship is very very layered. A stronger bond you would be hard pressed to find.

Be good, or else…

SJ

In or Out

Hello lovelies,

Today I thought I would address a question I get all the time, usually like this… “Are you mad at me sir? Are you going to drop me?” The fact is you can be dropped from training, but, it takes a lot for that to happen.

First, let’s talk about another aspect, being released. A lot of times I work with women who are looking for a Dom and for a relationship. I work with them and teach them how they must behave to attract such a Dom. Hopefully it works out, if it does I then release them to their new Dom and my participation in their training is over. It’s kind of bittersweet as I build a bond with my subs, some more than others but still a bond. Sometimes, it’s hard to let them go but, that’s the goal if they are looking for a Dom.

Now dropping a sub is totally different. It takes a lot for me to do this but I unfortunately have done so. There are a few main reasons I would do this:

1) Lying- I’m not talking about a subbie stretching the truth or omitting certain facts. I mean out and out lying. If I catch a sub lying she will get one warning and the next time I will drop her. D/s is built on trust and honesty. I can’t have it any other way and expect it to work.

2) Not taking the training seriously- If a sub thinks this is a game and does not do the tasks or follow my orders then the training will help no one.

3) Striking me- I understand subs can get angry, especially in a session, but one slap or punch in anger and that’s it…done.

4) If a sub disrespects Bree or hurts her in a deep way- Also if she does that to any of our friends especially our little subbie family, she will be dropped. This may be the most important one.

Let me be clear, these are some of the main reasons. I do not get mad and I do not give up on a sub, even a difficult one, so long as they are serious and honest with me. I love my subbies, I love training, helping them find their submissive and embrace it. I will spend a lot of time and energy on a subbie that is serious and willing to obey me.

There is an old adage my way or the highway, that pretty much sums it up.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Lines and Strokes

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Hello lovelies,

I was wondering…

Some of my subbies say they would rather have spanks or strokes rather than write lines. How do you all feel about that?

I am not just talking sit and write lines. I usually have my subbie in the corner bb and then sit and write.

Which do you feel is more of a deterrent for bad behavior?

A sound OTK bb spanking. Maybe the paddle or even the cane…Or…Being sent to the corner bb to write lines about your behavior?

Which do you feel is more of a deterrent for bad behavior?

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Personally I find both very effective especially in the same session, but that’s just me, lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Man v. Machine

Hello lovelies,

I don’t know if you are aware but there are quite a few spanking machines out there. Yes, the old fantasy of having a machine to spank your subbie is a reality. I am not saying this is for lazy Doms, lol, just an addition.

The main perk here is for self spanking as there is one major problem with self spanking: arm fatigue. For the majority of you, your arm gives out way before you have spanked hard enough or long enough. Also, you will tend to back off the intensity when it really starts to sting. This is understandable as your sense of self-preservation kicks in. The beauty of the machine is that once its set and in motion it doesn’t let up or get softer as your bottom starts to sting and it never gets tired.

I do phone sessions with all my subs from time to time. I do this to keep the dynamic more personal and also to monitor the spanking. Since I can hear everything there is no way for my subs to cheat and go lighter than I want. If the machine is used it solves that problem and also makes the spanking more painful and intense.

The machine I have has controls for how often the stroke comes and how hard that stroke is. Once its set there is no escape and it’s almost like a true in person punishment. My machine on an 8 with a thin cane will elicit loud screams and nice marks. On a 10 it’s severe. Of course you can set it lower for a pleasure spanking but the real advantage is for punishment.

I have even tried a double caning with Bree. I let the machine give a stroke and as it was setting for the next I gave her one. She did not enjoy it nearly as much as I did.

Now there is the drawback of it being impersonal, after all it is a machine, but if the Dom orders the implement, the number of intensity and sets the timer it’s almost like he’s giving the spanking or paddling or caning etc. The subbie must stay in position or get some strokes in places she does not want them.

I am sure you are all online looking for your machine lol. I think all subbies should have one but that’s just me.

Be good, or else…

SJ

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