Timing is Everything

Hello lovelies,

I was thinking about the following, what do you think?

A few of my subs own spanking machines. Most of them are not strong enough for a self spanking and the machine with a cane or switch on 10 is very painful, if they need discipline. However this question can apply to a session with or without a machine.

Do you feel a discipline spanking is more effective timed or not?

By that I mean, on the machine there is a timer, up to 5 minutes. Do you think knowing how long the spanking lasts is more effective than not? Without a machine using an hourglass or watch that would be in front of you, so you had the watch the sands or seconds slowly go by while your bb burns more and more? A 3 to 5 minute spanking as opposed to one where you have no idea when it ends?

Be good, or else…

SJ

How Often?

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Hello lovelies,

I trust you all are happy and hopefully marked by your Doms as you read this. I am asking a question today of how often…

How often do you think about being spanked? Especially discipline wise?

How often do you surf the net for photos or videos and imagine the sub in those pics and vids is you?

I want you all to remember one important thing when you see those pics or watch those vids, even if they are severe, the main thing is that the Dom is or should be administering the discipline because he cares. Yes, it’s true.

Here at Casa Hayse spankings are given frequently and sometimes just because I want to see a red bottom. Sometimes the spankings are quite severe, but that does not mean I do not care for the subbie, quite the contrary. I care for all my subs.

It’s an interesting line and hard to explain unless you have been over my lap. I would venture to say if you talk to any sub that I have disciplined she will tell you no matter how painful it was she always could feel my caring, certainly through my hand but also using an implement. I wish for all of you to be able to feel this especially if you never have before, and if you do feel this with your Dom you are fortunate indeed.

Bree whines a lot when she’s spanked and a lot of the time she’s not in the mood, which makes no difference to me, lol, but I guarantee if you asked her if she can feel how much I care with every spank or stroke she would say “Yes…but why does he have to spank so hard!!!” Some of you may visit the torture room here someday and you will FEEL what I mean in the meantime…

Be good, or else…

SJ

Over and Done

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Hello my lovelies,

Miss me? I missed you.

I wanted to say, thank you so much for all your support for Bree and I through these crazy stressful times and a special thanks to all of you who were generous enough to give from your hearts. We will be forever grateful.

Now, another question…hypothetical…Let’s say you’re going to visit your Dom and your punishment book is rather full, at least 7 transgressions. You’re staying for a week. Would you rather…

  1. Get all of them taken care of in one huge session then have a clean slate for the week
  2. Do one or two a day until they are all gone.

There are pros and cons for each, of course, but I am curious what you all think.

Be good or else

SJ

 

Man v. Machine

Hello lovelies,

I don’t know if you are aware but there are quite a few spanking machines out there. Yes, the old fantasy of having a machine to spank your subbie is a reality. I am not saying this is for lazy Doms, lol, just an addition.

The main perk here is for self spanking as there is one major problem with self spanking: arm fatigue. For the majority of you, your arm gives out way before you have spanked hard enough or long enough. Also, you will tend to back off the intensity when it really starts to sting. This is understandable as your sense of self-preservation kicks in. The beauty of the machine is that once its set and in motion it doesn’t let up or get softer as your bottom starts to sting and it never gets tired.

I do phone sessions with all my subs from time to time. I do this to keep the dynamic more personal and also to monitor the spanking. Since I can hear everything there is no way for my subs to cheat and go lighter than I want. If the machine is used it solves that problem and also makes the spanking more painful and intense.

The machine I have has controls for how often the stroke comes and how hard that stroke is. Once its set there is no escape and it’s almost like a true in person punishment. My machine on an 8 with a thin cane will elicit loud screams and nice marks. On a 10 it’s severe. Of course you can set it lower for a pleasure spanking but the real advantage is for punishment.

I have even tried a double caning with Bree. I let the machine give a stroke and as it was setting for the next I gave her one. She did not enjoy it nearly as much as I did.

Now there is the drawback of it being impersonal, after all it is a machine, but if the Dom orders the implement, the number of intensity and sets the timer it’s almost like he’s giving the spanking or paddling or caning etc. The subbie must stay in position or get some strokes in places she does not want them.

I am sure you are all online looking for your machine lol. I think all subbies should have one but that’s just me.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Too Hard, Too Light, Just Right

2015-12-14

Hello lovelies,

I thought I would write something a bit different today. In fact I want you all to interact with me on this. I want your feedback on a topic I was thinking about.

I would like to know what denotes a perfect spanking for you. One that if you were talking to your vanilla friends or sister subbies you would say “man he can really spank.”

There are many layers to consider, I know. I would think you all will differ here and there.

Consider a reward or play spanking. Then a punishment spanking.

All otk? All by hand only? Be as detailed as you like. And of course enjoy!!

Be good, or else…

SJ

Subbie Guilt

2015-11-07

Hello lovelies,

I am sure you are all familiar with this heading yes?  I mean subbie’s have more guilt than anyone I know. I love you all but you know it’s true.

I did a session not too long ago. It was a punishment session resulting in marks and a lot of tears, as these kinds of sessions often do. Now during this session something happened. As you all know I am sadistic, but I am all about you being safe in a session so I monitor you closely.

This particular subbie had been hand spanked to tears and was then put over the spanking bench and secured. Her transgressions were serious so she had a paddling and a caning coming. I decided to use the heart first, which as some of you know burns like fire especially on a sore bottom. During this part of her spanking she began to cry again but her breathing became erratic. That’s wasn’t good as she started to hyperventilate, so much so I had to stop and calm her down before her cane strokes.

I had decided to end the session after the cane as I felt she may be at risk if I went any longer. After calming her down I gave her 12 strokes and she was done. I did aftercare, held her, forgave her and made sure she was ok.

It seemed she was so I went downstairs and she went into the living room. When I came in to check on her she was crying. I asked what was wrong and she said she felt bad she could not take what I had planned for her!

I did say you all have more than your share of guilt to drag around did I not? Lol

I explained to her that it’s never a question of me being disappointed if you can’t take as much as I planned for you . It is always a matter of you being safe. You need to learn a lesson, of course, but not at the expense of your health (physical/mental/emotional).

I want you all to get this…a punishment session is meant to hurt but it’s not a matter of taking so much or disappointing me. Every subbie is different. Some can take a lot, some not so much. The important thing is that you feel punished and can let go of the guilt after. Not to put more guilt on top by thinking you disappointed your Dom by not taking enough , that’s not an issue.

You all have enough guilt. Don’t add to it! Lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Feelings and Emotions: Arrrgh!

Hello my lovelies,

How is everyone?

I have a query for all of you and would welcome your input. I was doing a session with one of my subbies, a very sweet newbie. She was not in serious trouble but it was a phone session. It was for a behavior I do not like.

You see, in phone sessions, the subbie cannot fake anything. I hear it all. The self spanks are always much harder and longer.

The session went as usual, and after she was forgiven with hugs I signed off. Later I get an email saying, she was upset and felt angry during the session. Mostly, wanting to cuss and be defiant, even though she did not act that way. She could not understand why she felt like this and was feeling very guilty, as all subs do. She’s very obedient, especially for a newbie, so this is way out of character.

What do you think?

I have a theory… I think a lot of subbies will push, newbies especially but even experienced subs, (Bree still pushes me on occasion). The reason this happens is that they want to know nothing has changed. Security and trust comes from consistency, so if I call them on it it seems all is good and balanced even though they get spanked and whine about how mean I am.

I also asked one of my more experienced subbies what she thought. She’s very smart and intuitive so her take was a bit different. She thought that as an independent woman used to being in control it’s a hard adjustment sometimes. So when you are in a session being disciplined you obviously have no control and sometimes that switch clicks and you just want even a little control. You get defiant or angry or you act out, even knowing there are consequences, because it gives you a little control, if only for a few minutes.

Have any of you gone through this? I know my subbies have. What do you think?

D/s is very powerful is it not?

Be good, or else…

SJ

Bottom Temperature

2015-07-01

Hello lovelies,

No I’m not talking about your bottom’s temperature after a spanking but the temperature in the room before said spanking. This can alter a session greatly by making it kind of pleasurable to downright miserable, depending.

If I am to give a punishment, I prefer the room cool or cold.

Why?

Simple, wood or even a hand really stings on a cold bb. Is that a Mr. Meanie thing? Kind of, but remember I said for a punishment.

I do usually have a fan on as subbies tend to hyperventilate a lot and get overheated. See how nice?

Mr. Nice Dom, that has a good ring to it no?

For subspace or pleasure/pain sessions I keep it warmer and more pleasant since the strokes or spanks are not meant to cause punishment level pain. I also have blankets available as a lot  of subbies after a subspace session will drop and get very cold. I have blankets to cover them and make sure they do not get chilled.

See? Mr. Nice Dom, told ya.

So if any of you lovelies are ever in a session and the dom turns up the air its probably time to rethink that punishment book. lol

Now a lot of doms like the room warm so their hand does not sting during the administering of a spanking. I don’t have that problem so cold works very well sting wise, especially for implements like paddles, brushes, and canes. You will notice I did not include straps. I do use a prison strap from time to time but it has to be on a severe level because you all enjoy leather way too much.

Just a little insight into Dom 101 though some of you may say Mr. Meanie 101

Be good, or else…

SJ

 

Much Much More

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Hello lovelies,

You seem to like these little stories about my Dom experiences so I thought you might like this and can shake your heads in unison at how crazy this is, lol.

I had a subbie back in the day, she was on the east coast and would visit me once or twice a year, I also trained her online. Now I must say I really liked her but she was in trouble all the time. There was always more spanking than conversation. This one meeting she had been particularly bad and was sentenced to a severe session. A severe session is not out of control beating on some subbie’s bb. It does leave marks that last awhile and usually includes a lot of yelling, begging, and tears so a very enjoyable way to spend an hour.

After a very sound spanking and paddling that had her teary and quite bruised I informed her she would be tied down and given 24 strokes of the cane. She had had the cane from me before so she knew what it was all about, she also knew to mind my instructions to the letter or it would not go well for her. She was quite compliant being tied over the desk and waited for the first stroke. Before I started I told her to count each stroke and thank me. If she forgot we would go back to number one. If she remarked in any other way then back to number one.

Time for you all to shake your heads. I’m on stroke 15 and she starts trying to explain how unfair this caning is, and I might add,  in a very smart mouthed way.

Back to one.

She’s yelling the entire time and squirming as much as the ties will allow and still gets more than she was going to. This happened more than once! What was to be 24 strokes ended up much much more. In fact she told me she had to sit on a pillow on her flight home, something I was quite proud of. She was also striped and sore for days after.

When I asked her why she would be such a smart mouth and get more she just said, “Seemed like a good idea at the time.”  Lol, subbies you gotta love ‘em. She did say her outburst was not worth it as she was very uncomfortable at work and a few people commented and asked why she was fidgeting so much in her chair. My sadistic side really enjoyed hearing that, yes I have a sadistic side, did you all think I was awesome all the time? Lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Subbies be Crazy

2015-04-19

Hello lovelies,

The last post was kind of heavy so this week back to my usual. You all seem to like my stories about my D/s past so here’s one you may find amusing.

Back when cds were really big and had smaller holes…they were called records…I was doing a lot of in person sessions. For a while I was doing double sessions, in other words more than one subbie in a session. This was very enjoyable as I had two bb’s to spank, plus could watch the subbies spank each other. Hey we all have our thing, no hatin’ lol.

For this session I had two women come over. I told them each about the other and thought they would get along. Since each was due a punishment session it seemed a good idea to do it together.  Now as you know I care about my subbies and always want them to have the best experience. That does not mean they can sit down after a punishment but just that there is no big drama.

I had them come over, they met and all was good. I went to the market and told them both to behave, I’m sure you see where this may be going. Now these women both had sound spankings coming so why they would add to that I don’t know but as I always say…subbies be crazy.

When I got back I heard yelling and what sounded like a fight through my door. I go in and its a cat fight with yelling and pulling hair. I broke it up and asked them what in the world was going on. Of course, each one blamed the other one and they were yelling. I really felt bad because I set this up and now the whole evening was blown.

They could see I was upset about the way things turned out and then…wait for it…they started laughing! They had decided it would be funny to pretend to hate each other and get my reaction. They had a good laugh for about 30 seconds. What followed was a corner, lecture for both then sound bb hair brushings. Plus I made them spank each other. The one with the least red bottom got it from me. I had a great time, they, not so much from what I remember lol.

Of course, after this punishment came their book punishments. They were really sorry they pulled this prank as now, the book punishments were applied to very sore bb’s. Oh well, didn’t hurt me a bit lol. All was resolved later and I did have more sessions with the two of them but I could not help but think as they both were sniffling red bb’s in the corner…subbies be crazy.

Be good, or else…

SJ

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