The Zoo

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Hello lovelies,

How are things in your domiciles? I would venture a guess not like here.

For example we have 2 new Guinea pigs, actually already quite…hmmm what’s the word…oh heck with it, they are huge lol. They are now trained to sound like an alien being tortured in a lab at area 51. Every time they hear me open the refrigerator they make that noise as they think I’m bringing them food.

Example 2, whenever anyone knocks on a TV program or there is water or heaven forbid dogs running Princess barks. To be fair she picks up a ball first so her bark is muffled, so considerate.

Example 3, I let the dogs out back and our bunny Moo Shu runs over to play. Yes our bunny loves the borders. They ignore her and she throws a fit by jumping in the air like she’s trying out for Cirque du Soleil.

That’s just in an hour or so. I swear if our beta fish starts whistling I’m going to jump off the roof!!

Be good, or else…

SJ

Borders, Peas, Remotes oh my!

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Hello lovelies,

How is everyone? Things are beginning to level off here so I thought I would share a non D/s tidbit with you. Plenty of red bottom posts coming in the future.

You all know Bree is addicted to english peas, in fact I don’t buy her a few bags I get a case at a time lol. However she’s not the only female in this house who has that addiction, two more medium size black and white fluffy ones share the same need. Princess and Diamond are addicted to english peas, maybe more than Bree, and that’s saying something. Diamond will just eat the whole thing but Princess, being a princess wants the peas taken out of the pods!! They love those things and are all over Bree when she’s eating a bowl.

Since we’re on the topic of royalty let’s talk remotes. I handle the remote as Bree is well, how can I say this nicely? Technologically challenged? So the other day I was watching something and Princess was grumbling, kind of how a subbie does in the corner. I’m sure a lot of you know the sound. I go out of the room and I come back to see that Princess took the remote. She had changed the channel and was happily looking at the TV, no joke!!

I think she’s an alien. You see when Bree and I go somewhere we have to put on Disney for the borders to watch. No, I’m not making this up, if we don’t they will find something to destroy in the house. Borders are crazy smart, like scary smart.

I think I am going to hide my extra set of car keys better in future. Princess may decide to take Diamond for a joyride while Bree and I are out!

Be good, or else…

SJ

Just Released: A Little Play Day

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Dear Bree,

I love the concept of age-play and the feeling conveyed in the books you write, but is this real?

How can my husband and myself explore this dynamic? Part of me feels like I am too old, too fat and too inexperienced to begin this ‘journey.’

I’m so afraid of doing it wrong, breaking the rules or feeling like I failed. Can you help me?

Sincerely,

Anonymous

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My Dear Reader,

The BDSM dynamic doesn’t have an expiration date, nor are there any rules except these three: Safe * Sane * Consensual

Would it help if I shared a ‘typical’ AP day that John and I practice? Granted, not everyone does things like this, but perhaps my rendition will give you some direction to start. Use it as a model for you and your partner to explore and then find what works best for your relationship. Mostly, have fun!

Luvs,

Bree

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The world of age-play is fascinating to some and a mystery to others. This primer was written based on my personal experiences as an APer, and also includes a detailed explanation regarding the practice of this lifestyle. Whether it be humor or horror, mystery or suspense, action, romance, sci-fi, Victorian or contemporary… writers and readers of age-play explore every category of erotica that exists. And now, here is a book which will give you insight into the world that really IS. Hope you enjoy it!

Luvs,

Breanna Hayse

Author of the AP kick-starter: The Game PlanA Little Play Day

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Living with an Artist

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Hello lovelies,

I trust you all had a great thanksgiving. Bree went beyond her usual amazing cooking and I ate myself into a tryptophan coma, lol.

Now it’s back to normal, or what passes for normal, around the Hayse household. I thought I would give you all an idea of what it’s like living with a best-selling author and not just that but an amazing crafter, sculptor, jewelry, painting, building miniature doll houses, weaving and last but not least having a beautiful singing voice. I mean come on, most of us would love to have just one of those talents right?

This is a typical day as a writer:

Morning, about 8 am, I usually make Bree coffee or tea and a couple of bagels. I let the borders out back.

I figure I will see Bree around 3, or so, when she takes a lunch break.

You see, she works on her books every day, no break and about 10 to 14 hours a day. She’s funny as she has an eidetic memory, like Sheldon on Big Bang. I ask her about a date we went on 10 years ago and she can name the place, time, what I was wearing and what the lady at table 3 was wearing but, I ask her what day it is and she says “Uh..Saturday?” when it is Tuesday lol.

Bree usually requires a spank break when she’s writing, especially if it’s a scene she is enjoying. So I do get to see her some during the day.

Sometimes we eat dinner. Sometimes Bree is on a roll and does not want to break her concentration and will just write. If Bree is on a roll writing, don’t ask her about paying a bill lol. Bad idea…really bad.

Now it does not end after a 10 hour day. Even when we go to bed her mind is racing. It’s not unusual for her to get up at about 2:30 am, start writing and continue until evening. This happens almost every day, how she functions on so little sleep is a mystery. I certainly could not.

That’s a typical day here. There are usually more spankings but as far as the other stuff, Dom’s honor, all true. I really don’t see her much during the day and into early evening!

Next time you read one of Bree’s books remember that’s a lot of hours she works on those, not to mention when she’s done she needs to edit. She’s pretty amazing, as you all have discovered.

Be good, or else…

SJ

To Sleep, Perchance to Dream

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Hello lovelies,

As some of you may know, Bree hardly sleeps. I mean I have no idea how she even functions. I, on the other hand, am a different life form and need my sleep.

Last night I was really tired, Bree and I went to bed pretty early. I was sleeping really soundly until I had to take the borders out.  I did, then got back in bed and was in that warm dream state of falling back to sleep when…I felt something tugging my ear…then pinching me and laughing.

“Bree come on, I need to sleep!”

Except Bree is like a border collie, she thinks once she’s awake then everybody should be awake and play. I asked her nicely to stop, trying to explain that people of earth need to sleep but she was not buying it.

She kept saying “I want attention!”

I told her she was about to get it, but she would not like it. Just be still and sleep.

Of course, subbies be crazy, even at 2 in the morning. After about 100 bb spanks and constant owwwwing and whining, she finally went to sleep. I mean a Dom’s work is never done, I swear  24/7 lol.

Be good, or else…

SJ

The Coin has Two Sides

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Hello lovelies,

Last time I listed the top 5 reasons to take on a sub and this week I thought about the top 5 things a Dom needs so he can be a positive Dom for a sub. Sound good? Now this is not about the voice, or having the look etc. this is different. Hang in there it will be fun. Here we go and stop yawning!!!

1) Patience- This is a big one. I think we have established all subbies are crazy, to differing degrees, also very frustrating at times…very. Then add numbers to that and well I think you see my point. You see, a Dom never yells or gets mad. Does that mean the wall in my music room does not have a dent in it from me banging my head? No…it does but that’s just part of the wonderful world of a Dom.

2) Consistency- This is also a big one. A sub cannot trust a Dom fully if he is inconsistent. It’s not easy to be on top of everything, all the time but a Dom must try to be. First, he must have the desire to be, then he has to work at it. As I said, the more subs you train the harder it is but it can be done.

3) Fairness- Though some of you lovelies I do train may disagree at times on your punishments, I think all of you would agree I am always fair. A Dom must listen and evaluate every situation. Maybe the sub has a point? Usually she’s just weaseling but it does happen on occasion and a Dom needs to be open to at least considering inexperience. A Dom will make a sub feel safer and more secure if she knows he knows what he’s doing. If I tell a sub she’s in for the cane she has to feel secure in the knowledge that I know how to use it. It’s scary enough knowing you are going to be punished with an implement if you doubt the Dom’s skill it’s going to turn out badly, even worse if you’re right.

4) Time- It takes time to train a sub and a lot of time to train a lot of subs. If you take that on you must devote time to each one and her special needs as all subs are different. I try to check in on my subbies every day to see if they are ok, have questions, or have done the tasks I have given them etc. It takes time but I love it and it’s all worth it when a subbie begins to blossom in her submission and the D/s lifestyle.

5) Caring- This may be the most important building block for a good D/s relationship. If the Dom does not care about the subbie learning, growing and becoming a better person then why bother? I put all my subs first, I do not put me first…and no I’m not talking about me indulging in my sadistic side and spanking a sub whenever I want. I’m talking about her needs and what will make a positive change in her life. I want all my subs to be happy and feel better about themselves and their life, in general, than they did before they started training with me.

Pay it forward is my mantra. Now there are many other traits a Dom needs but these kind of popped into my Dom brain today so I just went with the flow.

Be good, or else…

SJ

 

To Sub-bie or Not to Sub-bie

 

Hello  lovelies,

What the heck is this all about? It’s actually a very clever pun that hopefully most of you will get after reading this post. A lot of subs ask me “SJ what do you look for in a sub, as far as taking her on to train?”

Starting to get my pun? No? Not yet huh? Man tough crowd.

I am quite discerning when taking on a submissive so here’s my top 5 reasons for doing so and why.

1) Seriousness- If the sub does not truly want to learn, grow and find just how deep her submissive goes then she’s wasting my time. She must be willing to mind me and trust me, although trust must be earned over time.

2) Intelligence- If I can’t engage in a conversation, beyond just spanking, with the sub it’s going to get very boring. Also D/s is quite complicated at times and the sub must be able to grasp and comprehend certain things that are important in the training.

3) Checking emails regularly- This may seem trivial but it’s not. I have a lot of info to dispense at times or a task that I need done. If I don’t have a sub that is good about checking her messages that won’t work.

4) Sense of humor- Look I know you all think of me as Mr. Meanie but  I am pretty funny and I like a subbie that can make me laugh, it can’t be dark all the time or just about spanking, well maybe 90/10 lol.

5) Maturity and emotional stability- This may be the most important, as you all know subbies be crazy but….there is a limit lol. D/s training is a roller coaster with very high highs and then major drops and lows. If the sub does not have some level of emotional stability it can turn out to be a disaster. Not so important is chronological age, some subs can be very mature at a young age.

The bottom line is, if a sub meets these criteria I will try to help her in any way I can that’s what I do and that’s what Bree does. I believe in pay it forward, I bet all of you do to.

Be good, or else…

SJ

PS Oh did you get my pun?

Why Won’t you Mind me, I’m a Domme!

Hello lovelies,

You are probably all wondering what’s with the title? Doesn’t sound like our meanie SJ, well no it’s not  but gather round for today’s tale…

Once upon a time in a place not so far away there was a special kingdom. In this kingdom was a beautiful and generous Queen named Breanna Hayse, wife of Mr. Meanie, King of the Universe Sir John Hayse.

Now SJ was also very generous and allowed his queen to leave the castle and travel for many days to the kingdom where she was to hold court with all of her friends, littles and submissives. She did so with great joy and loved her time there, only having to go to her dark place a few times with a look, so the legend says, that rivaled Medusa herself.

But, as will happen in these stories the queen forgot who the king truly was at the castle.

Upon arriving home and in the warm bosom of her loving husband and faithful border collies she attempted the look at the king. Not only that, but in some moment of loss of mind, attempted to order him and try and be a domme.

Now the king loves her truly but this could never be allowed. So for several minutes the queen was in a most undignified position having her royal bottom reddened and her pleas of “Why won’t you mind me I’m a dome?” echoing thru the castle.

After, all was right in the Hayse castle again and a valuable lesson was learned by the queen…

Just because you rule one kingdom does not mean you rule the castle.

And they lived spankfully ever after.

The End

Be good, or else…

SJ

Different Strokes

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Hello lovelies,

I want to talk today about spanking. Yes I know, that’s a surprise SJ! Some of you may not realize how many different kinds of spankings there are. Here in the Hayse house I employ quite a few.

Step this way, the tour is about to begin…

Punishment:

This can involve a lot of things and are usually done in the punishment room: hand, brush, heart paddle, school paddle, strap and if you are really bad the cane, rug beater or my thin whip. Hey, don’t panic on me…I said really bad. Also for the cane or something similar I do use the spanking bench to tie you down so that you don’t move and get the stroke in a very bad area. See what an awesome and considerate Dom I am?

Follow me  to the next stop on the tour…

Reminder spankings:

These can be done anywhere usually just hand and a red bottom but not really painful. It’s  just a reminder to be good today.

Welcome spankings:

This is when you visit, it’s a way of welcoming you to our house and a reminder that you are expected to behave. Again, hand and a red bottom but not really painful.

Sub space:

Now you’re back with me right? This is usually done in the bedroom, on our bed or on our massage table   but could be on the futon in punishment room. Now this is the one time you get to have input. A subspace session is all about you and getting you to that kind of out of body zone. You can request your favorite implements,  how hard , how slow  etc. What I do find is that once you are in the zone you can’t really talk so it’s up to me to keep you there. I try to do at least one of these when a subbie visits.

Reward spankings:

Like a reminder but more of a pleasant sting. These are given if you have been very good.

Thank you for taking the tour…You can make your reservations anytime.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Just Released: Confessions of a Spanking Author

 

 

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They say ‘write what you know’, but just how true is that of some of our authors? Ever wonder if any of your favorite storytellers REALLY get spanked?

Blushing Books is proud to present a collection of unfortunate, but true, stories from a series of authors such as Breanna Hayse, Maren Smith, Alta Hensley, Tabitha Black, Sue Lyndon, Joannie Kaye, Renee Rose and more! We also have some excellent stories from the viewpoint of the Dom.

Confessions of a Spanking Author will make you laugh, squirm, and maybe even feel sorry for (or envy) one of your favorite authors.

A Note from Bethany of Bethany’s Woodshed and Blushing Books:

The authors in this compilation are a mix of writers—old and new. While some have just joined Blushing Books, others have been around as long as dirt. What these stories have in common is that every one of them—some dire, some sexy and some hilarious—are absolutely true.

My own “Violators Will Be Spanked” has been said to be the funniest thing ever, and although I can laugh now, I assure you, it was not funny THEN.

We hope you enjoy Confessions of a Spanking Author and will visit both Blushing Books, and Bethany’s Woodshed. Our authors have many fantastic stories for you.

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