I want to discuss something with you concerning the heading to my post. It could also be called “Why subbies cannot behave all the time” lol.
All of you have, or have had fantasies about being spanked for punishment, a hard bb spanking that goes beyond your limits and makes you feel truly punished, right? Of course I am right, I know you better than you know yourselves, lol. Now when a sub has or does contact me it’s usually for a specific behavior: smoking, speeding, etc. (you all know the list by now). The goal is to change the self-destructive behaviors and also teach the sub how to behave properly, especially when interacting with a Dom.
Now, once the behaviors are changed and the sub begins to act properly, punishment is no longer needed. I see you all scratching your heads and saying, “Yes Sir John, we know this. So what’s up with the catch 22 thingy?”
Here’s what I mean…after a while you will be jonsing for a spanking. At first not having to sit gingerly or write lines will be enjoyable but, after a while with no correction you will feel something lacking.
So what do you do? You act out.
Why? Because as much as a spanking hurts you still need it from time to time. It’s very hard for a sub to ask a Dom for a spanking because she is jonsing. Bree still cannot do this but, she has her ways of getting it. Training a sub online is very difficult when it comes to this. In person you can brat and be spanked quickly, online it is much more complicated, as some of my online subs can attest.
You see it’s a real subbie catch 22…misbehave and you displease your Dom and get punished. Behave and you please your Dom but go nuts jonsing for a hot bottom. I must say I do not envy you, that’s’ why it’s good to be the Dom. One thing to remember, if you are jonsing and ask a Dom respectfully to spank you in person or online, it would be rare for him to turn you down. And no it’s not topping from the bottom, so speak up…to paraphrase a great movie moment “raise your voices and yell, we’re bratty as hell and we want more!!!”
Be good, or else…