Hello lovelies. So those who know what this means, congrats, for those who do not, please keep your arms and legs inside the ride at all times. This is for sure, an E- ticket. First let me say this, one of the greatest gifts a Dom can give his sub is to take her into sub space because…drum roll…it’s all about the sub and giving her pleasure. Can I get an Amen from the subbies? So what the heck is this?
OK, sub space is kind of hard to explain, but I will give it a try- I imagine after you all read this Bree will get a ton of emails lol- Its a state of being where you are kind of floating. Very peaceful, and where, now hang in here, the pain becomes pleasure. No its not about being a masochist, this is different. I should point out as edification for you all, and also for any would be Tops reading this, you must be in good shape.This is a long process, and can take hundreds and hundreds of spanks to even get in the subspace gate. A strong arm and hand are vital.
So let me take you though this. Like I said, hold on its an e ticket. (Nikki here-for those of you that don’t know, apparently e-ticket is usually the ticket for the fastest and scariest rides-don’t worry if you didn’t get that, I didn’t either). I believe its best to use some sensory deprivation to start. A blindfold maybe, head phones, etc. This is all about feeling. No hearing or seeing. I use restraints, it is not absolutely necessary, but when the submissive struggles and can not escape, there is a special component that is not present if she is permitted to move all over the place.
Ok, the Dom begins with a hand spanking bb (bare bottomed) of course (the sub not the Dom)..Now this is not a punishment, this is a gift, so the spanking should be hard enough to redden and give a good sting, but not go into punishment mode. The spanking must progress slowly. However, this is the only time a sub may have a say in how she is spanked. She is permitted to ask for it slower or harder, faster, etc..After all, the goal is to get through the gate, and hopefully have a few good orgasms on the way. Its not unusual to have more than a few, but that’s not the big payoff.
Ok, so the spanking has gone on for a while. Maybe a long while. The sub has gone from ow! to hmmmm, to light moans. This is a good sign. This means the spanks are beginning to heat up not only her bb, but other places as well. And most important, the Doms hands and mouth between spanks are hardly idle. Do hear another Amen! Ok a sure sign the subbie is on her way into sub space is the way she will raise her bb up for the spanks, not try to avoid them. At this point the Dom will spank harder as she can take so much more when in sub-space.
By this time the O’s should have been up there in number and intensity. Also now the implements are introduced. I use leather a lot because of the sensual feel of a flogger or strap. But a sub may want wood, or even a cane, it all depends on how deep she is. Again slowly, but the same sign will let you know how hard- the bb raised for the flogger or strap is the key sign, and there should be considerable moaning. And of course keep going back to the hand spanks. The session must start with the hand, as its so important for the connection; flesh to flesh.That is why you need to be able, as a Dom, to spank a long time. A really long time, sometimes. Anyway, once the sub has accepted the implement the Dom can go harder. The sub is not really feeling the pain now, only the heat and the strong strokes from her Dom. And yes, more O’s on the way. Again, this is interspersed with hands and mouth. Not to get too graphic, but i am sure you get the picture. So right when the subbie is way into subspace, thats when the two of you connect, and at the end of the ride is the golden “0”. There is no orgasm like a sub space orgasm. Take the best vanilla you have ever had, and multiply it by …oh I don’t know, a zillion may be too high, but not by much. And the Dom is quite happy also, but as i said its the Dom’s gift to his sub. The ultimate gift, so the goal is for her to experience this to the point of not being able to move or speak. Well you know what i mean.
Ok ladies thats my post and yes the topic was very fresh in my mind so i was inspired to write until next time be good or else!
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ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh my !!!!!!!!
this is great but i have a question (probably a dumb question)
should i rub/have sex with the sub while spanking or is this possible/have to be without vaginal stimulation?
Oh, it edited out the other part of my comment – I said I was running to print this out and show hubby. 🙂
Welcome Natasha! As for your question about pain…. No, this is simply how SJ brings me there. It is very similar to a runner’s high, when the adrenaline gives way to the endorphins and the mind and body separate from one another. For me, it is when i release myself completely and give in to the sensation. My mind stops viewing pain as something to avoid, rather it becomes something to embrace. Every session is different and SJ has to be tuned into my state of mind, physical condition, emotions…….
It also take a lot of practice from both of us.. His attentiveness and my release. For anyone interested in exploring this, please let us know and we will guide you as best as we can, ok?
yes Bree I would like to explore this again asap love you
So you have to experience pain in order to ge into sub space?
actually my beautiful Breanna said it much better than i could. Nothing like getting it right from the source yes? Thank you Lisa for your question
I’m new to you, but I’ve been lurking about. That was…lovely…
hello Natasha, glad you are joining us and thank you for your comment