Spanks Speak Louder than Words

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Hello lovelies, miss me?

Do spanks really speak louder than words? Let’s examine.

A lot of subs never feel truly punished unless they are scolded before or during a session. I don’t do this a lot, unless the miscreant has done something really bad, ex. smoking, speeding, texting while driving etc.

I have found that being scolded bb in the corner can have a very strong impact (yes pun intended). Although that comes later, I have had subs cry just from a scolding. A lot of subs are obedient for two reasons: the obvious, to avoid a painful spanking but also because they do not want to disappoint their Dom. I know if I tell a sub she disappointed me, it can be just as effective, or maybe more so, than a hard spanking.

Now for the one two spank (I never punch, lol) scolding and a spanking. This works well both while the sub is bb in the corner and/or between spanks. Some subs get the message just from scolding, some from a spanking, but all subs get the message from both. I am sure some of you have experienced this. I, myself, am working on the scolding thing more. I tend to get down to the task at hand (I know, pun master on deck, lol). I do realize different subs need this in D/s. S/m not so much, as that’s a whole other dynamic.

So what do you all think? Do you have a preference? Have you experienced both ways? Was it good/ bad/just ok? Do you feel you need both to feel truly punished?

Subs must feel truly punished for misbehaving or they tend to carry the guilt around and that is not good. And let’s face it, if you have to endure the embarrassment of a bb spanking/scolding but it does not go far enough your frustration level will be through the roof. We Doms do not want that, we want you to feel the punishment was just and effective. And also done well enough to let go of the guilt after whether you need just a spanking, or just a scolding (although that’s not going to work most times by itself, lol) or a combo of the two. Remember, Doms love subbies.

Be good, or else…

SJ

4 thoughts on “Spanks Speak Louder than Words

  1. Scolding is huge for me. Redirecting my thoughts and showing me that you are dissapointed in me and why, breaks down all of my defenses. I try not to share/ or don’t know how to share my feelings and I’m terrible at apologizing. But I’ve been in the situation where scolding prior to the spanking or during, really helped my mindset. Otherwise, I am often angry and sometimes don’t even know why. But, I seriously don’t like to displease someone. It’s probably kinda like training a puppy. I thrive on positive reenforcement and encouragement, but any sign that I’ve displeased my loved one makes me tuck my tail and hide. (Internally.)

  2. I think you need to look into online courses from Scolding University, Scold You Community College, etc. to assist with your problem areas. My preference is mental over physical, so I think scolding wins out although I’m flexible so one, the other or both depending. As far as the feeling truly punished, I would have to say it depends on the circumstances. If the spanking doesn’t go far enough and there’s not the scolding to back it up it’s pretty much all for naught. By the same token if the spanking or scolding is extra good then they can stand alone, yes even scolding.

  3. I would have to agree with Laura scolding would bring back not so good memories. It tends to raise my defiance level up instead of lowering it. I know that I did wrong and really don’t want to hear about it again. A spanking on the other hand would help release the guilt and help me to feel like I put paid to the wrong doing. A just consequence of my own actions.

  4. In all honesty, I hate scolding. First of all, my parents used to yell a lot, so it brings back lots of bad memories. Second of all, just knowing I did something wrong makes me feel guilty, and scolding makes it even worse. So both scolding and spanking? A no for me. Scolding adds to the guilt while spanking takes it away. To me, it would do nothing in terms of a just punishment.

    “I am disappointed in you” is the most horrible sentence mankind knows. And me and corner time? I’d probably just run off crying…

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