OK lovelies, here is something that (if it hasn’t already) may come up. Most sites will tell you to always have a safe word. While I get that its hardly that simple, lets imagine a scenario. You have been talking to a prospective Dom. You like each other and you have talked for about 2 weeks and feel pretty good about him You have mentioned, or if he is a true dom he has brought up, your need for atonement and accountability. You agree. However, heres the deal ..If you are meeting for true punishment, for true misbehaviors, a safe word really takes it out of reality, and more into role play. How can you feel truly punished, if you can stop your spanking whenever you want?
Ok I hear you. But Sir, he’s a stranger. If i don’t have some control, what if he goes overboard? Good point. And one you have to weigh with how much you feel you can trust this guy and how guilty you feel for your behavior. I did alot of in-person sessions before I met Bree, and I told all of them, if this is real accountability then no safe word. Most understood. Some said no, and I respected that.You see, alot of women came to me complaining that the guy that spanked them stopped way too soon. They did not feel truly punished, so they left frustrated, and even more guilty.
Now lets take a role play scenario, or a sub space session. This is totally different. In role play, you are pretending to misbehave, so a safe word works as its not reality. In a sub space session, its all about you. So you can have safe words, and even verbalize what you want.
So bottom (yes pun intended) line, its up to you. If you do not really trust the guy, you have no buiness being with him any way. Just be safe. And make sure you know what you really want.
Be good or else!