I gotta do what?

What does it mean when you have to do things you don’t want to do because your job is to do what your Dom tells you to do? I’m gonna tell you. It means crap, I signed up for this and now I gotta do what he tells me to do even though I don’t want to do it. Yea the life of a subbie. Here was the conversation I just had…
 
” Did you work out today?”
” Um, well, not actually TOOOODAY, but I will probably, maybe tomorrow.”
” OK well that’s 50.”

Huh? WTF? (this part was in my head-NOT out loud) You mean you were serious when you said I had to work out 3x a week or else?”
 

Why is it that when he said it originally (and I was feeling all fat- and to be honest, confident I could whip this bod into shape, I agreed to this nonsense?  Not that I really had an option). But here’s the thing. I trust him. He is doing this not because he is being mean but because he knows that I want to get into better shape and this is how I have to do it. And it is working. I have to answer to someone else and I know that if I don’t do what I am supposed to do, I will have to suffer the consequences of that decision.

If you are a sub, you give up a lot of control-yet you give up no control. See, it is a choice we make to obey. And if you trust your Dom, then even when it is uncomfortable to obey, you know it is OK because you know they don’t want to hurt you. That is why-listen up- it is really important to be very careful about who you entrust with this responsibility. A lot of subs just want to find a Dom and do not take it seriously enough. Be selective. Take care to listen to your inner self. If something doesn’t feel right, it isn’t. Trust your instincts, and know that you deserve to be happy and safe in your relationship. There are a lot of sad stories out there of women who have been hurt by trusting the wrong person. Some have been hurt really badly. Raped, beat up, and emotionally damaged. Don’t take a chance with your life. Be very selective and when the right person comes along, you will know it.

Oh and don’t forget to exercise 3x a week. 🙂

Nikki

Serendipity Ranch Is Here!

Serendipity Ranch is Here!  Ok Y’all- I had a blast with this one.  Subbies- be prepared…. should you choose to repeat any of the smart a** comments used by Serena on your Doms, you might be finding yourselves as bare bottomed and tenderized as this gal is.  So grab yourself a glass of icy cold goat milk and a plate of cookies, sit back and watch the fireworks fly!

Luvs to All- Breanna

Facing Fear = Building Confidence

Before I say anything else- I want to thank my fans for all the positive encouragement and reviews you’ve left on Blushing.  You all inspire me to grow and improve, and it’s because of YOU that I challenge myself to bring you literature that will touch your hearts as well as your imagination. 
The reason I bring this up is because I’ve personally been learning a lot about myself as I’ve put my books out for public ‘consumption’ and, subsequently, criticism.  I recently shared my feelings about trust- but I left out the most important lesson of all—
Trust yourself
I will be honest.  I was terrified to put my first book out there for the world to see.  Fear of rejection, ridicule, judgement and failure reeked havoc on my delicate little heart.  Yes! I am a sensitive soul (don’t listen to Nikki if she says otherwise! LOL!)  But as I held my breath, waiting for my first review, I had to stop to consider the journey I chose years ago, in the discovery of my true nature.
As I’ve told Nikki hundreds of times, the only difference between me and a ‘normal person’ is that I am no longer afraid to admit, and embrace, my ‘dark side’.  I have no secrets from myself, or from those I trust.  When I fully submitted myself to that understanding, the fears I had dissolved in new found confidence.
Of course that confidence, had much to do with the people around me who showered me with positive reinforcement.  Besides my family, the uplifting reviews from my readers, the encouragement and support I receive from Blushing, the lectures I get from Dr. James, and the occasional kick in the rump I get from John helped me learn to trust myself and my abilities.
We need one another. Those who read this are strangers in flesh, but brothers and sister in spirit. Whether it’s your lifestyle, or doing something you’ve never tried, allow yourself the privilege to experience it with those you trust and respect.  Even sharing on blogs like this- where you are supported and encouraged- can help build up a new found confidence to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilization, to boldly go…. oh, sorry! Got caught up in the moment.
My challenge to you:  Take a moment today to speak a word of encouragement or praise to someone you know AND to someone you don’t.  Their smile as they receive from you will bring your confidence to a different level.  Don’t believe me?  Try it and then share back here!
With all Luvs and Kisses-  Breanna

Cross your fingers! James said Serendipity Ranch should be ready for next weekend!

Trust


Hey folks! Nikki and I have been talking a lot lately about the delicate nature of trust- especially for a submissive.  This theme is a constant in my books and, for those of you who have read The Game Plan, you’ll remember that this was Cassie’s greatest struggle. Her lack of trust (caused by betrayal) paralyzed her from accepting love because she felt unworthy to receive it.  Rob had the wisdom to understand that it took time and consistency to gain, and keep, that sacred treasure of the heart, mind, spirit, body, and soul. Obtaining her trust, and subsequently her heart, became his personal goal because of his love for her. He also learned that certain words and actions, no matter how minute, could have an impact on obtaining, or losing, that trust.
Nothing is more important to a submissive than trust.  If you can’t trust your Dom/Domme, there is no D/S relationship.  It is the most precious gift you can give your partner and, in it’s offering, also leaves you at your most vulnerable state of being.  Your partners, in turn, must truly search their hearts and ask- are they worthy of that trust?  If not, how can they become so?
So what type of trust do you have to offer?

Body: We must be able to trust that our physical needs be met and that our bodies be protected from harm during ‘play’ or discipline.  In order to be able to give ourselves freely, we must know that we will never be subjected to bodily harm or any rejection. The slightest derogatory or negative comment- even in jest- can easily send an insecure sub into a knot of shame.  Since D/S is so focused on the body, this trust in essential to guard and nurture.

Emotional: The dearest, and most precious type of trusts we give.  This is the heart of who we are- the base from which we, as human beings, are separated from other animals.  When we trust our partners with our hearts, they must understand that, unlike a cut or broken bone, emotional trust takes years to build and only moments to destroy. Words are the greatest asset, and also the ultimate destruction, of emotional trust.  Use the power of words for good, Grasshopper!

Financial: Is your partner responsible with finances? Are your needs met, including bills being paid, food on the table, medical expenses?  Believe it or not, most couples break up due to financial issues more than any other. Is your partner an equal one in your relationship and do you share chores and responsibilities?. If one works, does the other pick up the slack around the house?  Being a submissive does not mean to be a doormat.

Mind: Can you trust your partner with your most hidden secrets and desires, knowing they will never laugh at you, or poke fun.  Even a casual, but negative, reference to something you’ve mention will cause most people to clam up and stop sharing.  Guarding the tongue and picking the right words can spare you years of heart ache!

Spiritual:  Everyone has a different belief system.  A healthy D/S relationship will respect the partners belief system without ridicule.


These are but a few.  What trust issues do you struggle with and how do you think it can be overcome?  Would you like to see any being addressed in a future book? Please share!

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know—-

My dear friend, Renee Rose (who is an incredible and talented author- check out her newest book on Blushing!) finally caught me and asked me all the personal questions she wanted.. There is NO squirming away from that gal! LOL!  LOVE her!!! Anyway- she just posted my interview for the peeps to read.
Go on- ask more questions…. I have nothing to hide anymore now my my bare bottom is exposed (figuratively) to the whole world.
Luvs and Kisses-  Bree Bree

Chicken Tenders

Ok- so for those of you who are getting to know me, you’ll see I used the term Chicken Tenders for fun, playful spankings and ‘attention’.  Unfortunately, when I get smart mouthed or defy Daddy, the chicken tenders are converted to Rump Roast.  Yes…. Nikki got what she wanted— ME in trouble.  Ok, I kindof brought it on myself (chalk it up to a moment of insanity), but I made a rather insincere and half-heartedly apology to my sister following Daddy’s order.  Dumb dumb dumb- I didn’t think he would immediately check on the response.  I dot my little butt hauled to the spanking chair, went OTK bare bottomed and received a rather heated lecture via my back end to be nice and not so rebellious.  I swear, the man has a hand like  wooden board- I HATE it.  So yes, my friends, I now sit here on well roasted, unhappy chicken tenders that need some SERIOUS marinade (rubs). But I’m not allowed…..

I’m sorry, Nikki.  I won’t try to get you in trouble anymore. (For a while anyway).  Luvs- Bree-Bree

Motivational Spankings

What do you think about motivational spankings? Daddy seems to think they are important. Personally, I am not so sure. I think I could live without them. Especially the day after being paddled and still wearing bruises from said paddling. What do you think? Do you get motivational spankings? I am thinking we should take a poll on here and maybe that could decide the verdict about whether I get them or not. What do you think? After the verdict is in, Bre can tell Daddy!

Fantasy vs. Reality

Hello, my friends…. this has been a week of learning new lessons and reinforcing old ones.  My poor sister will attest to that.  I wanted to share some thoughts I have regarding ‘real world’ vs ‘fantasy world’ that most of us subs seem to have.  First- let me thank all of you for your continued support with my books!  Your positive reviews and encouragement have been lifting them all into the top ten of Blushing’s List.
As you know, the story lines/plots in my stories are fiction/fantasy with multiple scenes based on reality.  I can’t help but chuckle when I read a review regarding an ‘unrealistic’ element in any author’s work.  Of course it is!  It wouldn’t be fiction, right?  Who of us have not dreamed of being a mermaid? Or winning the Lotto?  Or being perfectly smart, talented, beautiful…… I mean, if all of the books we read were based on reality- there would be a LOT more 35 and under, 6’5″, rich, smart, hot, available men then we would know what to do with! And very few of us would ever reach the 30 year old mark (or gain weight, get cellulite, wrinkles or gray hair).  Right?  So I say on behalf of my fellow authors- just sit back and enjoy!
Seriously- how many of us would really want to live the ‘lives’ of our characters or scenarios? Not me, for sure- especially enduring the frequency/severity in which our poor, slow-learning heroine finds herself OTK.  Heck- in my real life, I’m in enough trouble as it is– I certainly wouldn’t want more!
We often  enjoy living vicariously through the stories we read, helping us come to grips with our own fantasies and darker desires. We learn how to comfortably express our needs and innermost thoughts to our partners and explore how far we might want to take a new step in our D/S relationships.
For me, if a scene strikes me as interesting, I will give it to John to read and then we talk about the whys and hows.  Why is it interesting to me? How can it be enacted? John then tries to put the fantasy/fiction element into a reality based session.  At that point, I am able to truly distinguish the difference between reality and fantasy and what I want/need (or not) from him.  As he always tells me: be careful what you wish for.
Give it a go- fellow subs! Open up communication with your Doms- even the ‘vanilla’ D/S relationships can bloom when you share your fantasies or items you read and discuss how to make it real for you.
Oh yes- WHEN you do figure out how to become independently wealthy or stay perfectly young and gorgeous forever, please share it with the rest of us, ok? Those are two fantasies that I would Love to see become reality for me.  LOL!!!
Luvs and Kisses-  Bree

Poor Bree-Bree

I feel so sorry for my big sis. Bree really screwed up this time and she is looking at a serious session with Daddy. I can’t really say what she did -I am sure she will eventually, but needless to say, Daddy is not happy. I think I am going to make sure I am not in the house when Daddy disciplines her because I am sure it will upset me almost as much as her.

Positions- Presentation

Poor Nikki!  Once again, she’s being put through the ringer.  Daddy instructed me to teach her how to ‘properly’ present an implement to a Dom for discipline.  She’s in a panic, too!  For those of you who don’t know:
1.  Stand directly in front of your Dom/Domme holding the implement in the flat palms of your hands- the hand spread should be about 12″.  Keep your eyes downcast, but chin held up proudly.  You are showing respect.
2.  Gracefully lower yourself down to the floor- without using your hands.  This might take practice.  Maintain your posture- straight back, chin up, eyes down and hands straight in front of you.
3.  Knees spread 10-12″ apart, big toes touching behind you.  Keep your back straight, eyes down, chin up and  stretch the implement at arms length.  Sometimes the Dom will have you say something as your present it.
4.  Once he/she takes the implement, immediately touch your forehead to the floor with the flats of your hands facing down on either side.  This will force you to stick your bottom up in the air.
5.  A GOOD sub will thank his/her Dom when that implement strikes.  I’m NOT a good sub!

Luvs, Bree

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