OK lovelies, this is a bit of a different post than I usually do, but its cool because I get to brag. No not about myself, that’s for all of you to do! lol But I digress.
As you all know, I am married to the famous Breanna Hayse. And you all know how awesome she is. However, I bet you did not know this, Bree had her first flogging lesson the other day. Now she is not a novice, and has quite a bit of experience as a Domme. She had training as a Domme way before I met her, and made her my submissive. Since she is a switch, no, not with me so stop the wheels turning, she has dommed men and women in the past.
Recently, she has decided to up her game, so to speak. She has started taking lessons from a Dom named Papa Tony. He is very well know in the D/s & BDSM community. He has a ton of skill, and has taken her on as his pupil. He told me after her lesson she was really gifted and really impressed him. Not an easy thing to do to a Dom. I am so proud of her. I knew she would excel, but still its really cool to hear that from an unbiased person. Especially someone of Papa Tony’s reputation.
Now this is not just a post for me to brag about my significant other, but it’s also about something else. As subs, you all must work on your behaviors all the time. Some more than others, and you all know who you are. But, and I hope you are all sitting down, or leaning! lol But, Doms need to work on things also.
You see, I can draw an analogy between Domming and music and its simple. The more you know the more you find you don’t know. There are always new techniques, and always someone better or more knowledgeable. A Dom must grow just as a submissive grows. Different goals, but growth just the same.
Now Doms have a lot of pride. Yes I know, spoiler alert!!!! I would like to think I have all the skills to teach Bree anything she wants to know about D/s or S&M, etc. But I do not. I do not have the skills Papa Tony has, so that’s why he is teaching her. She wants to grow, and he has the skills to take her where she wants to go. I also am not ashamed to say I will be asking Bree to show me some stuff, as her skill set is better than mine with certain flogging techniques. So I need to grow as well.
There are some new things I want to learn. Just because I am a Dom, and just because I have a lot of experience, does not mean I know everything. Far from it. And just because Bree is my submissive, does not mean she cannot show me something she has more skill at. So do not think Doms just sit back and do nothing but torture poor little subbies. OK, that’s true sometimes, OK a lot of the time! But that’s beside the point. The point is Doms have to work on stuff too. Not just for our own skill level, but because it can increase our submissive’s enjoyment, yes I said enjoyment.
It is not always about punishment, little subbies, there is a sensual world of D/s and S&M, which is kinda what flogging falls under. So just remember, Doms have to work at stuff too. We just have no consequences if we fail to practice! Good to be the Dom!
Be good or else…