Serendipity Ranch Is Here!

Serendipity Ranch is Here!  Ok Y’all- I had a blast with this one.  Subbies- be prepared…. should you choose to repeat any of the smart a** comments used by Serena on your Doms, you might be finding yourselves as bare bottomed and tenderized as this gal is.  So grab yourself a glass of icy cold goat milk and a plate of cookies, sit back and watch the fireworks fly!

Luvs to All- Breanna

Facing Fear = Building Confidence

Before I say anything else- I want to thank my fans for all the positive encouragement and reviews you’ve left on Blushing.  You all inspire me to grow and improve, and it’s because of YOU that I challenge myself to bring you literature that will touch your hearts as well as your imagination. 
The reason I bring this up is because I’ve personally been learning a lot about myself as I’ve put my books out for public ‘consumption’ and, subsequently, criticism.  I recently shared my feelings about trust- but I left out the most important lesson of all—
Trust yourself
I will be honest.  I was terrified to put my first book out there for the world to see.  Fear of rejection, ridicule, judgement and failure reeked havoc on my delicate little heart.  Yes! I am a sensitive soul (don’t listen to Nikki if she says otherwise! LOL!)  But as I held my breath, waiting for my first review, I had to stop to consider the journey I chose years ago, in the discovery of my true nature.
As I’ve told Nikki hundreds of times, the only difference between me and a ‘normal person’ is that I am no longer afraid to admit, and embrace, my ‘dark side’.  I have no secrets from myself, or from those I trust.  When I fully submitted myself to that understanding, the fears I had dissolved in new found confidence.
Of course that confidence, had much to do with the people around me who showered me with positive reinforcement.  Besides my family, the uplifting reviews from my readers, the encouragement and support I receive from Blushing, the lectures I get from Dr. James, and the occasional kick in the rump I get from John helped me learn to trust myself and my abilities.
We need one another. Those who read this are strangers in flesh, but brothers and sister in spirit. Whether it’s your lifestyle, or doing something you’ve never tried, allow yourself the privilege to experience it with those you trust and respect.  Even sharing on blogs like this- where you are supported and encouraged- can help build up a new found confidence to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilization, to boldly go…. oh, sorry! Got caught up in the moment.
My challenge to you:  Take a moment today to speak a word of encouragement or praise to someone you know AND to someone you don’t.  Their smile as they receive from you will bring your confidence to a different level.  Don’t believe me?  Try it and then share back here!
With all Luvs and Kisses-  Breanna

Cross your fingers! James said Serendipity Ranch should be ready for next weekend!

Trust


Hey folks! Nikki and I have been talking a lot lately about the delicate nature of trust- especially for a submissive.  This theme is a constant in my books and, for those of you who have read The Game Plan, you’ll remember that this was Cassie’s greatest struggle. Her lack of trust (caused by betrayal) paralyzed her from accepting love because she felt unworthy to receive it.  Rob had the wisdom to understand that it took time and consistency to gain, and keep, that sacred treasure of the heart, mind, spirit, body, and soul. Obtaining her trust, and subsequently her heart, became his personal goal because of his love for her. He also learned that certain words and actions, no matter how minute, could have an impact on obtaining, or losing, that trust.
Nothing is more important to a submissive than trust.  If you can’t trust your Dom/Domme, there is no D/S relationship.  It is the most precious gift you can give your partner and, in it’s offering, also leaves you at your most vulnerable state of being.  Your partners, in turn, must truly search their hearts and ask- are they worthy of that trust?  If not, how can they become so?
So what type of trust do you have to offer?

Body: We must be able to trust that our physical needs be met and that our bodies be protected from harm during ‘play’ or discipline.  In order to be able to give ourselves freely, we must know that we will never be subjected to bodily harm or any rejection. The slightest derogatory or negative comment- even in jest- can easily send an insecure sub into a knot of shame.  Since D/S is so focused on the body, this trust in essential to guard and nurture.

Emotional: The dearest, and most precious type of trusts we give.  This is the heart of who we are- the base from which we, as human beings, are separated from other animals.  When we trust our partners with our hearts, they must understand that, unlike a cut or broken bone, emotional trust takes years to build and only moments to destroy. Words are the greatest asset, and also the ultimate destruction, of emotional trust.  Use the power of words for good, Grasshopper!

Financial: Is your partner responsible with finances? Are your needs met, including bills being paid, food on the table, medical expenses?  Believe it or not, most couples break up due to financial issues more than any other. Is your partner an equal one in your relationship and do you share chores and responsibilities?. If one works, does the other pick up the slack around the house?  Being a submissive does not mean to be a doormat.

Mind: Can you trust your partner with your most hidden secrets and desires, knowing they will never laugh at you, or poke fun.  Even a casual, but negative, reference to something you’ve mention will cause most people to clam up and stop sharing.  Guarding the tongue and picking the right words can spare you years of heart ache!

Spiritual:  Everyone has a different belief system.  A healthy D/S relationship will respect the partners belief system without ridicule.


These are but a few.  What trust issues do you struggle with and how do you think it can be overcome?  Would you like to see any being addressed in a future book? Please share!

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know—-

My dear friend, Renee Rose (who is an incredible and talented author- check out her newest book on Blushing!) finally caught me and asked me all the personal questions she wanted.. There is NO squirming away from that gal! LOL!  LOVE her!!! Anyway- she just posted my interview for the peeps to read.
Go on- ask more questions…. I have nothing to hide anymore now my my bare bottom is exposed (figuratively) to the whole world.
Luvs and Kisses-  Bree Bree
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