Hello my lovelies,…are we all behaving? No- that was rhetorical. lol OK a lot of you have been asking me, sir how do I spot a Dom? At a party or club etc? Well sorry to tell you ladies, we do not wear a big ‘D’ on our chests, or carry a crop in our back pocket.
So how do you spot a Dom? Let me illustrate something for you. I watch movies. A lot of movies. And occasionally they get it right- as far as depicting a true Dom/sub interaction. I am thinking about one movie in particular that really nailed it. You may be surprised at what I am about to say, but as always, hang in there and all will be revealed. The interaction between Anthony Hopkins and Jodie Foster in…Drum roll please………….Silence Of The Lambs!! OK, just calm down and hear me out. I mean sure he was a psycho and killed and ate his victims, but nobody’s perfect right?
Ok seriously, here is the deal. From the first time Clarice lays eyes on Hannibal, if you watch carefully, he already has her. She is mesmerized. Even knowing he is a dangerous killer, she still cannot deny his vibe, his power, and control. He does not have to raise his voice, move around etc..He is totally calm and in control. She is an intelligent woman and she is reduced to a shivering mass. She may not know why yet, but she cannot take her eyes off him, and she is immediately compliant.
Now Anthony Hopkins is a genius actor, but he does not look like Brad Pitt (or whoever you find hot these days). Looks have nothing to do with the true Dom vibe. If a Dom is good looking, its a plus, but not a necessity. So what does this have to do with spotting a Dom? If you see someone or someone says hello to you, if he is a Dom you will feel like Clarice staring, mesmerized, and powerless. You may think I am exaggerating, but trust me, I am not.
Now there is another way you can test if a guy is a Dom, or at least trying… Be a brat. When he calls you on it, say something like “well what are you going to do about it, spank me?” The answer will leave no doubt but thats not nearly as exciting as a Dom just looking at you, and you melting. You need to see a Doms eyes. If you re watching Silence again, (and if you are discovering your sub side, you should) look at Hannibals eyes and how he draws Clarice in without even trying.
So it starts with the eyes.If you do not feel that weak in the knees, fluttering heart, shortness of breath…Keep looking.
As always be good or else!