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Where?  Arlington, VA – Right outside of Washington, D.C.
When? August 27th through the 30th
Hotel?  Marriott Gateway

Have you ever thought about attending a writing conference?  Have you attended in the past and found it too crowded, overwhelming, or expensive?  Consider attending “The Passionate Pen.”

Later this month, right outside our nation’s capital,  Blushing Books Publications and Lazy Day Publishing are hosting a conference in the nation’s capital for writers of all flavors, whether published or unpublished.  While our emphasis is on romance, our marketing panels, craft workshops, and marketing information can easily apply to all fiction genres.

It’s our goal to have one of the most accessible, intimate conferences ever, with panels that you can really use, taught by experienced authors, editors, and industry professionals.    Tired of sitting on the floor in a crammed conference room?  All of our workshop rooms are set up “classroom” style, with a comfortable table for note-taking or laptops.

Our full conference package will allow you to attend two days of workshops with one evening social, one continental breakfast, and one full breakfast PLUS three nights of lodging – all included – for $300.00 (double occupancy) or $450.00 (single.)  Compare that to other conferences which can easily run $400 – $600 for crowded workshops and lodging not included!

And if this isn’t enough, we are also doing a raffle.   Each registrant will receive one ticket automatically in his or her registration, and extra tickets are available for $1.00 each, or six for $5.00, or twenty-five tickets for $20.00.    And what is the grand prize?  It’s an amazing one!   A full registration to any major romance writing conference (including Romantic Times, Romance Writers of America, RomCon, Romance Novel Convention, or our second annual conference) plus a $300 travel stipend!   We also have a second prize of a Kindle Fire, and additional prizes donated by our authors!

This may be your last chance to get away before summer fades into fall and life gets crazy again. Be inspired and encouraged in your passion for words.

Manipulation

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or abusive tactics. By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at another’s expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive.

SO WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE TOLERATE THOSE WHO DO THIS?

As many of your know, I work pro bono as a therapist and deal with all kinds of abuse situations- Spousal, employers, financial… you name it and that type of abuse is seen on my desk. I have a client who recently took a stand and confronted an abusive employer with his activities and agenda. Things that were seen AND experienced by all her coworkers. She knew going in that his response would not be one of maturity, repentance or responsibility- and that he would find a way to turn the tables. Sure enough- instead of him accepting responsibility for the demeaning comments and actions against her- he loaded her with guilt and tried to make himself the victim.. He then turned the others against her- people who knew the truth but were too weak willed and afraid to stand on their own two feet against him. And the situation is not like they had nowhere else to go- this was CHOICE. Doesn’t anyone have any self-respect anymore?

Before I began writing full time, I worked for a person who did that same thing- if I DARED stand up for myself and exposed the behavior, then he would throw either the insult or guilt card at me. I worked HARD and he was altering reports to claim as his and gain credit. The clients knew it- the coworkers knew it- and behind his back, everyone talked and said it was wrong. But when it came to confrontation- I was made to be the bad guy. He claimed that I was not a team player, that I hurt my coworkers by not allowing him to claim credit, and a myriad of other ridiculous and childish things. It wasn’t enough that he made money off my work- he had to OWN it as his (which he could not legally do). He even used the ‘you have to trust me because I’m a Christian card! The honest Christians I know don’t manipulate, steal, lie, coerce, deceive and mess around on their spouses– and those who do, I can’t help but question the foundation of their faith.

OMG- the emails we all received (and we all have kept to remind ourselves that he was a deceptive manipulative jerk) were amazing. He would not cut any corners with the attempt to manipulate and coerce- and when intimidation and threats didn’t work, he tried to stab into the heart. He had no problem in even claiming that the stress I brought him was so great that I could cause him marital problems! (Not the fact he had his hands on every woman he could or that he embezzled from the company and was under investigation for it). I was just waiting for the next play- that he would claim that I caused his wife to lose her baby or their dog to be run over by a car. Yeah, he held back nothing in his desperate attempt to NOT take responsibility. I knew I had other options for work and took my talents elsewhere- many followed afterword but yet he still continues these behaviors with the delusional belief that the people he works with are so stupid that they will allow this disgusting behavior to continue indefinitely. You can only imagine how he laughs at them behind their backs! And, yes, they deserve it- they know the truth but are too afraid to stand together and stop it.

WHY DOES ONE TOLERATE ABUSE and BULLYING? Especially in a situation where you have options to get out?

I decided at that moment to stand up against those who use people for self-gain and who bully people in accepting their sick and selfish agenda. The abusers also know that if they ever got in my face that I will expose them openly. I wish I could trust that they are smart enough to avoid me- but most abusers are so filled with delusions of grandeur that they can’t help but try to get the last word. Dumb move- because that is what proves themselves a fool every time.

These people come in all shapes and sizes and relationships. They don’t care about anyone except themselves and, quite often, their bank account. How many times are you going to allow fear to force you to make choices that you know are not healthy or productive for you, your family or your career? If you have a support network- put it into play and say NO to bullies and manipulators. They don’t care about you- and the more guilt they throw in your direction proves that. You owe them nothing- and need to ask yourself- why associate with them?

YOU can stop this behavior. YOU can recognize an abusive relationship and stop it. YOU have the choice to get out of it and preserve yourself. This is about YOU- your safety and your life. Few abusers change their stripes- just the color- and you don’t have to be their prey any longer. Stop the abuse- take a stand- and gain respect for yourself and your life. YOU CAN DO IT!

 

Join Us!

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Blushing Books and Lazy Day Publishing are hosting a writer’s conference in the nation’s capital this summer.  Come mingle at the Marriott Gateway for four(ish) days of social events and workshop sessions that will surely add something to your arsenal.

This comprehensive weekend event is open to any unpublished, aspiring writer, blogger, jotter, dotter and published authors in any genre.  

For more details visit:
http://www.blushingconference.com/

If you have questions contact Bella Bryce​, our Conference Coordinator, at conference@blushingbooks.com

A Visit with Laurel and Maggie

We are pleased to have our friends Laurel Jane and Maggie Ryan with us today. They have collaborated on a wonderful new book entitled Realizing Her Dream. Congrats you two!! This book is on sale this weekend only so be sure to hit up Amazon for your copy.

Realizing Her Dream

When Casey Reeves loses her husband to an unexpected heart attack, she gives herself a new mantra: To live life as if it were an amazing adventure, as every single day matters.

Unfortunately, one of the things on her bucket list looks far better on paper, and when Casey finds herself up in a plane, strapped to a tall, handsome man, about to undertake her very first parachute jump, she realizes that she’d do just about anything to be able to back out.

Paul Jackson has been a parachute instructor ever since he retired early, and has seen his fair share of terrified women, but when Casey hysterically promises to do anything he asks in return for being able to return to solid ground safely—even let him spank her—he’s amused, and not a little intrigued. He’s also more than willing to accept her bargain.

Casey finds herself taking a leap of faith—in more ways than one. The two begin their journey together, spending some time on a luxurious yacht, in a tropical rainforest and even in a ranch in outback Australia, as they work their way through her list.

What they discover is that life has a tendency not to follow carefully designed plans. With Paul beside her, Casey quickly learns that living every day to its fullest entails far more than she’d ever imagined. And by her side throughout the action, danger and laughter is a man who not only has no hesitation in reddening her bottom when she deserves it, but can send her soaring into ecstasy with a single look or a touch of his hand.

Finding a new love to equal—or even exceed—her old one was not even on Casey’s bucket list but now that she has, can they make it work? Is Paul really the man of her dreams?

Best-selling author Maggie Ryan and newcomer Laurel Jane have put their heads and their pens together to come up with this, an exciting tale of romance, lust, love, spanking and adventure. If the subject of domestic discipline or explicit erotica offends you, please do not read this book.

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As Paul lifted her into the truck, his hand patted against her bottom. “I’m guessing yours is not the only backside that might be a bit tender?”

“Well, mine isn’t all that tender anymore thanks to you allowing me to use the Arnica cream, but yes, you guess correctly, Sir,” Casey said, his hand against her rear making her tremble.

“As I said, they were very close friends of ours.”

He secured her into her seat and placed a kiss on her cheek. “I’m glad you have such good friends. It can be hard to practice a discipline relationship without having friends to understand how it makes you feel at times. Thank you for introducing me.”

After climbing into his own seat, he turned to her. “I would like to take you home with me. I’m very proud of you for curtailing your language after just that one warning. I would also like you to meet Tiny.”

“Who’s Tiny?” Casey asked after a moment, wondering how he’d moved from praising her to speak of someone named Tiny.

“You’ll see.”

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