A Little in the Middle

Hello lovelies,

Before I get to my post I want to recommend a movie for you all. Bree wanted to watch, What Dreams May Come, I had seen parts of it back in the day but did not remember it. It’s a great movie, the ultimate example of love and selfless sacrifice, well worth a look.

Now to my post, as the title implies (rather cleverly if I do say so myself) it’s about ageplay….in a way. Bree has her moments as a middle, not many but on occasion. Like my last post said she won’t let herself act out much but, when we go to the market or shopping (especially to the place I feel should be added to Dante’s levels of hell), Super Target, she has a little…pun intended…ritual.

Some of you may know, Bree is about 5’ 1” which makes it very difficult to find her if she takes off, which she likes to do. I told her to jump up and down so I might see her head bobbing among the hair products but, as we all know white girls (at least 5′ 1″ ones) can’t jump. She thinks it’s funny to take off with the cart. She’s also pretty good at hiding so I usually just wait at the checkout because she has to show up eventually right?

I swear next time I am going to tell the manager I have a lost child. All over Target you would hear “Breanna your dad’s looking for you,” lol. You never know with her.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Dommer May I

Hello lovelies,

So todays query is this…Does your Dom give you permission to act out (within reason of course)? Like sassing or semi bratty behavior which would result in a good spanking but not serious punishment? And if so, do you take advantage of the situation?

Personally I have given Bree this option but, she never takes me up on it. I think she does not trust me to not spank her too hard, which for Bree means anything over 5 spanks lol. I am talking a play type situation but she won’t do it.

Do any of you have this same problem? Doms don’t mind a little bratting now and then but, there are always consequences. Bree always whines, “how come there have to be consequences?” Hello! You acted out, and you did it so you could get a nice red bottom. So, why whine when that happens? I’m telling you all its not all paddles and canes being a dom.

That’s my frustrated (Yes, Doms do get frustrated) question of the week.

Be good, or else…

SJ

A Dom’s Dilemma

Hello lovelies,

I got the idea for this post, from one of my subs. How do you punish a masochist? Not as easy as it sounds. Now, in person I can go major de Sade, and bring a hardcore masochist to tears. And yes I have done it but, online that’s a whole other talk show.

Let’s say I am going the de Sade route…If the sub has a spanking machine and an implement she hates that can fit, its possible to make her feel punished. I am just talking physical not mental.

What if she does not have a machine? Well, then a hardcore masochist can’t possibly have the arm stamina to reach de Sade levels.

What to do? The answer is very simple and I stumbled on it purely by experimentation. You do nothing! Let me explain. I have a few hardcore subbie masochists so I decided on a little experiment. Place them bb under or in front of the machine, implement touching their bb and have them reflect for 10 minutes or so, no spanks.

Oh this is truly de Sade punishment for a masochist and so simple. And they end up begging for a spanking, win win for me. Keep this up daily for a week or so and you have one very sorry masochist.

Be good, or else…

SJ

To Sit or Not to Sit

Hello lovelies,

All of you fantasize about spanking (oh come on we’re all friends here, you know that’s true) and one of the things that comes up a lot in a subbies fantasy is hearing a Dom or Domme say something like… “Young lady, I am going to spank you until you can’t sit down” or “When I’m done with you, you won’t sit down for a week.”

I will give you all a minute to catch your breaths lol

So, is that really possible? Can you be spanked until you can’t sit down?

Well, it’s much harder than it sounds. A sound spanking, even a hard one, will make it somewhat uncomfortable to sit. A severe spanking, especially if the spanker knows how to concentrate on the sit spots (there’s a reason they are called that lol) and if the spanking involves heavy wood paddles, brushes, and possibly a severe caning then it can be extremely hard to sit.

But, not able to at all? I have to say I have never experienced any sub that that happed to but, I have had emails like these:

Thank you Sir, I had a meeting today at work, they only had wood chairs and it lasted 2 hours! I thought of you every second. No I won’t tell you what I was thinking.

or

I slept on my stomach last night and my drive to work was very painful, especially when I hit a bump in the road.

or one of my favorites

I was so sore at work, I could not sit still and had to constantly lean and squirm. My coworker asked if I threw my back out! I lied and said yes, wait…I’m not getting another spanking for lying am I sir?      

lol I love that one and yes those are true.

Have any of you ever been spanked so you could not sit down? If so, with what, and for what transgressions?

Or more likely, have any of you ever been spanked so you had to sleep on your stomachs, and squirm around on your chair at work?  Same question, with what and, for what?

And just for your edifications it is possible to produce a subbies sore bottom like this online.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Oww & Oww

Hello lovelies,

It was good to hear from all of you last week. I’m afraid my question this time will not be one you want to answer, or even think about. All Dom’s are sadistic (to different degrees and depending on different days) since I am in that zone right now, here is my question.

Yes, you have to answer, no running, and please keep the screaming to a minimum. In my current state I do love a subbie’s screams.

Switch or cane?

If you had to pick one or the other for a discipline session, which one?

Hey!!! Come back here, I didn’t say you were getting it now!!! I said IF you were.

Of course, these implements are for serious transgressions only, such as: texting and driving, public displays of bad behavior (rudeness, temper tantrums, etc.) and, speeding. Basically putting yourself or others at risk or displaying behavior in public that would embarrass your Dom.

So, for those of you still with me, which shall it be? A switching or a caning?

Be good, or else…

SJ

To Spank or Not to Spank

Hello lovelies,

I trust the New Year is bringing you good health, financial success, and red bottoms all around.

What do you all think about the following, and before you answer yes, Bree did all these things.

To spank or not to spank:

  1. stealing a Dom’s food
  2. talking during the Dom’s favorite TV show or movie
  3. squirting water on the Dom for no reason
  4. biting the Dom’s leg (this happened OTK so I guess you can say to spank with a paddle or not)
  5. blaming the Dom for losing the keys when it was the subbie
  6. cheating at board games
  7. being a potty mouth
  8. hiding the Dom’s favorite paddle

So my lovelies to spank or not?

Be good, or else…

SJ

Timing is Everything

Hello lovelies,

I was thinking about the following, what do you think?

A few of my subs own spanking machines. Most of them are not strong enough for a self spanking and the machine with a cane or switch on 10 is very painful, if they need discipline. However this question can apply to a session with or without a machine.

Do you feel a discipline spanking is more effective timed or not?

By that I mean, on the machine there is a timer, up to 5 minutes. Do you think knowing how long the spanking lasts is more effective than not? Without a machine using an hourglass or watch that would be in front of you, so you had the watch the sands or seconds slowly go by while your bb burns more and more? A 3 to 5 minute spanking as opposed to one where you have no idea when it ends?

Be good, or else…

SJ

Surprise

Hello lovelies and happy 2017! Aren’t we supposed to have teleporters and flying cars by now? Oh well, I have news that’s almost as startling. When I met Bree, she would not even look at a TV, forget about actually investing time in watching anything. Fast forward in our D/s hot tub time machine to 2017 and voilà, not only is she watching TV, but she’s addicted to these shows:

  • Survivor
  • Ladies of London
  • Marriage Boot Camp
  • Beverly Hills Housewives
  • Duel Survivor
  • Big Bang Theory
  • Masters of Sex
  • Lucifer

You get the idea. A first was reached last night, however, Bree is now a full-fledged member of the binge watchers club!!! She binge watched a whole season of the Royals last night. As someone who has been addicted to TV since he was a mini Dom, I am so proud. And this from a woman who hated the fact I watched TV when we met. It’s amazing what 13 years can do lol.

My New Year’s resolution is to try…yes I said try…and post a blog post every week. And let’s all cross everything that the drama of 2016 is in our rear view mirrors yes?

Be good, or else…

SJ

Nice or Not Nice

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Hello lovelies,

I was pondering something the other day. As a Dom I try and keep balanced. By balanced I’m not being Mr. Meanie or de Sade but also not the super nice guy that lives inside 24/7.

Yes, he’s in there, come on cut me some slack it’s been awhile.

There is a strange phenomenon that I have discovered with subbies. They all have, on occasion complained that I’m too mean or too strict. So, being the compassionate Dom I am, I let the nice side show.

Big mistake…subbies don’t really want a nice Dom. They do want me to have empathy and be fair but they really want the strictness. The strictness they all fight so hard against. I have experienced this many times in fact, some subs flat out say, “Don’t be nice to me.”

I have to walk the line between not being nice and not being a jerk. And you all thought this was easy lol. I love all my subbies. My number 1 Bree, of course, does the very thing I’m talking about from time to time.

And you wonder why Doms are special kind of crazy?

Be good, or else…

SJ

Communication

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Hello lovelies,

I have two questions for you…

First, which of these two Doms appeal to your fantasies.

The kind that’s more physical, to grab you when you misbehave and force you over his lap while you struggle?

Or

The keyboard kind, that can get you to lay over his lap with just a look or gesture?

This kind of a lame analogy but choose: Dracula or Superman.

Next, if you tend to be more mental than physical, what gets you to the sub zone?

Your Dom needs to know so communication is very important. Even though it may seem like topping from the bottom always remember a Dom can’t read your mind …well not all the time, lol.

Communication is important. It will make you both happier.

Be good, or else…

SJ

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