Bratting Overboard

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Hello lovelies, are you all behaving? Uh…never mind! LOL!

Okay,this post will be quite different from the usual as it involves a really strange and bizarre incident. As you all know, I am married to the beautiful Breanna Hayse…smart, funny and usually as close to a perfect sub as I have ever encountered. However, a few days ago she kind of lost her mind.

Let me give you some background:

First, we are a D/s couple 24/7. Bree has boundaries that she knows not to cross and 99.9% of the time she respects them. Now, Bree got sick. I mean really sick; throwing up, migraines, aches, sore throat, the whole deal. I was doing my best to take care of her, but she always says “oh, I am fine and can take care of myself.” Sure, I can relate since I am much the same way, BUT the difference is whereas I can care for myself, she cannot! She stubbornly refuses to admit when she is sick. In fact, she reminds me of the knight in the old Monty Python movie who gets his arm cut off in battle and continues to fight stating “ Its just a flesh wound!” Get the picture? Beyond stubborn!

Fast forward to day two. Bree is still sick but decides she wants to go to the beach. I, of course, said no. I mean; someone had to be the voice of sanity after all. Bree does not like being told no. However, being the good, obedient sub that she usually is (since she could tell I was serious) she went to pout in the bedroom and work on a book. Since I always leave her alone to write, I went into my studio to practice my guitar. I checked in on her an hour later. She was not in the bedroom. I called for her, thinking she was in another part of the house. No answer. Hmmm, it was sunny out, so maybe she decided to go outside on the deck to write.

Not only was Miss Bree gone, but so was her car!

This was unbelievable, in the 12 years we have been together; she has never just gone somewhere without telling me. More so, I could not believe she would openly defy me! Seriously, this is the stuff I expect from my other girls, but not my Bree. I started to call her cell with the intent to tell her to get back home immediately when I saw something out of the corner of my eye.

Dom’s honor, this is true. Breanna Hayse had climbed half way up a large tree on our property! I marched right over to her and asked what in the world she thought she was doing, especially since she was sick and worse, climbing this big oak tree which, if she fell, could break her blessed neck! Her answer?

She hid her face and pretended that she had morphed into a chameleon and could not be seen.

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I was not happy. The border collies, of course, were making a racket, so I took them into the house. As soon as I was out of sight, she climbed down and then tried to hide in a little raised fort we have on our property’s playground. You can imagine my annoyance by this time.

I ordered her to come down.

She said ‘NO!’

I told her to come down or I would get her down.

She said ‘NO!’ again.

Okay, annoyed times ten and growing. I even said “please” and informed her that I did not want to tweak by dragging her out of there. Would you believe?

She said, “NO!” to me a THIRD time.

Next thing you know, I was dragging her sorry little butt out (listening to her whine for scraping her knee) and marched her by the ear to the house. That bratty bare bottom was put right into the corner with instructions to stay put until she was ready to apologize.

Bree hates the corner.

Now, for all of you that are rolling on the floor in laughter (and cheering her on, thank you  Piper), let me say that this was not amusing. Remember, she was sick and the possibility of falling out of the tree and getting seriously hurt was very real.

Does it stop there? While she is in the corner, she starts being sassy with me! 

That was it. That bratty bottom was OTK in a matter of seconds for a nice, hard spanking, but…and I want you all to get, she only got THREE spanks! THREE!!!!!! By her reaction, you would think she was trying out for the victim in the Saw movies. I got the whole gamut—tears, hyperventilating (she was stuffed up and couldn’t breathe anyway) and shaking. Stop laughing, Piper. I know exactly who taught her these moves!

I finally got her to answer why she was so angry with me. Do you know what she said?

Get this…“Your spanking HURT!”

Spankings are SUPPOSED to hurt! And all this fuss after only THREE spanks that she deserved for acting like a child. But this is hardly the end of your favorite author’s fate, my lovelies…

Since she made me worry on purpose by hiding her car and leading me to believe that she left, she will endure a real punishment session in this coming week. Thanks to the generosity of my girls and several fans with Caniac gift certificates, Bree bought a bunch of new implements. Implements that she had planned to use on my other little hellion, might I add, they are all quite severe in nature. Can you guess who gets to try every one of them out?

Don’t worry; she will post about the experience once it is completed.

So, is there a lesson here as with all my posts? YES!

If you want attention and are jonesing for a hand spanking, do not go overboard. Once you cross over into disrespecting boundaries and proceed to do something insane (like blatant defiance and disobedience), you will earn much more than the red, warm bottom you want. Much, much more.

Be good or else!

Sir John

 

Positions, Implements and Intensity

Well, Lovelies- it’s me, SJ, or as some of you like to call me: Mr. Meanie. I am going to try to do a weekly post and also answer any questions you may have for me. What kind of questions? Any and all, so let me know. The most recent has been “How do you determine what positions,  implements and intensity…?”

As most of you know, each Dom will be different in how he/she weighs the deed to the discipline. I am coming from old school (like the kind that existed before a certificate could be earned online and anyone could claim the title of Master or Mistress). I can already hear my girls snickering about it being sometime during the 1300’s…Very funny, ladies… Regardless of the decade we were mentored in, the mark of a good top is contemplation, consistency and compassion. And with those traits in mind…

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As a rule, I find certain offenses require different types of discipline, type of implements, amount in duration and, along with these, different positions. For the typical ‘bratty’ sub, the traditional OTK (Over The Knee) on the bare-bottom with my hand is usually sufficient to address the challenging, and often mischievous, behaviors.

For a more serious violation, I have several prized implements of choice. The Dreaded Dana to a hard wood brush can do the trick, but I must sometimes reserve the right to apply the school paddle. The position, not just the implement, is determined by the seriousness of the transgression. I will vary from the hairbrush/OTK, bent over grabbing ankles or touching toes is best (Nik still has not learned the difference between her toes, knees or thighs as her hands start to inch up with each swat), to leaning over a pile of pillows. And ALWAYS, of course, on the bare bottom. We Doms do like to watch it change to nice, hot crimson.

And now, the serious infractions. I have zero tolerance for my girls putting health or safety at risk. That includes speeding, texting or putting make up on while driving, theft, illegal drug use, and making foolish decisions that might cost you or someone else their job, safety or relationship. My little ones know that there is no backing out of these since most of them involve a criminal action. Inappropriate public behavior that causes embarrassment to me or anyone else is also a serious infraction in my book. That can include being out of control due to liquor, a public temper tantrum, disrespecting another person to cause them a problem.

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Fortunately, most of my girls learned this lesson very quickly and have not repeated the same mistakes. No names about who still needs to be reminded. For these issues, nothing less than the cane, the prison strap or… If she really is teetering on the edge, the birch. Rubber and textured acrylic implements often join the event. I also implicate the use of a T-bar. These little nasties came about from NuWest Videos eons ago (yes, there were TVs and actual recorded films back in the day). This sweet thing is perfect for the most severe sessions and compliments the implements very well because it keeps that lovely bare bottom nice and available. Occasionally, I include restraining of the hands and ankles while my bad little darling is stretched out over a spanking bench. This ensures that she is held safe and secure during her receipt of well- deserved stripes. Of course, for true humiliation, the diaper position is hard to beat. Well, not exactly. It is most delightful because the sit-spots are perfectly aligned to meet with my implement. I will have her on her back, ankles secured to a spreader bar which is either heisted in the air or attached to her wrists along the ankle links.

Yes, well… I am sure you are getting the idea.

I hope you have enjoyed the imagery and, to answer that last question…Yes, these different types of discipline are employed regularly in our household. It truly is Good to a be Dom!

Be Good or else…. SJ

But…Fine! Whatever!!!!

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Hello, my little subbies!
Have you missed me?

Okay, lets get right to it..What is up with the heading? I am so glad you asked!
There are three words Doms never want to hear a sub say-

Word #1: But (not to be confused with butt)
Dom: “Nik! Go to the corner,”
Nik: “But…”
Ding, ding, ding! Wrong and thanks for playing! Your reward is the Dana (for those of you who are not aware of the Wallop, Curse of Dana paddle, check this out.. It is a great self spanker, too. Just ask the girls!

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The WALLOP is made with 1/2″ thick High Grade Heavy 3 ply Conveyor Belt with rubber on both sides. The total length including the handle is approximately 14″ long and the spanking surface is 4″ x 3″ with slightly beveled edges. Two 1/4″ Delrin rods connect the spanking surface to the handle. This gives the piece incredible flexibility and whipping action. With little effort you can really apply the sting and pain.
To respond using the word ‘but‘ is the attempt to engage in some sort of subbie weaseling or make excuses, and will only get you in deeper trouble.

Word #2: FINE!
Dom: “Because you had to talk back, you will also be grounded.”
Nik: “Fine!”
Uh oh… Ding, Ding, Ding! Wrong again!
So, for this little smart attitude, your darling bottom gets to meet Miss Dana and Mr. Cane!
To use this word to to end the conversation is just another way of telling your Dom to zip it. NOT a wise move, my dears.

Word#3: Whatever…
This word is bad news for a subbie bottom. Not only is it dismissive and rude, but very disrespectful. Someone I know (Nik) likes to combine the last two words. My, my….
So Miss Dana and Mr. Cane are joined, in love, by the heart paddle…

imageThe Heart Attack Paddle has an overall length of almost 14″. The red heart is approximately 4″ with two flexible Delrin rods holding it to the handle. The heart is made with High Density Polyethylene and features a textured matte surface with beveled edges.  OW!!!
Need I say what this word is equivalent to in the vanilla world? Oh, please feel free to use your imaginations… Because, yes… It is telling your Dom to essentially take a flying leap off a high cliff. And using “Fine, whatever” together… Tsk tsk. You obviously never valued your ability to sit.

So, my poor delusional darlings, I know that, in subbie land, you believe these are perfectly valid responses. They are not …not now.. Not ever.

Now, why would I take the time to tell you these things? It is simple. I truly do care about all of you and am trying to save you some painful consequences here ..
Ask yourself ..okay, so if we can’t talk back, what are we supposed to say?
WITHOUT rolling your eyes, say ‘yes sir’ or, if appropriate, ‘no sir.’
It boggles my mind that subbies fail to grasp this simple rule- no whining …no excuses and no dismissive comments. Bite your tongues! Trust me, quiet is your friend…
Bree always says she won’t have anything but a little stump left in her mouth (and she can be mouthy, trust me), but at least she is able to sit for dinner.

Ahh, I hear it now in subbie harmony
“But, it’s not fair! Okay, Fine! Whatever!!!!!

Try and be good,
SJ

SJ + Cane + Bree = :)

 

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Ok. I know its been a while-quite awhile- but sometimes things come up, even for a Dom. However, I did a sub session with Bree I thought was worth writing about.

She was restrained by her request. Now in case you forgot, a sub may ask for things during a sub session. In fact, it helps the Dom, as the subs pleasure is the main goal. Bree bought a split cane not long ago. A very nice implement. If you do not know what this is, just google “Dom torture devices” lol Ok, not really. All though it can be quite painful, it can also be pleasurable. Even arousing when done in a certain way ..

So split cane and also school cane  delivered to Bree’s bb …for ……are you all sitting down?  Well if you can, lol anyway drum roll please …Over 1000 strokes!   Doms honor, no lie.

Out of these maybe three were hard and elicited the proper squirming, and  yelling  past  normal hearing loss.  Now  false  modesty is not a Dom thing, so let me just say to apply that many strokes to the proper area and with the proper speed  is not easy. In fact, it takes not only skill but alot of forearm strength. The technique is called tapping. Tapping is a technique where  the cane is applied very fast, all though not really hard.  Certainly stinging- but in a good way.  And yes Bree loved it .

So my question to you all…Have any of you ever experienced tapping in any form or during session? , If not, does this sound like something you would want to try?

Remember, Bree could have stopped this anytime. It was not a punishment.

Missed you all!I will try and post more frequently. As always, be good or else.

SJ

Severe Punishment…What exactly should you expect.

 

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Well what to write about? Sometimes it’s hard to think of something that may be of interest but today I want to talk about levels of punishment. I knew that would get your attention my lovelies. OK  we have talked  about maintenance  reminders, brat punishments, etc. But not really about when severity is needed.

Now  in Bree’s case this is not needed very often. However, some of you certainly have earned this. So what does that mean?  Torture?  Bondage?  Having to listen to Kenny G? OK, that last one is too Desade, even for me…

A severe punishment is much different than just a hard one. For me, I like to  have the subbie bound over my spanking bench. Not only is this a humiliating position, but one she cannot even wiggle out of. So the bb is  presented perfectly and if need be the thighs, once in this position  the subbie knows this is serious  and will be very painful. I will probably use my hand some, maybe up to 70%  in some cases. My usual spankings are around 30% for a hard one. Once the sub feels the difference she knows she is in really deep. This is usually where the begging and whining starts. Which of course, I ignore.  Now  a severe punishment requires two things;  A lot of implements, and very painful strokes. Oh and time… It takes quite a long time.

Implements i would use are small wood paddle w/holes,  large school paddle, attitude adjustment paddle, all wood brush, strap, OTK thin cane, school cane, singapore thick cane, rug beater, small rug beater, large tawse – thin and thick.

Now if you did not faint, you can see this is a punishment to be avoided at all costs. And yes, I have applied this, so its not a fantasy. It’s as real as it gets.

I am  feeling a bit Desade today so i thought I would write a post from that perspective.  If you are curious of a subbie’s position over a spanking bench, just google images. I think you will get the idea.

Good to be back.  Be good or else.

SJ

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Smart IS a Turn On…

 

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I’m baaack!!!!  Did you miss me?  I missed all of you…So, I was thinking, well actually I was talking to Bree. As you all know, she is a super mensa head brainiac. Which  I find very attractive. In fact, this is the subject of my post; “Subbies With a Brain”. A lot of times in the vanilla dating world, very smart women feel they must tone down their intellect.To not make the guy feel intimidated. Granted, a lot of vanilla guys like that, but here’s a big heads up for you all; Doms do not like that. In fact,  I have always sought out a female that was smart. Really smart.  You see, no matter how good a Dom spanks, he can not spank you 24/7 non stop..I mean I can’t even do that; 15/7 tops!  lol

 

Ok, back to reality. If you are looking for a Dom, be yourself. That is, if you are smart, do not try and be cute and play dumb. A Dom will see right through that and move on quickly. Speaking for myself, one of the things, yes many things,I love about Bree, is her mind. She is not only smart, but very perceptive and has great insights, especially into the human condition. Dom’s love smart women. Trust me on this. After you have a session, or before, what are you going to talk about? You do not have to be super brain like Bree, but you need to have  some academia in your background. If you feel you are lacking, read or go to school. Even online school.  As a Dom, I like  a subbie that is stimulating. Not only as my D/s partner, but mentally. Now I have more street smarts than Bree   and certainly know more about pop culture than she does. However, just about anything else, and its the Breanna Hayse show all the way, which incidentally, I really dig. It’s always so interesting to talk to her. She surprises me all the time with the stuff she knows, and Doms are never intimidated by smart women. Its a big D/s perk for you.

 

So my lovelies, the way to a vanilla guys heart may be through his stomach. And though  Bree happens to be a gourmet cook,  thats beside the point. The way to a Doms heart, is through his brain.That, and having a nice spankable bottom  doesn’t hurt. lol

 

So ladies, never ever dumb it down for a Dom. That will get you nothing. Certainly not the red bottom you are Jonsing for. With a real Dom, a subbie with a brain is practically irresistible.

 

Be good or else!

 

SJ

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Alternative Punishments for Bad Subbies..

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Hello lovelies, what? You did not know I had cages for when Bree and Nikki are really out of control?  lol I wonder how many of you bought that? Come on I am not that desade,  and anyway thats a bit big for my punishment room…

OK, so this post is about  other punishments for bad subbies. Now you all know me pretty well by now, and you know I love to spnk ..I own that with no reservations… But sometimes other means can be effective also. And  just to make a point some Doms will punish even if the skin is broken. I do not, so what to do if the sub still needs punishment? Well, A sub can be grounded. Yes you read right.  It’s rather humilliating and certainly not as effective as a bb punishment, (what is right?) but it has its place.  I also like corner time as a punishment….Now with this, you have many options. The sub can be bentover displaying her red bb, or in sub position bb up,  or the english  favorite hands on head skirt up panties down. Now I am not a proponent of some other dom methods; soaping, figging, etc.  Not judging,  just not my thing.There is also a very good punishment that involves being in sub position,I must admit I enjoy this position presented to me. BB up. Especilly if there are nice cane stripes. However to add to this humiliation,  I order the writing of lines in long hand and with a time limit..If the lines are not written in time,  the sub is in perfect position for some paddle motivation, unless the skin is broken. If thats the case,  I might play a Kenny G record or something..  I know its really desade but what can I say?

Now best case dom scenrio? For the start of a session subbie in postion bb up  and asking for discipline. Then, sound punishment session and corner time with flaming red bb, and a sincere thank you Sir apology.

It’s good to be the Dom. Be good or else…

SJ

Reminder Spankings…

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Hello lovelies. As you all know, I am married to the famous Breanna Hayse. I am going to let you all peek into the window of our world for a very special moment …No, stop giggling. Not that kind of moment… Now settle down, this should be interesting to you all, and hopefully educational.

Bree is of course, one of the best authors on the planet. She is also smart. I mean Mensa, Big Bang smart.  Beautiful, funny, with a heart that is the biggest I have ever encountered.  And last but certainly not least, very, very spankable.  However, there  are times a Dom must reenforce his position as alpha in the D/s dynamic, even if, as in Brees case, she is well behaved 99% of the time.  It’s not a punishment, just a reminder to the sub, or in this case Bree. She may be famous and have tons of fans, etc. but she is still first and foremost my submissive. So I decided to have a session with Bree to illustrate this. Did she want to? No, but thats the point, is it not? Total submission.

So I started by telling her to assume the sub position on the bed and wait. She did so right away, bb up, as I lectured her on who owned her bb and who it is she is submissive to.  I had also decided this would be an evaluation of sorts. Bree has been training with me many, many years. Therefore I was sure her behavior would demonstrate what all subbies should aspire to.  She did not disappoint. I informed her to come otk, bb up. I instructed her to place her palms flat on the floor. She was to receive 50 hand spanks.  Not punishment velocity, but sound. If she moved out of position even on number 49, all would start over.  She did very well holding her position and getting a cherry red bottom. I really only used maybe 15% of spanking force, but it still had her teary eyed. Now hold on before I get the Mr. Meanie chant,  and you light torches and storm the castle…Listen, I never said I did not have a sadistic streak, and I love seeing Brees bb cherry red. especially if I just painted it with my hand. Tears are moot. This is total submission ..Ok, back in position. I then informed her she would get 15 in the same position with the wood paddle. Same rules.  The tears were flowing a little more but, she held her position. I was so proud of her.  But the biggest test was yet to come.  Drum roll please………….6 of the best- school cane- in sub position.   Not very hard but a cane does not have to be hard to impart a good sting. I must say, she was very good. However, she did cry. I then asked again who owns your bottom?  She answered tearfully “you do Sir.” Who is your Dom? “you are sir” etc.

Her bottom was now a beautiful crimson red, with a few cane stripes. She was as perfect a compliant subbie as any Dom could want. An example all of you should aspire to. There were then hugs, kisses, and after care, and praise.  I am so proud to call her my submissive, and honored to be her Dom

Still think I am Mr. Meanie? Put out those torches and get to bed!

Be good or else.

SJ

How To Spot A Dom

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Hello my lovelies,…are we all behaving?  No- that was rhetorical.  lol OK a lot of you have been asking me, sir  how do I spot a Dom?  At a party or club etc? Well sorry to tell you ladies, we do not wear a big ‘D’ on our chests, or carry a crop in our back pocket.

So how do you spot a Dom? Let me illustrate something for you. I watch movies. A lot of movies. And occasionally they get it right- as far as  depicting a true Dom/sub interaction. I am thinking about one movie in particular that really nailed it. You may be surprised at what I am about to say, but as always, hang in there and all will be revealed. The interaction between Anthony Hopkins and Jodie Foster in…Drum roll please………….Silence Of The Lambs!!  OK, just calm down and hear me out. I mean sure he was a psycho and killed and ate his victims, but nobody’s perfect right?

Ok seriously, here is the deal. From the first time Clarice lays eyes on Hannibal,  if you watch carefully, he already has her. She is mesmerized. Even knowing he is a dangerous killer, she still cannot deny his vibe, his power, and control. He does not have to raise his voice, move around etc..He is totally calm and in control. She is an intelligent woman and she is reduced to a shivering mass. She may not know why yet, but  she cannot take her eyes off him, and she is immediately compliant.

Now  Anthony Hopkins is a genius actor, but he does not look like Brad Pitt (or whoever you find hot these days).  Looks have nothing to do with the true Dom vibe. If a Dom is good looking, its a plus, but not a necessity. So what does this have to do with spotting a Dom? If you see someone or someone says hello to you, if he is a Dom you will feel like Clarice staring,  mesmerized, and powerless. You may think I am exaggerating, but trust me, I am not.

Now there is another way you can test if a guy is a Dom, or at least trying… Be a brat. When he calls you on it,  say something like “well what are you going to do about it, spank me?”  The answer will leave no doubt but thats not nearly as exciting as a Dom just looking at you, and you melting.  You need to see a Doms eyes. If you re watching Silence again, (and if you are discovering your sub side, you should) look at Hannibals eyes and how he draws Clarice in without even trying.

So  it starts with the eyes.If you do not feel that weak in the knees, fluttering heart, shortness of breath…Keep looking.

As always be good or else!

SJ

Safe Words of Wisdom From SJ

 

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OK lovelies, here is something that (if it hasn’t already)  may come up. Most sites will tell you  to always have a safe word. While I get that its hardly that simple,  lets imagine a scenario.  You  have been talking to a prospective Dom. You like each other and  you have talked for about 2 weeks and feel pretty good about him You have mentioned,  or if he is a true dom he has brought up, your need for atonement and accountability. You agree. However, heres the deal ..If you are meeting for true punishment, for true misbehaviors, a safe word really takes it out of reality, and more into role play. How can you feel truly punished, if you can stop your spanking whenever you want?

Ok I hear you.  But Sir, he’s a stranger.  If i don’t have some control, what if he goes overboard? Good point. And one you have to weigh with how much you feel you can trust this guy  and how guilty you feel for your behavior. I did alot of in-person sessions before I met Bree, and I told all of them, if this is real accountability then no safe word.  Most understood. Some said no, and I respected that.You see, alot of women came to me complaining that the guy that spanked them stopped way too soon. They did not feel truly punished, so they left frustrated, and even more guilty.

Now lets take a role play scenario, or a sub space session.  This is totally different. In role play, you are pretending to misbehave, so a safe word works as its not reality.  In a sub space session, its all about you. So you can have safe words, and even verbalize what you want.

So bottom (yes pun intended)  line, its up to you. If you do not really trust the guy, you have no buiness being with him any way. Just be safe. And make sure you know what you really want.

Be good or else!

SJ

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