Dommer May I

Hello lovelies,

So todays query is this…Does your Dom give you permission to act out (within reason of course)? Like sassing or semi bratty behavior which would result in a good spanking but not serious punishment? And if so, do you take advantage of the situation?

Personally I have given Bree this option but, she never takes me up on it. I think she does not trust me to not spank her too hard, which for Bree means anything over 5 spanks lol. I am talking a play type situation but she won’t do it.

Do any of you have this same problem? Doms don’t mind a little bratting now and then but, there are always consequences. Bree always whines, “how come there have to be consequences?” Hello! You acted out, and you did it so you could get a nice red bottom. So, why whine when that happens? I’m telling you all its not all paddles and canes being a dom.

That’s my frustrated (Yes, Doms do get frustrated) question of the week.

Be good, or else…

SJ

A Dom’s Dilemma

Hello lovelies,

I got the idea for this post, from one of my subs. How do you punish a masochist? Not as easy as it sounds. Now, in person I can go major de Sade, and bring a hardcore masochist to tears. And yes I have done it but, online that’s a whole other talk show.

Let’s say I am going the de Sade route…If the sub has a spanking machine and an implement she hates that can fit, its possible to make her feel punished. I am just talking physical not mental.

What if she does not have a machine? Well, then a hardcore masochist can’t possibly have the arm stamina to reach de Sade levels.

What to do? The answer is very simple and I stumbled on it purely by experimentation. You do nothing! Let me explain. I have a few hardcore subbie masochists so I decided on a little experiment. Place them bb under or in front of the machine, implement touching their bb and have them reflect for 10 minutes or so, no spanks.

Oh this is truly de Sade punishment for a masochist and so simple. And they end up begging for a spanking, win win for me. Keep this up daily for a week or so and you have one very sorry masochist.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Role with it

Hello lovelies,

The title of today’s post is a pun (imagine that) lol. Here’s my question for you all. Do you like true discipline for real behaviors or do you prefer to have the discipline in the form of role play.

Get it? Role with it? Oh come on that’s good!

For any subbies or wannabe subbies that don’t know the difference, here’s the deal…

True discipline is just that, a real transgression with a real punishment as decided by the Dom. The sub has zero say about how, with what, how severe, etc.

Role play is a whole other animal. The situation and characters are discussed before-hand.

Lol get it? Before. Hand. Man, tough crowd.

Anyway, your Dom could be anything you fantasize about between the two of you; cop, school head master, daddy, principal, office boss. The sub could be any number of characters maid, secretary, errant wife, nurse etc. The big difference is the sub has the power here, as there are usually safe words. A lot of couples starting out, use this method to kind of get a feel of a spanking/paddling that has limits. Subbies love to grab any control they can, however, if you have truly misbehaved this type of scenario will not translate into any kind of true atonement.

So which is it? The real or the fantasy?

Be good, or else…

SJ

To Sit or Not to Sit

Hello lovelies,

All of you fantasize about spanking (oh come on we’re all friends here, you know that’s true) and one of the things that comes up a lot in a subbies fantasy is hearing a Dom or Domme say something like… “Young lady, I am going to spank you until you can’t sit down” or “When I’m done with you, you won’t sit down for a week.”

I will give you all a minute to catch your breaths lol

So, is that really possible? Can you be spanked until you can’t sit down?

Well, it’s much harder than it sounds. A sound spanking, even a hard one, will make it somewhat uncomfortable to sit. A severe spanking, especially if the spanker knows how to concentrate on the sit spots (there’s a reason they are called that lol) and if the spanking involves heavy wood paddles, brushes, and possibly a severe caning then it can be extremely hard to sit.

But, not able to at all? I have to say I have never experienced any sub that that happed to but, I have had emails like these:

Thank you Sir, I had a meeting today at work, they only had wood chairs and it lasted 2 hours! I thought of you every second. No I won’t tell you what I was thinking.

or

I slept on my stomach last night and my drive to work was very painful, especially when I hit a bump in the road.

or one of my favorites

I was so sore at work, I could not sit still and had to constantly lean and squirm. My coworker asked if I threw my back out! I lied and said yes, wait…I’m not getting another spanking for lying am I sir?      

lol I love that one and yes those are true.

Have any of you ever been spanked so you could not sit down? If so, with what, and for what transgressions?

Or more likely, have any of you ever been spanked so you had to sleep on your stomachs, and squirm around on your chair at work?  Same question, with what and, for what?

And just for your edifications it is possible to produce a subbies sore bottom like this online.

Be good, or else…

SJ

Lost and Found Re-release

Lance Callahan, MD, is known to his hospital staff as a man with a heart of gold. When a young woman is brought in with a gunshot wound and severe post-traumatic amnesia, Lance is just the man to care for her. No one knows who she is, where she’s from, or why she was left to perish in the unforgiving desert. Even her name, Noelle, is known to Lance only from an inscription on a necklace found in her pocket.

In his effort to help Noelle, Lance determines that due to the trauma she has suffered, the young woman requires retraining to become age-appropriate in all of her activities. Her little girl persona further shocks him when she suddenly claims him as her “Daddy.”

With nowhere else for her to go, Lance turns to his close-knit family for help, and Noelle suddenly finds herself with a new aunt and two new uncles, along with more love than she can handle. She quickly learns that there are some very specific rules in the Callahan home, for both Daddy’s little girl and Lance’s big girl, and that the consequences for breaking the rules include a very red and sore bottom!

Questions remain about Noelle’s past, and as the mystery of her origins slowly unravels, it becomes clear that Noelle has a very special secret of her own… a secret that could tear apart everything she’s learned to love, including the joy of being lost and then found by a man who’s given his heart to her.

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As an author and therapist, I’ve been addressing real life questions for years on my blog. Well, the owners of Kinky Literature have decided that we should no longer keep these to ourselves and have opened their blog for YOU, readers and authors, to field your kinky questions and received an honest and unedited response. ANY and ALL sex related questions are invited…don’t hold anything back either. No question is too kinky, no question is inappropriate and no question can’t be answered honestly and helpfully.

Let’s have some fun!!

 

Oww & Oww

Hello lovelies,

It was good to hear from all of you last week. I’m afraid my question this time will not be one you want to answer, or even think about. All Dom’s are sadistic (to different degrees and depending on different days) since I am in that zone right now, here is my question.

Yes, you have to answer, no running, and please keep the screaming to a minimum. In my current state I do love a subbie’s screams.

Switch or cane?

If you had to pick one or the other for a discipline session, which one?

Hey!!! Come back here, I didn’t say you were getting it now!!! I said IF you were.

Of course, these implements are for serious transgressions only, such as: texting and driving, public displays of bad behavior (rudeness, temper tantrums, etc.) and, speeding. Basically putting yourself or others at risk or displaying behavior in public that would embarrass your Dom.

So, for those of you still with me, which shall it be? A switching or a caning?

Be good, or else…

SJ

Come with me #SatSpanks

We’re back again this Saturday with The General’s Little Angel. Don’t forget to see what everyone else is up to over at Saturday Spankings Blog.

General’s Little Angel

What does age-play really look like and can an independent and intelligent woman really find healing as a submissive in a BDSM relationship?

As General G’s PA, I was privileged to travel and explore many parts of the world. I admit that I was somewhat of a brat, a fact that he discovered very early in our relationship. I was also out of control as I tried to numb myself from my past. General G took it upon himself to be a Daddy to me and my first Dominant as well. He made me face my fears, try exotic foreign foods, and even challenged me to go outside my comfort zone and learn to play–while he played along with me. Despite the trouble I got into (and there was plenty) and the consequences that came of it, I never felt abandoned, unloved or afraid.

This is the true story about my first Dom and my introduction into the age-play dynamic and disciplinare, as well as the background behind what brought me to the place of submission. Many things happened after being taken under my general’s protective (and incredibly patient) wing. He took a young, broken, abused, and unloved little girl and gave her significance and worth through love, firm guidance and boundaries. He made me laugh, helped me to cry, and showed me the power and healing contained within the age-play lifestyle. He made it safe for my inner child to express herself and taught me that it was good to enjoy life.

But no one really knows what happens behind closed doors. This was one of the most difficult books that I have written. It not only brought up many memories, both good and bad, but it also forced me to reveal parts of my past that some might find disturbing. Because of those issues, I felt this story would be a valuable asset to the Breaking Chains© series. It is also the inspiration behind the writing of the Generals’ Daughter and The Captains’ Wives series (coming soon)

I pray that all of you are blessed with at least one person who has positively impacted your life and that you grab every opportunity and positively touch others. Always remember—your words and actions have the power to either heal or kill. Which direction do you choose?
Luvs, (Listen, Understand, Validate with Sincerity)
Bree

All proceeds from sales will be donated to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. With your help, we can bring awareness and healing.

Publishers Note: This is a true story that contains loving age-play and mild BDSM, spanking of adult women, and discussion regarding domestic violence and self-harm.

“Come with me,” he ordered, holding his hand out. He led me into the sleeping portion of the apartment, closed the door behind him, and pointed to the bed. “Sit.”

Pacing back and forth in front of me, his posture demonstrated that he was doing his best to get his temper under control. After about five minutes of silence, he stopped and looked at me.

“I’m very disappointed with you right now.”

“I know.”

“How does that make you feel?”

“Bad. I didn’t do it on purpose.” My voice seemed to become weaker with every word. I wasn’t afraid of him. Quite the contrary, I was feeling very contrite. I wished he would just yell at me already, but LtGen Ray Goodwin never raised his voice unless he was laughing.

Re-release: A Little Journey

Divorced and free, Piper Hillard decides to put as much distance between her ex-husband as she can. She moves to a small suburb of Portland Oregon to begin her new life with plans to get a job, finish collage and buy a house of her own. A chance meeting in a coffee shop with ex-hockey player and sports therapist, Jeoff Stevens, starts a chain of events that make Piper question everything she has ever believed. Jeoff encourages her to pursue her goals while lovingly introducing her to Age-play and the D&S (dominance and submission) lifestyle. He insists that her power and confidence will grow as she learns to let go of her control and submit her heart to him. But none of this makes sense to Piper! Why would a man putting her over his knee and spanking her bare bottom make her feel so safe and loved? How is obeying him any different from her being forced to obey her abusive- ex?

As her questions are answered, she discovers a part of herself that has been missing for years. Her trust grows, as does her ability to get into trouble, and her inner child begins to come forth. Did Jeoff really know what he was getting into when he claimed her as his primary submissive and his Little?

From the Author: There are very few ‘primers’ that are available to welcome and educate ‘newbies’ into the various aspects of the Age-Play/BDSM lifestyle. Instead of giving you, my readers, a dry and indifferent ‘how to’ book, I thought the explanations would be more enjoyable if I wrote about real people in a real situation. The actual characters (and several locations) in this book are fiction, but their lives, questions, experiences and situation.

(This book was previously published as Piper’s Journey Into Submission)

 

To Spank or Not to Spank

Hello lovelies,

I trust the New Year is bringing you good health, financial success, and red bottoms all around.

What do you all think about the following, and before you answer yes, Bree did all these things.

To spank or not to spank:

  1. stealing a Dom’s food
  2. talking during the Dom’s favorite TV show or movie
  3. squirting water on the Dom for no reason
  4. biting the Dom’s leg (this happened OTK so I guess you can say to spank with a paddle or not)
  5. blaming the Dom for losing the keys when it was the subbie
  6. cheating at board games
  7. being a potty mouth
  8. hiding the Dom’s favorite paddle

So my lovelies to spank or not?

Be good, or else…

SJ

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